What’s wrong with me?

Obviously no one here knows me so won’t be able to tell me but how can I find out what’s wrong with me? There’s clearly something wrong with me because literally no girl goes for me. They all just reject me or only want to be friends with me. I’ve asked friends (both guys and girls) and none of them can tell me. They all say they don’t know why and that they think I’m a great guy. 1 or 2 guys have bluntly said it’s because I’m ugly. Is this likely to be true? I’ve also read stuff by life and dating coaches and tried applying their stuff and it doesn’t work for me. Tried improving confidence, pursuing passions and hobbies etc too.

I’m gonna do what most student room losers will not do and not sugar coat and tell you a load of ********.
If your going for girls who are out of your league in terms of attractiveness, then your gonna fail 90% of the time. If girls aren’t interested in you it could be; your not physically attractive, your personality is not that attractive, your neither of these things and are extremely weird so a turn off.
At this age we have a general idea of how good looking we are, and judging by your lack of girls and your friends remarks we can say you aren’t really physically attractive at the moment. Also, your personality of being a really great guy could be a problem. Girls don’t like an easy guy, who will do everything for them. No one likes a simp. Ofcourse you need to be a nice guy, but girls aren’t into weak appearing men sexually it’s not attractive.

What can you do? You need to increase your attractiveness. Take a look at yourself and what features don’t you like. What’s your body like? A guy who is a 5/10 immediately goes to a 7-8/10 just in terms of sexual attractiveness when they are physically fit and muscular. Do you keep yourself tidy, is your hair a mess or do you have acne? Both can be solved and it’s just more strings to your bow.

I agree with this person, maybe not all of his wording per say, but I see where he's coming from.. I still agree with my previous post but..
Of course you should take care of basic things, physically and mentally because yes that will make you more attractive to others but most importantly it will make you feel good about yourself. Keeping clean and tidy, gaining confidence within yourself will come naturally when you focus on yourself. So yeah, I think you've got some decent perspectives.. but one thing I'll say is, don't fake who you are that would be the only issue.
So as far as the advice he's given you "Girls don't like an easy guy" yes that's true, but don't be a complete a-hole either. Be you but a happier better version of you.

Over the years I’ve tried alot of these things. I also gave up for a few years and just focused on having a good life. Other times, I’ve considered the concept of leagues and going for girls who are less sought after by other guys/who don’t get as much attention and I still get rejected or told how much of a great guys am and that they just want to be friends with me. So that’s why I say clearly there’s something wrong with me.

How old are you, if you don't mind me asking? All I can really advice you on is what I told you in my previous posts as I can't know you and your issues personally. There's always been a thing of if you're fixating on something too much, it won't happen. I personally would want to meet someone naturally rather than actively seeking for it. Maybe it just isn't your time, maybe it can come across desperate to some girls, if youre actively asking a lot of them out or approaching them, its almost as if you're not fussy about who. The only reason I've suggested therapy is because you have concerns about there being something wrong with you. Maybe it will give you some insight on how to deal with that and will be able to tell you if you have some difficulties in that area, whether that is autism, or social anxiety etc. who knows, I can't say. There is more to life than girls and as much as I appreciate it can be lonely or make you feel down with rejection maybe its time to just focus on other things for now but if its a big issue in your life, then seeking professional help, a couple of sessions of therapy to get to the problem is a pretty good option. Romantic relationships are never something that can be forced.

If you have female friends, maybe you could ask them to be honest with you, and tell them, from their perspective, what it is about you that makes them just want to be friends with you only? I find if you open up your feelings to people, they tend to do the same back.

If you have female friends, maybe you could ask them to be honest with you, and tell them, from their perspective, what it is about you that makes them just want to be friends with you only? I find if you open up your feelings to people, they tend to do the same back.

The thing about women is, they don't have to find a man visually attractive. If they get to know an ordinary looking man, and like his personality, and see that he is kind, etc. that in itself is enough attraction for them. They then want to be with you, spend time with you, develop feelings for you and the rest develops naturally.

If this is true, then there is clearly something about my personality which is unattractive to 100% of women.

I’m 30. I pretty much have given up and accepted that I’ll never know what it’s like going on a first date with a woman. And I was fine with it for the last few years but I’m not really anymore. And I know that the issue is that I can’t get a date. That’s literally the only reason I’m not happy and I have tried focusing on my life, improving myself etc. No matter how hard I try or how much I don’t try, women I meet just all see me as a platonic friend only. I’ve been rejected by over 100 women in my life.

Ok I understand a little more now knowing your age, not having that experience and stuff must be very frustrating and lonely for you. You aren't alone though, a lot of people do struggle with these things and maybe you just haven't had the right tools for dating. The thing is, being a bit older and not having the experience, you won't always relate or have the qualities maybe people women your age would be looking for.. which sucks but it doesn't mean there aren't women out there who have a similar experience to you. Have you ever tried therapy in relation to this? I think speaking on here about it has been a good step for you but talking to professionals and people who will know more about relationship advice is your best bet. Relationship stuff - continue with coaches and people who personally work with adults who haven't had experiences dating much and for your own personal issues of thinking theres something wrong with you - therapy. Actively do both

Well I don’t know if there’s something wrong with me. But if I’m not getting dates, I’m clearly doing something wrong or there’s something about me which is unattractive to every woman I’ve asked out in my life. I also now tend to ask out women who don’t get that much attention from other guys and I still don’t get anywhere.