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@ZackX#
Thank you so much, Zack!
With regard to washing, Zack, though this might not seem related, are you still living in the same place as your father at the moment? Before you mentioned that you and he were living together, with your mother and sisters back at home - is this still the case? The reason I ask is, if he's with you, what does he do with his clothes?
On second thought, beating the clothes in a bathtub is probably not the best idea, for you might damage the porcelain / bath siding. The Victorians washed their clothes in that sort of way; a tall "dolly tub" (like a barrel, or metal bin!) would be filled with hot, soapy water, and the clothes would be pummelled and beaten inside it with aid of a wooden implement, I think to force the soapy water through the material. (I think the spinning of a washing machine is in line with the same idea.) But Mosaic's way of doing it is far more practical!!! She's explained it far better than I think I could
I hope when your money comes back to you things'll be easier
I don't ever skip jobs that need doing, no! And I would say I am fairly well-travelled. I am lucky enough to have been in my youth across a number of European countries
Oh, and to more specifically answer your question of the other day, I measured myself today, and I am 5', 11.6"! A few millimetres shorter than I thought, in fact - I must not have measured myself fantastically well the last time!
Thank you so much, Zack!
With regard to washing, Zack, though this might not seem related, are you still living in the same place as your father at the moment? Before you mentioned that you and he were living together, with your mother and sisters back at home - is this still the case? The reason I ask is, if he's with you, what does he do with his clothes?
On second thought, beating the clothes in a bathtub is probably not the best idea, for you might damage the porcelain / bath siding. The Victorians washed their clothes in that sort of way; a tall "dolly tub" (like a barrel, or metal bin!) would be filled with hot, soapy water, and the clothes would be pummelled and beaten inside it with aid of a wooden implement, I think to force the soapy water through the material. (I think the spinning of a washing machine is in line with the same idea.) But Mosaic's way of doing it is far more practical!!! She's explained it far better than I think I could
I hope when your money comes back to you things'll be easier
I don't ever skip jobs that need doing, no! And I would say I am fairly well-travelled. I am lucky enough to have been in my youth across a number of European countries
Oh, and to more specifically answer your question of the other day, I measured myself today, and I am 5', 11.6"! A few millimetres shorter than I thought, in fact - I must not have measured myself fantastically well the last time!
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by EVRooseveltOh, that's so lovely to hear!! I wonder how amazed past-you, first posting on TSR, would have been to see a post from present-you!! 
I'm a big one for over-thinking, and when I'm interacting with a nice guy (or even before ever interacting with them! ) I do wonder what things would be like if they worked out perfectly, and whether this guy could be MyPersonβ’, but I never truly expect them to be, if that all makes sense?! So I wonder what past-you would have thought, of learning how wonderfully things worked out!!
Oh, I am precisely the same!!! Being brief, and yet able to impart your ideas successfully, is a skill I do not possess! Truly, I am just the same - I remember a couple of years ago at A-Level, my History coursework came to just under 8,000 words, when it needed to be 4,000 max, and I had to go through, multiple times, and work out how to shorten every single sentence: I was even losing individual adjectives for the sake of getting a word closer to my target!! The dissertation must be like A-Level coursework x 1000!! I hope all the editing goes well!! (And with regard to a job, I know I am biased here with my own (hopeful!) choice of career, but I bet you could easily - easily! - do a "Red, White, and Royal Blue"-esque book, or any sort of book!! Good luck with the search, though, when the time comes! )
I bet his lessons are so looked-forward-to!! Come next year, will he be able to re-use some of them with the next lot of students? Perhaps that'd help out a bit, time-wise Oooh!!!! Whereabouts in Spain are you going, if I might ask? I'm not terribly well-travelled there, but I did love Seville! I hope you both have an amazing time!!
I think you're right, thank you And yes, I quite agree!! My worst fear is ending up a horrid parent - but at this point I don't think I will be; I think I've addressed enough of my stuff to be mostly happy and content! Thank you! That's a good point: I do think, overall, I was quite a lot worse beforehand!! But with me things come in waves, so it can be hard to tell! Like, I'll be a-okay for weeks, and then I'll suddenly have an awful few - but even with those, I'm still net-above where I was! It's an odd one, though, with regard to moving out - my anxiety makes me really despise being alone, and yet I don't much like being with my parents either!! Hopefully I'll have a nice boyfriend by the time I want to go elsewhere!
I wonder how amazed past-you, first posting on TSR, would have been to see a post from present-you!! I'm a big one for over-thinking, and when I'm interacting with a nice guy (or even before ever interacting with them! ) I do wonder what things would be like if they worked out perfectly, and whether this guy could be MyPersonβ’, but I never truly expect them to be, if that all makes sense?! So I wonder what past-you would have thought, of learning how wonderfully things worked out!! Oh, I am precisely the same!!!
Being brief, and yet able to impart your ideas successfully, is a skill I do not possess! Truly, I am just the same - I remember a couple of years ago at A-Level, my History coursework came to just under 8,000 words, when it needed to be 4,000 max, and I had to go through, multiple times, and work out how to shorten every single sentence: I was even losing individual adjectives for the sake of getting a word closer to my target!! The dissertation must be like A-Level coursework x 1000!! I hope all the editing goes well!! (And with regard to a job, I know I am biased here with my own (hopeful!) choice of career, but I bet you could easily - easily! - do a "Red, White, and Royal Blue"-esque book, or any sort of book!! Good luck with the search, though, when the time comes! )I bet his lessons are so looked-forward-to!! Come next year, will he be able to re-use some of them with the next lot of students? Perhaps that'd help out a bit, time-wise
Oooh!!!! Whereabouts in Spain are you going, if I might ask? I'm not terribly well-travelled there, but I did love Seville! I hope you both have an amazing time!!I think you're right, thank you
And yes, I quite agree!! My worst fear is ending up a horrid parent - but at this point I don't think I will be; I think I've addressed enough of my stuff to be mostly happy and content! Thank you! That's a good point: I do think, overall, I was quite a lot worse beforehand!! But with me things come in waves, so it can be hard to tell! Like, I'll be a-okay for weeks, and then I'll suddenly have an awful few - but even with those, I'm still net-above where I was! It's an odd one, though, with regard to moving out - my anxiety makes me really despise being alone, and yet I don't much like being with my parents either!! Hopefully I'll have a nice boyfriend by the time I want to go elsewhere! I used to be just like you, imagining a future with every cute guy I met!! It's honestly crazy though that my first ever date turned out to be my soulmate, I got soooo lucky!
Being a writer honestly sounds like an awesome career but I imagine it's hard, you've got zero income while writing your first book, and I'm not sure I could deal with getting rejected by publishers, my self confidence would plummet
I also quite like the structure of a 9-5, I know people are all about work from home and flexible hours now but it's easier on my brain to go to a workplace, do my job, and then come home and not have to think about work. Of course it might be different if/when we have kids, I could see the benefits of wfh then! Funny you mention Seville, that's one of the places we're going! We're also going to Granada which is nearby
I'm really excited, I've been to other parts of Spain before but I've heard Andalusia is just wonderful!! The weather should also be decent Don't worry about being a bad parent, I'm sure you'll be great when the time comes. The most important thing I think is to be aware of flaws in your parenting style and not jump into having kids but rather have them when you are mentally and financially ready
All that is still far away for both of us so it's something I try not to think about too much! I understand what you mean regarding moving out, I don't like the idea of living alone but then I don't really like living with people either Shared houses as a student were fine but quite awkward at first and you do always end up having problems with your flatmates!Reply 7982
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by EVRoosevelt@ZackX#
Thank you so much, Zack!
With regard to washing, Zack, though this might not seem related, are you still living in the same place as your father at the moment? Before you mentioned that you and he were living together, with your mother and sisters back at home - is this still the case? The reason I ask is, if he's with you, what does he do with his clothes?
On second thought, beating the clothes in a bathtub is probably not the best idea, for you might damage the porcelain / bath siding. The Victorians washed their clothes in that sort of way; a tall "dolly tub" (like a barrel, or metal bin!) would be filled with hot, soapy water, and the clothes would be pummelled and beaten inside it with aid of a wooden implement, I think to force the soapy water through the material. (I think the spinning of a washing machine is in line with the same idea.) But Mosaic's way of doing it is far more practical!!! She's explained it far better than I think I could
I hope when your money comes back to you things'll be easier
I don't ever skip jobs that need doing, no! And I would say I am fairly well-travelled. I am lucky enough to have been in my youth across a number of European countries
Oh, and to more specifically answer your question of the other day, I measured myself today, and I am 5', 11.6"! A few millimetres shorter than I thought, in fact - I must not have measured myself fantastically well the last time!
Thank you so much, Zack!
With regard to washing, Zack, though this might not seem related, are you still living in the same place as your father at the moment? Before you mentioned that you and he were living together, with your mother and sisters back at home - is this still the case? The reason I ask is, if he's with you, what does he do with his clothes?
On second thought, beating the clothes in a bathtub is probably not the best idea, for you might damage the porcelain / bath siding. The Victorians washed their clothes in that sort of way; a tall "dolly tub" (like a barrel, or metal bin!) would be filled with hot, soapy water, and the clothes would be pummelled and beaten inside it with aid of a wooden implement, I think to force the soapy water through the material. (I think the spinning of a washing machine is in line with the same idea.) But Mosaic's way of doing it is far more practical!!! She's explained it far better than I think I could
I hope when your money comes back to you things'll be easier
I don't ever skip jobs that need doing, no! And I would say I am fairly well-travelled. I am lucky enough to have been in my youth across a number of European countries
Oh, and to more specifically answer your question of the other day, I measured myself today, and I am 5', 11.6"! A few millimetres shorter than I thought, in fact - I must not have measured myself fantastically well the last time!
Thank you so much for all your kindness
. You're so lovely, charming and very interesting too - you're a lovely man ted - you're caring, kind, warm, extremely easy going, likeable, charming, relaxing and so fascinating and sweet. I really like talking to you - you're fascinating, very modest, humble and understated, and you explain things and your ideas beautifully- you're refreshing kind and very talented. Your explanations are so intelligent, but remarkably, you're never stuffy, you're so caring and generous and friendly. I think you're great, you're so fabulous. I really appreciate you as a friend, and i know many others do. i hope i'm not putting you off at all - but i just wanted to say thank you- you've brightened up my days a lot with your fabulous opinions.So, if you have travelled abroad lots, does this mean you were financially fortunate as a boy?
If it had been up to you, would you travel lots? Or do you like being at home with your dog? And also are you looking forward to the colder weather next week? My father takes his clothes to my mum's flat, and then washes them there in the machine. But i don't know about mine.
Do you ever entertain the idea of holidaying now with your family or not?
What kind of things do you like to do for leisure during the week?
What A level courses did you do, and did you enjoy them?
Today my mum and dad are unhappy. They think i should've passed my exams years ago, they kept saying " zack, you're extremely f*cking stupid" whilst saying " your sisters will get A levels, both are on track for A grades in their gcse's comfortably, and they've never failed an exam. You have never passed an exam that was in person. " i felt very angry, so we had a argument and i told them it is obvious i am a ******* and therefore becuase I'm disabled, I'm relatively dumb. We had a shouty evening and it's left me angry
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by nathan1403I used to be just like you, imagining a future with every cute guy I met!! It's honestly crazy though that my first ever date turned out to be my soulmate, I got soooo lucky!
Being a writer honestly sounds like an awesome career but I imagine it's hard, you've got zero income while writing your first book, and I'm not sure I could deal with getting rejected by publishers, my self confidence would plummet I also quite like the structure of a 9-5, I know people are all about work from home and flexible hours now but it's easier on my brain to go to a workplace, do my job, and then come home and not have to think about work. Of course it might be different if/when we have kids, I could see the benefits of wfh then!
Funny you mention Seville, that's one of the places we're going! We're also going to Granada which is nearby I'm really excited, I've been to other parts of Spain before but I've heard Andalusia is just wonderful!! The weather should also be decent
Don't worry about being a bad parent, I'm sure you'll be great when the time comes. The most important thing I think is to be aware of flaws in your parenting style and not jump into having kids but rather have them when you are mentally and financially ready All that is still far away for both of us so it's something I try not to think about too much! I understand what you mean regarding moving out, I don't like the idea of living alone but then I don't really like living with people either Shared houses as a student were fine but quite awkward at first and you do always end up having problems with your flatmates!
Being a writer honestly sounds like an awesome career but I imagine it's hard, you've got zero income while writing your first book, and I'm not sure I could deal with getting rejected by publishers, my self confidence would plummet
I also quite like the structure of a 9-5, I know people are all about work from home and flexible hours now but it's easier on my brain to go to a workplace, do my job, and then come home and not have to think about work. Of course it might be different if/when we have kids, I could see the benefits of wfh then! Funny you mention Seville, that's one of the places we're going! We're also going to Granada which is nearby
I'm really excited, I've been to other parts of Spain before but I've heard Andalusia is just wonderful!! The weather should also be decent Don't worry about being a bad parent, I'm sure you'll be great when the time comes. The most important thing I think is to be aware of flaws in your parenting style and not jump into having kids but rather have them when you are mentally and financially ready
All that is still far away for both of us so it's something I try not to think about too much! I understand what you mean regarding moving out, I don't like the idea of living alone but then I don't really like living with people either Shared houses as a student were fine but quite awkward at first and you do always end up having problems with your flatmates!! I know it certainly wasn't an easy road, but it is amazing!! I hope I'll have a similar sort of thing, in terms of only being with one person - but then I suppose I'm so picky that if I found someone I really wanted to be in a relationship with, that relationship would (hopefully!) last!! I've come close once or twice to finding the right person, and I'm sure I'll manage it before long! (I just had a like on Tinder from someone nearby and quite attractive - but the first words in his profile were "Free thinking"... I thought, "Hmm, that normally just means unvaccinated", checked his profile, and yep!! )That is a good point!! I don't buy a lot (only shampoo and the like, really!), but I eat into my savings every time I do!
But whilst I haven't gotten to publishers yet, I haven't found the rejections from literary agents to be too bad - they'll either just flat-out ignore you, or tell you something nice (sometimes!) One woman in particular was quite lovely - I think if she hadn't been so busy she might've taken me on!! I see what you mean! Being able to close the door on work at the end of the day is probably rather a nice thing, whereas if it's just on the laptop you might feel compelled to answer E-Mails, or do a bit more... If all goes to plan, hopefully I should only ever have to work for myself, but if I did have a more formal job, I certainly wouldn't be an 'above and beyond' employee!! I quite resent capitalism!Ooooh!!! I hope you've a wonderful time!!
I'm trying to think what I did in Seville, just in case you need tourist-y recommendations! I remember they don't speak a lot of English there (or didn't seem to, though I don't mean to slight them for it!), and I was rather glad at the time, as I'd just done my GCSEs and had an alright Spanish-knowledge! And I remember going up the the... Giralda, I've just Googled the name! I'll just have a look at my diary and see what else I did...Ah, right! I went to the cathedral, which is attached to the Giralda (you get good views up the Giralda, but the queue is long!), but I haven't many memories of it, and so I can't attest as to its quality!
There's an enormous park in the middle of Seville, in which you could hire pedal cars (!), and the park connects, I think, to the Plaza de Espana, which is really worth seeing, if you're intrigued! (I think horse-and-cart rides go through the park, too.) There are a number of sightseeing river-boats, I think, but I didn't go on one - oh, and I went to this building that had served as a hospital for elderly priest, years ago?! I wouldn't particularly recommend that, though it was fine, I'm sure!! I'm glad the weather should be good!!Thank you so much!!
That's good advice, thank you! I'll always want my future children to be able to come to me and tell me if there's something I could be doing better - and I mean that quite genuinely!! (I am a bit the opposite though on the matter of thinking about it!! I have names picked out already! ) ! I'm sure! I think I've had a little of the flatmate experience just dealing with my brother during the pandemic - but perhaps he wasn't quite to the extent of a bad flatmate!! Original post
by ZackX#Thank you so much for all your kindness. You're so lovely, charming and very interesting too - you're a lovely man ted - you're caring, kind, warm, extremely easy going, likeable, charming, relaxing and so fascinating and sweet. I really like talking to you - you're fascinating, very modest, humble and understated, and you explain things and your ideas beautifully- you're refreshing kind and very talented. Your explanations are so intelligent, but remarkably, you're never stuffy, you're so caring and generous and friendly. I think you're great, you're so fabulous. I really appreciate you as a friend, and i know many others do. i hope i'm not putting you off at all - but i just wanted to say thank you- you've brightened up my days a lot with your fabulous opinions.
So, if you have travelled abroad lots, does this mean you were financially fortunate as a boy?
If it had been up to you, would you travel lots? Or do you like being at home with your dog? And also are you looking forward to the colder weather next week? My father takes his clothes to my mum's flat, and then washes them there in the machine. But i don't know about mine.
Do you ever entertain the idea of holidaying now with your family or not?
What kind of things do you like to do for leisure during the week?
What A level courses did you do, and did you enjoy them?
Today my mum and dad are unhappy. They think i should've passed my exams years ago, they kept saying " zack, you're extremely f*cking stupid" whilst saying " your sisters will get A levels, both are on track for A grades in their gcse's comfortably, and they've never failed an exam. You have never passed an exam that was in person. " i felt very angry, so we had a argument and i told them it is obvious i am a ******* and therefore becuase I'm disabled, I'm relatively dumb. We had a shouty evening and it's left me angry
. You're so lovely, charming and very interesting too - you're a lovely man ted - you're caring, kind, warm, extremely easy going, likeable, charming, relaxing and so fascinating and sweet. I really like talking to you - you're fascinating, very modest, humble and understated, and you explain things and your ideas beautifully- you're refreshing kind and very talented. Your explanations are so intelligent, but remarkably, you're never stuffy, you're so caring and generous and friendly. I think you're great, you're so fabulous. I really appreciate you as a friend, and i know many others do. i hope i'm not putting you off at all - but i just wanted to say thank you- you've brightened up my days a lot with your fabulous opinions.So, if you have travelled abroad lots, does this mean you were financially fortunate as a boy?
If it had been up to you, would you travel lots? Or do you like being at home with your dog? And also are you looking forward to the colder weather next week? My father takes his clothes to my mum's flat, and then washes them there in the machine. But i don't know about mine.
Do you ever entertain the idea of holidaying now with your family or not?
What kind of things do you like to do for leisure during the week?
What A level courses did you do, and did you enjoy them?
Today my mum and dad are unhappy. They think i should've passed my exams years ago, they kept saying " zack, you're extremely f*cking stupid" whilst saying " your sisters will get A levels, both are on track for A grades in their gcse's comfortably, and they've never failed an exam. You have never passed an exam that was in person. " i felt very angry, so we had a argument and i told them it is obvious i am a ******* and therefore becuase I'm disabled, I'm relatively dumb. We had a shouty evening and it's left me angry
Oh, thank you so much, Zack!! I do appreciate your words, thank you!!I was more fortunate than others, certainly, and I acknowledge that: we'd normally go abroad once a year, to France, or Spain, or Sweden where my Uncle lived
I don't think I'd travel loads, even in an ideal world - twice a year, perhaps? I do like my routines, but I also like a well-planned holiday, and so if I were to go all the time, I doubt I'd be planning as much as I'd care to!! Perhaps I'd go on more domestic holidays, though
Ah, I see - is there any chance he'd take your clothes if you asked? I don't ask this with any illusions about his character, though.
I did Politics, English Literature, and History at A-Level
I enjoyed History and Politics, but I just wasn't that good at EL!! Plus I was spending my days writing a book, and not doing a lot of studying, which didn't help my disdain for the subject!! I'm so sorry to hear of their horrid comments
I don't think you're dumb in the least, Zack - exams aren't any measure of intelligence; I once read an account of a young American man who had the highest IQ in his state, and who failed High School the same year. Exams are a very rigid way of testing that some people excel at by virtue of knowing what the examiner wants them to say!! Their comments are ignorant, and I'm sorry they've angered you - I would feel just the same.I hope you've a better day tomorrow!
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by EVRoosevelt! I know it certainly wasn't an easy road, but it is amazing!! I hope I'll have a similar sort of thing, in terms of only being with one person - but then I suppose I'm so picky that if I found someone I really wanted to be in a relationship with, that relationship would (hopefully!) last!! I've come close once or twice to finding the right person, and I'm sure I'll manage it before long! (I just had a like on Tinder from someone nearby and quite attractive - but the first words in his profile were "Free thinking"... I thought, "Hmm, that normally just means unvaccinated", checked his profile, and yep!! )That is a good point!! I don't buy a lot (only shampoo and the like, really!), but I eat into my savings every time I do!
But whilst I haven't gotten to publishers yet, I haven't found the rejections from literary agents to be too bad - they'll either just flat-out ignore you, or tell you something nice (sometimes!) One woman in particular was quite lovely - I think if she hadn't been so busy she might've taken me on!! I see what you mean! Being able to close the door on work at the end of the day is probably rather a nice thing, whereas if it's just on the laptop you might feel compelled to answer E-Mails, or do a bit more... If all goes to plan, hopefully I should only ever have to work for myself, but if I did have a more formal job, I certainly wouldn't be an 'above and beyond' employee!! I quite resent capitalism!Ooooh!!! I hope you've a wonderful time!!
I'm trying to think what I did in Seville, just in case you need tourist-y recommendations! I remember they don't speak a lot of English there (or didn't seem to, though I don't mean to slight them for it!), and I was rather glad at the time, as I'd just done my GCSEs and had an alright Spanish-knowledge! And I remember going up the the... Giralda, I've just Googled the name! I'll just have a look at my diary and see what else I did...Ah, right! I went to the cathedral, which is attached to the Giralda (you get good views up the Giralda, but the queue is long!), but I haven't many memories of it, and so I can't attest as to its quality!
There's an enormous park in the middle of Seville, in which you could hire pedal cars (!), and the park connects, I think, to the Plaza de Espana, which is really worth seeing, if you're intrigued! (I think horse-and-cart rides go through the park, too.) There are a number of sightseeing river-boats, I think, but I didn't go on one - oh, and I went to this building that had served as a hospital for elderly priest, years ago?! I wouldn't particularly recommend that, though it was fine, I'm sure!! I'm glad the weather should be good!!Thank you so much!!
That's good advice, thank you! I'll always want my future children to be able to come to me and tell me if there's something I could be doing better - and I mean that quite genuinely!! (I am a bit the opposite though on the matter of thinking about it!! I have names picked out already! ) ! I'm sure! I think I've had a little of the flatmate experience just dealing with my brother during the pandemic - but perhaps he wasn't quite to the extent of a bad flatmate!! Oh, thank you so much, Zack!! I do appreciate your words, thank you!!I was more fortunate than others, certainly, and I acknowledge that: we'd normally go abroad once a year, to France, or Spain, or Sweden where my Uncle lived
I don't think I'd travel loads, even in an ideal world - twice a year, perhaps? I do like my routines, but I also like a well-planned holiday, and so if I were to go all the time, I doubt I'd be planning as much as I'd care to!! Perhaps I'd go on more domestic holidays, though
Ah, I see - is there any chance he'd take your clothes if you asked? I don't ask this with any illusions about his character, though.
I did Politics, English Literature, and History at A-Level
I enjoyed History and Politics, but I just wasn't that good at EL!! Plus I was spending my days writing a book, and not doing a lot of studying, which didn't help my disdain for the subject!! I'm so sorry to hear of their horrid comments
I don't think you're dumb in the least, Zack - exams aren't any measure of intelligence; I once read an account of a young American man who had the highest IQ in his state, and who failed High School the same year. Exams are a very rigid way of testing that some people excel at by virtue of knowing what the examiner wants them to say!! Their comments are ignorant, and I'm sorry they've angered you - I would feel just the same.I hope you've a better day tomorrow!
Thank you
you are so kind, thank you. You're really lovely, funny, kind, affable, caring, wonderfully adaptable, witty, smart, exceptionally kind and gentle - you're a great friend, and a really lovely man to anyone - i really admire you, i think you're so so funny and lovely. Just so great to talk to you thank you. As i said you're so kind and generous, and i think you will make a lovely boyfriend when it happens. You're so fabulous, there is nothing not to like about you.
I went today for a walk and it cheered me up
How are you today? How did you feel?
Where did you visit in spain? I have only been on few holidays in my life, i am a lower working class gutter rat, a prole, so i don't get away much - but i have been to santiago de compostela, in spain before - where people go for pilgrimages and such like.
Oh he might, but they never return for weeks if he did take them. I'm banned from visiting my sisters and my mum - i don't see them anymore and haven't for months. If i ask, my dad tells me to not ask again and he says " they don't live with us and they don't want to see you"
So do you like the idea of a budget holiday or luxury breaks?
What kind of shampoo do you like to buy? do you ever buy food? i do, but the situation is very tight again, i am struggling financially.
Are you looking forward to the colder weather?
Why do you resent capitalism? Do you think there are any benefits?
Do you think you have ever held yourself back in a search for a relationship? When you're picky, what is the most important factor for you that you'd like to fulfil?
So do you look back happily on your a level sixth form years?
why did you dress smartly for sixth form, if you did?
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by ZackX#Thank you you are so kind, thank you. You're really lovely, funny, kind, affable, caring, wonderfully adaptable, witty, smart, exceptionally kind and gentle - you're a great friend, and a really lovely man to anyone - i really admire you, i think you're so so funny and lovely. Just so great to talk to you
thank you. As i said you're so kind and generous, and i think you will make a lovely boyfriend when it happens. You're so fabulous, there is nothing not to like about you.
I went today for a walk and it cheered me up
How are you today? How did you feel?
Where did you visit in spain? I have only been on few holidays in my life, i am a lower working class gutter rat, a prole, so i don't get away much - but i have been to santiago de compostela, in spain before - where people go for pilgrimages and such like.
Oh he might, but they never return for weeks if he did take them. I'm banned from visiting my sisters and my mum - i don't see them anymore and haven't for months. If i ask, my dad tells me to not ask again and he says " they don't live with us and they don't want to see you"
So do you like the idea of a budget holiday or luxury breaks?
What kind of shampoo do you like to buy? do you ever buy food? i do, but the situation is very tight again, i am struggling financially.
Are you looking forward to the colder weather?
Why do you resent capitalism? Do you think there are any benefits?
Do you think you have ever held yourself back in a search for a relationship? When you're picky, what is the most important factor for you that you'd like to fulfil?
So do you look back happily on your a level sixth form years?
why did you dress smartly for sixth form, if you did?
you are so kind, thank you. You're really lovely, funny, kind, affable, caring, wonderfully adaptable, witty, smart, exceptionally kind and gentle - you're a great friend, and a really lovely man to anyone - i really admire you, i think you're so so funny and lovely. Just so great to talk to you thank you. As i said you're so kind and generous, and i think you will make a lovely boyfriend when it happens. You're so fabulous, there is nothing not to like about you.
I went today for a walk and it cheered me up
How are you today? How did you feel?
Where did you visit in spain? I have only been on few holidays in my life, i am a lower working class gutter rat, a prole, so i don't get away much - but i have been to santiago de compostela, in spain before - where people go for pilgrimages and such like.
Oh he might, but they never return for weeks if he did take them. I'm banned from visiting my sisters and my mum - i don't see them anymore and haven't for months. If i ask, my dad tells me to not ask again and he says " they don't live with us and they don't want to see you"
So do you like the idea of a budget holiday or luxury breaks?
What kind of shampoo do you like to buy? do you ever buy food? i do, but the situation is very tight again, i am struggling financially.
Are you looking forward to the colder weather?
Why do you resent capitalism? Do you think there are any benefits?
Do you think you have ever held yourself back in a search for a relationship? When you're picky, what is the most important factor for you that you'd like to fulfil?
So do you look back happily on your a level sixth form years?
why did you dress smartly for sixth form, if you did?
Thank you, Zack!! You're very kind - though I'm sure there are plenty of things not to like about me!! I'm glad going out for the walk helped, I find the same sometimes I've felt quite alright today, thank you
When I was five, I went to Majorca; and then at about the age of 10 I went to a suburb of Malaga. Then, lastly, four years ago, I went to Seville
Ah, that must have been a fascinating place! Do you know why it is that people go on pilgrimages there; is there a saint or someone who's from there? I know, from the radio, people do 'the camino' in that bit of Spain, the long walk - but I don't know why!! Ah, I see. I'm sure your sisters do want to see you, Zack, but I don't imagine your father'd say so. One day, I'm sure, when they're older, they'll realise the distinct way in which your parents treat you, and they'll come and see you of their own accord
Well, I'm never one for extravagance, and so I'd be more towards the side of a budget holiday, but, had I the means, I wouldn't be budget for budget's sake
I tend to buy "Faith in Nature" stuff, as their products are all vegan.As I perceive the matter, the aim of capitalism is the accumulation of capital - and so there's no regard for people, particularly for those hurt by others' accumulation of capital. As a result, I see no benefits to the system over one that would put people first.
I don't think I've held myself back, because anyone who didn't meet my rather stringent set of criteria, I probably wouldn't want to be with in the first place!!
Sixth form doesn't really hold too much place in my mind, given that I was only there six months before the first lockdown! How odd, however, to think that the better part of four years ago...!
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by EVRoosevelt Thank you, Zack!! You're very kind - though I'm sure there are plenty of things not to like about me!! I'm glad going out for the walk helped, I find the same sometimes I've felt quite alright today, thank you
When I was five, I went to Majorca; and then at about the age of 10 I went to a suburb of Malaga. Then, lastly, four years ago, I went to Seville
Ah, that must have been a fascinating place! Do you know why it is that people go on pilgrimages there; is there a saint or someone who's from there? I know, from the radio, people do 'the camino' in that bit of Spain, the long walk - but I don't know why!! Ah, I see. I'm sure your sisters do want to see you, Zack, but I don't imagine your father'd say so. One day, I'm sure, when they're older, they'll realise the distinct way in which your parents treat you, and they'll come and see you of their own accord
Well, I'm never one for extravagance, and so I'd be more towards the side of a budget holiday, but, had I the means, I wouldn't be budget for budget's sake
I tend to buy "Faith in Nature" stuff, as their products are all vegan.As I perceive the matter, the aim of capitalism is the accumulation of capital - and so there's no regard for people, particularly for those hurt by others' accumulation of capital. As a result, I see no benefits to the system over one that would put people first.
I don't think I've held myself back, because anyone who didn't meet my rather stringent set of criteria, I probably wouldn't want to be with in the first place!!
Sixth form doesn't really hold too much place in my mind, given that I was only there six months before the first lockdown! How odd, however, to think that the better part of four years ago...!
Oh thank you very much - you're very nice - i always feel happy reading your posts - you make me really quite happy and joyful, thank you very much. You're a lovely man, like i said. You're very likeable, friendly and kind. You're so selfless, funny, reserved and bright and very good natured, mild, a very philanthropic, rational, kind hearted and sweet individual. I think you're a lovely friend and i admire your care, concern, loyalty, liberal and affable nature, you're very humanitarian too. You are definitely well liked here, with good reason. I don't think there is something not to like about you
, why do you think that?I am finding it very difficult after the death of my aunt. Really quite difficult to deal with it, knowing i will never see her again
Do you think there are any good things to come out of capitalism?
Do you ever think you can change the criteria according to the man you're looking to or not?
Does your family have a car?
Yes, there is some kind of famous religious person who did the pilgrimage to santiago de compostela - But it is a pretty place - very nice cobbled streets to walk in the town.
So you say you finished your A levels in 2021, did you study entirely from home?
Maybe they will, but my dad says he prefers to keep the girls and boys separate. Idk why?
Do you ever fantasize about having a boyfriend, if it is not rude to ask?
It is my birthday on friday - i feel sad about having wasted my teen years, the best years, and they've not been what i wanted.
How did you tell your family about your sexuality, if it's not intrusive to ask?
Do you think autism is an intellectual problem? (my dad said it is - he thinks it has severely limited me and stopped me reaching any kind of success a non disabled person would have done with his support, he said) do you think so too? Or do you think it has then stopped me from passing exams or so on?
Are you looking forward to the colder weather next week?
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@ZackX#
Thank you Zack!! Oh, I only mean that everyone will have their irritating traits, myself included!!
I'm sorry to hear you're finding things hard at the moment It must still feel very fresh - I do hope, that with time, the pain will slowly begin to ease, and you'll be able to feel comforted by all the good memories you have of her
My parents have cars, and my brother inherited my grandfather's, but I don't have anything to do with them!
Ah, I see - it sounds very pleasant! I do like older architecture, and cobbled streets are always very aesthetic! I suppose they contrast nicely with the more bland pavements and roads of today - though I do understand why it would be impractical to cobble the roads we want to drive on!
I did study entirely from home, from March 2020 till the end of my A-Levels
I'm sure they will as older teenagers, Zack, and as adults - they will want to see you, and know you, I'm sure! Your father keeping you separate sounds as though it could be part of a control complex - he always seems to want to have complete control over you, and over everything.
I don't think you've wasted your years, Zack, for 'waste' would imply deliberacy on your part - and you haven't had a lot of say in how your life's been run and managed up till now - hopefully when your money is returned to you, you'll be able to have more freedom I do hope Friday's a good day for you, and I wish you a Happy Birthday in advance!
I don't think autism is a problem of any sort, Zack Your father is no authority in this matter, merely a loudmouth with an opinion! If he were an authority, I would imagine he'd hold a PhD in a relevant field!! Till the day he does, I don't think his words mean much at all!
I am neither looking forward to the colder weather, nor do I resent its arrival, to be contrary! As long as I'm not hot, I'm content! This week's been fine enough, and so will the next
Thank you Zack!!
Oh, I only mean that everyone will have their irritating traits, myself included!! I'm sorry to hear you're finding things hard at the moment
It must still feel very fresh - I do hope, that with time, the pain will slowly begin to ease, and you'll be able to feel comforted by all the good memories you have of her My parents have cars, and my brother inherited my grandfather's, but I don't have anything to do with them!
Ah, I see - it sounds very pleasant! I do like older architecture, and cobbled streets are always very aesthetic! I suppose they contrast nicely with the more bland pavements and roads of today - though I do understand why it would be impractical to cobble the roads we want to drive on!
I did study entirely from home, from March 2020 till the end of my A-Levels
I'm sure they will as older teenagers, Zack, and as adults - they will want to see you, and know you, I'm sure! Your father keeping you separate sounds as though it could be part of a control complex - he always seems to want to have complete control over you, and over everything.
I don't think you've wasted your years, Zack, for 'waste' would imply deliberacy on your part - and you haven't had a lot of say in how your life's been run and managed up till now - hopefully when your money is returned to you, you'll be able to have more freedom
I do hope Friday's a good day for you, and I wish you a Happy Birthday in advance! I don't think autism is a problem of any sort, Zack
Your father is no authority in this matter, merely a loudmouth with an opinion! If he were an authority, I would imagine he'd hold a PhD in a relevant field!! Till the day he does, I don't think his words mean much at all!I am neither looking forward to the colder weather, nor do I resent its arrival, to be contrary!
As long as I'm not hot, I'm content! This week's been fine enough, and so will the next Reply 7988
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by EVRoosevelt@ZackX#
Thank you Zack!! Oh, I only mean that everyone will have their irritating traits, myself included!!
I'm sorry to hear you're finding things hard at the moment It must still feel very fresh - I do hope, that with time, the pain will slowly begin to ease, and you'll be able to feel comforted by all the good memories you have of her
My parents have cars, and my brother inherited my grandfather's, but I don't have anything to do with them!
Ah, I see - it sounds very pleasant! I do like older architecture, and cobbled streets are always very aesthetic! I suppose they contrast nicely with the more bland pavements and roads of today - though I do understand why it would be impractical to cobble the roads we want to drive on!
I did study entirely from home, from March 2020 till the end of my A-Levels
I'm sure they will as older teenagers, Zack, and as adults - they will want to see you, and know you, I'm sure! Your father keeping you separate sounds as though it could be part of a control complex - he always seems to want to have complete control over you, and over everything.
I don't think you've wasted your years, Zack, for 'waste' would imply deliberacy on your part - and you haven't had a lot of say in how your life's been run and managed up till now - hopefully when your money is returned to you, you'll be able to have more freedom I do hope Friday's a good day for you, and I wish you a Happy Birthday in advance!
I don't think autism is a problem of any sort, Zack Your father is no authority in this matter, merely a loudmouth with an opinion! If he were an authority, I would imagine he'd hold a PhD in a relevant field!! Till the day he does, I don't think his words mean much at all!
I am neither looking forward to the colder weather, nor do I resent its arrival, to be contrary! As long as I'm not hot, I'm content! This week's been fine enough, and so will the next
Thank you Zack!!
Oh, I only mean that everyone will have their irritating traits, myself included!! I'm sorry to hear you're finding things hard at the moment
It must still feel very fresh - I do hope, that with time, the pain will slowly begin to ease, and you'll be able to feel comforted by all the good memories you have of her My parents have cars, and my brother inherited my grandfather's, but I don't have anything to do with them!
Ah, I see - it sounds very pleasant! I do like older architecture, and cobbled streets are always very aesthetic! I suppose they contrast nicely with the more bland pavements and roads of today - though I do understand why it would be impractical to cobble the roads we want to drive on!
I did study entirely from home, from March 2020 till the end of my A-Levels
I'm sure they will as older teenagers, Zack, and as adults - they will want to see you, and know you, I'm sure! Your father keeping you separate sounds as though it could be part of a control complex - he always seems to want to have complete control over you, and over everything.
I don't think you've wasted your years, Zack, for 'waste' would imply deliberacy on your part - and you haven't had a lot of say in how your life's been run and managed up till now - hopefully when your money is returned to you, you'll be able to have more freedom
I do hope Friday's a good day for you, and I wish you a Happy Birthday in advance! I don't think autism is a problem of any sort, Zack
Your father is no authority in this matter, merely a loudmouth with an opinion! If he were an authority, I would imagine he'd hold a PhD in a relevant field!! Till the day he does, I don't think his words mean much at all!I am neither looking forward to the colder weather, nor do I resent its arrival, to be contrary!
As long as I'm not hot, I'm content! This week's been fine enough, and so will the next Thank you for your kind birthday wishes to me - i am very grateful ted. I do not think i would be here today without your wonderful, simply beautiful help and your lovely personality
i am very grateful to talk to someone as kind as you - you're very lovely and sweet, you have a great, lovely, beautiful personality, and a terribly humble way about yourself - you're very humble, sensitive,warm and extraordinarily talented, very kind and always thoughtful - your personality and harmonious, gentle, caring soul is such a blessing for us here. I'm very fortunate to have you here. You aren't irritating - you're truly brilliant, truly fabulous, truly kind and truly fair and such a sweet guy, too. You have such a superb personality and kindness, it really makes me happy. You're really friendly, have a wonderful personality and beautiful manner, kindness, care. You're a lovely guy and a really sweet friend I have had my birthday, but my aunt is on my mind a lot - she did say just a month previous on september the 13th that it was a month away and that she would call me and talk to me on my 20th birthday and that we could perhaps see each other in the new year in finland. She was very caring, very friendly and always too kind to me. Very tolerant, and very modern as a person. I cannot believe it, i cannot. Why is she gone? Why her? Then last month on the 25th, When i heard the news i could hardly believe it. I cannot even now wrap my head around it. I remember those terrible days, the days i re-live in my head every waking moment. I can't bear it. I remember the final evening, saying goodbye to her, just why did she have to go?????
The next morning, they called me after calling my other family members to say she was gone. I remember just feeling like a train had run through me.
I relive this moment every day... what could have been done? I miss her very much.
How do you feel today?
So do you think autism has no bearing on an individual's life? Or some impact, or significant? Do you think being disabled, or having any impairment, e.g down syndrome for example, do you think this is a burden on the individual? Is it wrong to feel bad for them having to deal with things or not?
How has your day been? Have you cooked at all today? Have you cleaned?
Today i'm feeling very upset and disappointed about my life. 20 years old, never had a boyfriend, never had many friends, never had any kind of sexual intercourse(if you don't count forced d*** cutting rituals as a child, which has harmed me so much i will need a second operation to be able to use the toilet properly, as it's very painful now. I'm heartbroken over this, and the sheer lack of support) i'm grotesquely ugly, miserable, undesirable, greedy, lazy, arrogant, boring, dull,and old, mean, and very selfish, i'm very negative, standoffish, boring and have zero value.
I see no way in which i will ever have some of the things that people desire and hope for in their lifetimes. I am simply a manchild, a toddler like mind with a child's body. It's humiliating to be here in life. ***** humiliating. I can't drive, can't wash my own clothes easily, can't clean my bedding easily, can't cook, can't do simple tasks, am very unproductive, am extremely dull, rude and i don't see why anyone would like to even talk to me in the future? I can't be financially well off, can't ever be similar to the other guys my age, and that is so upsetting. That breaks my heart. People don't understand how badly certain things have affected my health, i censor my views so as not to embarrass others, but i'm suffering badly and have done for a long time now. It's so dehumanizing and humiliating to have no real good outcome possible in my life journey. That just breaks the heart into millions of pieces, and i have to live with grief and pain, and awful financial struggles. I really feel absolutely heartbroken, and i can't accept i will feel grief forever and live with it for the rest of my life. I can't
Do you spend time to think and relax or lie down, sit down by yourself at all?
My dad said the only reason i have mental health issues is because of " autistic desires and autistic perspectives on situations" and he said " you think you're special and you think you deserve more rights than other people"
I can't express how gutted i am. I just want someone to help me, i'm suffering.
I'm sorry about last nights post, i was emotional and disappointed.
Sorry to be so negative and bring you down too.
So if you could have all the money in the world, would you still be frugal as a matter of principle?
Do people ever make you feel uncomfortable on tinder at all?
How do you feel anxious?
What kind of things will you have to do next week? What days will be busier than others?
Do you have any towels at home?
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Reply 7989
@ZackX# I am so sorry not to reply tonight, Zack, but I have gotten incredibly late!!! I will reply tomorrow, I'm sure
I'm so sorry to hear of how you've felt today Your first birthday without your aunt must have been so difficult, particularly given how recent everything is - I send you a hug, and well done for getting through it 
I'm so sorry to hear of how you've felt today
Your first birthday without your aunt must have been so difficult, particularly given how recent everything is - I send you a hug, and well done for getting through it Reply 7990
@ZackX# (I am sorry for not replying last night!! I was perhaps as late as I've ever been in coming to TSR!! )
Thank you so much for your kind words
Your grief must still feel so fresh, and I'm so sorry you had to deal with it on your birthday In time, perhaps there'd be a way for you to contact - if only by E-Mail, or something - your cousin in Finland (I take it he's the son of your aunt?); it might help to share memories of her, if you come to a point where you feel ready for it
My days have been alright, thank you This week has been a lot of baking and cooking, and I did clean yesterday.
I'm very sorry to hear of how you've felt I hope today's been easier, and that you've a good Sunday tomorrow
To be a bit irritating, and to answer the question indirectly (!), I wouldn't want all the money in the world in the first place!! I am naturally a frugal person, but I wouldn't refrain from buying what I wanted and needed, had I not to worry about that sort of thing I would probably buy items of a higher quality, had I excess funds (say if I were buying candles, for example!), but I still wouldn't ever buy more than I needed, and I wouldn't make exorbitant purchases
)Thank you so much for your kind words
Your grief must still feel so fresh, and I'm so sorry you had to deal with it on your birthday
In time, perhaps there'd be a way for you to contact - if only by E-Mail, or something - your cousin in Finland (I take it he's the son of your aunt?); it might help to share memories of her, if you come to a point where you feel ready for it My days have been alright, thank you
This week has been a lot of baking and cooking, and I did clean yesterday.I'm very sorry to hear of how you've felt
I hope today's been easier, and that you've a good Sunday tomorrow To be a bit irritating, and to answer the question indirectly (
!), I wouldn't want all the money in the world in the first place!! I am naturally a frugal person, but I wouldn't refrain from buying what I wanted and needed, had I not to worry about that sort of thing I would probably buy items of a higher quality, had I excess funds (say if I were buying candles, for example!), but I still wouldn't ever buy more than I needed, and I wouldn't make exorbitant purchases Reply 7991
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by EVRoosevelt@ZackX# (I am sorry for not replying last night!! I was perhaps as late as I've ever been in coming to TSR!! )
Thank you so much for your kind words
Your grief must still feel so fresh, and I'm so sorry you had to deal with it on your birthday In time, perhaps there'd be a way for you to contact - if only by E-Mail, or something - your cousin in Finland (I take it he's the son of your aunt?); it might help to share memories of her, if you come to a point where you feel ready for it
My days have been alright, thank you This week has been a lot of baking and cooking, and I did clean yesterday.
I'm very sorry to hear of how you've felt I hope today's been easier, and that you've a good Sunday tomorrow
To be a bit irritating, and to answer the question indirectly (!), I wouldn't want all the money in the world in the first place!! I am naturally a frugal person, but I wouldn't refrain from buying what I wanted and needed, had I not to worry about that sort of thing I would probably buy items of a higher quality, had I excess funds (say if I were buying candles, for example!), but I still wouldn't ever buy more than I needed, and I wouldn't make exorbitant purchases
)Thank you so much for your kind words
Your grief must still feel so fresh, and I'm so sorry you had to deal with it on your birthday
In time, perhaps there'd be a way for you to contact - if only by E-Mail, or something - your cousin in Finland (I take it he's the son of your aunt?); it might help to share memories of her, if you come to a point where you feel ready for it My days have been alright, thank you
This week has been a lot of baking and cooking, and I did clean yesterday.I'm very sorry to hear of how you've felt
I hope today's been easier, and that you've a good Sunday tomorrow To be a bit irritating, and to answer the question indirectly (
!), I wouldn't want all the money in the world in the first place!! I am naturally a frugal person, but I wouldn't refrain from buying what I wanted and needed, had I not to worry about that sort of thing I would probably buy items of a higher quality, had I excess funds (say if I were buying candles, for example!), but I still wouldn't ever buy more than I needed, and I wouldn't make exorbitant purchases Thank you again ted, You're so wonderful, kind, affable, caring and sweet towards others. You're very generous, warm, caring, mild, sweet and extremely friendly. Your ideas, values, thoughts, perspectives help me live life more thoughtfully, honestly. You've been so helpful - when i had the issues with my dad, the financial turmoil, the sexuality problems - all the while you've been so caring, affable, sweet hearted, virtous, funny - i do admire your humour - your posts about your daily life, you have a great way of turning little, otherwise mundane things into things that are funny, relatable, and helpful. You have a great talent at helping people - you're terribly sensitive, humble, open, honest, caring, rich in thoughts and perspectives - as i said, this helps everyone here, by giving them access to help, support, companionship. You're extremely important - you are the glue that helps to hold this community together alongside many others, very affable, very knowledagble, for example your money suggestions, you were kind, helpful, simple. You have been so kind and unwaveringly loyal to us here this year - for example when i felt bad in Janaury, you were honest, helpful, kind and very patient, and also relatable - the way you deal with your own issues, come here and help others is truly wonderful. It shows great, significant empathy. You have empathy, along with strides of pithy, introspectively kind, curious and benign nature, kindness and understanding for others. I'm really pleased you're here - it is really so beneficial to have you here. Whether you like it or not, you've helped the community, by creating a sense of belonging, and the beautiful yet innocuous way you have been so kind in sharing your great knowledge, authenticity, warmth here, without ever making others feel inferior, or less than. Your geniune, inclusive, impactful, larger than life, grandiose,mythical, splendid, different and unqiue way of writing makes people very happy here - for example you are much loved(loved in the sense that we personally are grateful for and place a high value on - we really value you here ted) in the community for all these things. So, thank you ted, for everything you have done, i much much appreciate you and know that everyone here does, really a lot. You're a smart cookie too - but your knowledge is seriously impressive, but it isn't that, it is the way you put your knowledge across and it seems to easy, so simple to understand.
The way you reacted to the whole Autism thing i bought up, was kind, sincere, thoughtful and typically, you were very selfless and proactive in giving advice, you inconvenience yourself, i'm sure, during a busy, resilient, independent day or night, to reply to me and others here. That takes quite something, i have no idea when you post here, is it in the night or the day? Anyhow, you take such great care, and beautiful thought and reflection, and it helps me to live a better life. I feel weight off my shoulders i haven't in Decades when i speak to you. I'm very privileged to speak with you, so thank you ted
and your answers to my questions are always intriuging, impactful, and always so insightful. You're so patient, funny, yet sensitive and always catering for others. Your words are impactful, yet always so smart and caring. You have a lovely sense of purpose, yet you're laid back and kind to others, very equal and fair. You're always sweet, and lovely, consistently so You've been remarkably warm and caring when my Aunt died, by showing strength, care, and lovely suggestions about how to feel less pain. You've been humane and you've helped me suffer less in my life. That means a lot ted. I'm sorry if my compliments are too flattering or too over the top, but i think you're a lovely guy, i know that in the grand scheme of things, my compliments mean f*ck all, but please take them - you're a lovely, kind, accomadating, understanding man and i hope you know that. Also you're extraordinarily emotionally intelligent and sweet, and such a kind hearted, beautifully talented man too, you are always so candid and easy to talk to. You're very kind,whether you realise it or not. You spread kindness and enjoyment here, and that really brings a lot of happiness to me and to many others - and that is very typically kind of you too. You're a lovely man and a really superbly friendly, likeable man. You always respond to me kindly, and always with lovely, caring sentences, i feel a lot better when i talk to you.That is a good idea - maybe i could contact him? He's struggling too currently. I'm heartbroken rn, too. Just heartbroken.
What kind of things do you cook during the week, what time do you finish cooking, and is your dog with you during this time?
How is Lilia doing lately? How has her weeks been back at her University course? Does she get to spend time in oxford or is she revising a lot, do you know?(she works very hard!)
Do you have a large home or not?
Do you ever take photos?
Will you cook less next week?
Would having a dishwasher at home improve your cooking experience?
Are men ever direct towards you on tinder, e.g do guys ever message you?
What day do the binmen or binwomen collect the bins on your street?
Do you still ever think of yourself as having autism, if i may ask?
If you are frugal, do you have any advice for how i can be frugal? I have only a few pounds left and it is stressful with money uncertanties - could i improve at all?
Do your dog walks change at all as it gets dark earlier?
What radio station do you like listening to?
Do you enjoy spending time outdoors?
Do you have any sad moments in your talking sessions?
Do women ever try to contact you on tinder? Do you ever think you would be interested in a straight relationship?
Do you have a lot of free time in the late evening?
Are the everyday clothes that you wear formal, smart or not? If so, is that an important part of your identity or a simple afterthought?
Do you have a bath at home?
Will you turn the heating on at home if it is this cold?
Do you ever have early nights?
What time do you put your pyjamas on?
Do you ever put icing on your cake?
What items of a higher quality would you wish to purchase?
Reply 7992
@ZackX# I'm sorry again, Zack, but I'm so late tonight I shall delay my reply!! Hopefully tomorrow things ought to be back to normal!
Reply 7993
@ZackX# (Sorry for the slow reply, once again! )
Thank you so much Zack, you're very kind!!
I post very late at night, normally, to answer your question! It is shortly before Midnight as I'm writing, and that's considered on-time for me!
If you feel it's something you'd like to do, then contacting your cousin might be an idea - though I know everyone deals with grief differently, and it might be difficult for him to talk about, but if you'd like to see, then I do think it could be worth a try
The other day I made a stew, to freeze for future lunches; and otherwise I make brownies, cake, and ice-cream. Infrequently I'll make apple tarts, too Yes, the next week should be less busy, as everything's made and frozen now! It's hard to say whether having a dishwasher would change much - I think I would be reluctant to use it, given the water and power they must use, particularly when I don't use a tremendous amount of crockery on my own, but perhaps if I knew a dishwasher were economical!
I think Lilia's doing very well, but I know things are super-busy!!
My home isn't what you'd call large, no; the house used to be a council house, years ago, and so whilst it's perfectly fine, it's not massive!
I haven't had to turn on the heating yet, though it came on automatically the other day - today was surprisingly alright, and I think the next week's supposed to be mild-ish down here, if wet!
With regard to frugality, Zack, I'm afraid I don't mean much more than not buying extravagances, which isn't terribly helpful, I know. I do hope you've a good day tomorrow, and sorry again for the slow reply!!
)Thank you so much Zack, you're very kind!!
I post very late at night, normally, to answer your question! It is shortly before Midnight as I'm writing, and that's considered on-time for me!
If you feel it's something you'd like to do, then contacting your cousin might be an idea - though I know everyone deals with grief differently, and it might be difficult for him to talk about, but if you'd like to see, then I do think it could be worth a try
The other day I made a stew, to freeze for future lunches; and otherwise I make brownies, cake, and ice-cream. Infrequently I'll make apple tarts, too
Yes, the next week should be less busy, as everything's made and frozen now! It's hard to say whether having a dishwasher would change much - I think I would be reluctant to use it, given the water and power they must use, particularly when I don't use a tremendous amount of crockery on my own, but perhaps if I knew a dishwasher were economical!I think Lilia's doing very well, but I know things are super-busy!!
My home isn't what you'd call large, no; the house used to be a council house, years ago, and so whilst it's perfectly fine, it's not massive!
I haven't had to turn on the heating yet, though it came on automatically the other day - today was surprisingly alright, and I think the next week's supposed to be mild-ish down here, if wet!
With regard to frugality, Zack, I'm afraid I don't mean much more than not buying extravagances, which isn't terribly helpful, I know. I do hope you've a good day tomorrow, and sorry again for the slow reply!!
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by EVRoosevelt@ZackX# (Sorry for the slow reply, once again! )
Thank you so much Zack, you're very kind!!
I post very late at night, normally, to answer your question! It is shortly before Midnight as I'm writing, and that's considered on-time for me!
If you feel it's something you'd like to do, then contacting your cousin might be an idea - though I know everyone deals with grief differently, and it might be difficult for him to talk about, but if you'd like to see, then I do think it could be worth a try
The other day I made a stew, to freeze for future lunches; and otherwise I make brownies, cake, and ice-cream. Infrequently I'll make apple tarts, too Yes, the next week should be less busy, as everything's made and frozen now! It's hard to say whether having a dishwasher would change much - I think I would be reluctant to use it, given the water and power they must use, particularly when I don't use a tremendous amount of crockery on my own, but perhaps if I knew a dishwasher were economical!
I think Lilia's doing very well, but I know things are super-busy!!
My home isn't what you'd call large, no; the house used to be a council house, years ago, and so whilst it's perfectly fine, it's not massive!
I haven't had to turn on the heating yet, though it came on automatically the other day - today was surprisingly alright, and I think the next week's supposed to be mild-ish down here, if wet!
With regard to frugality, Zack, I'm afraid I don't mean much more than not buying extravagances, which isn't terribly helpful, I know. I do hope you've a good day tomorrow, and sorry again for the slow reply!!
)Thank you so much Zack, you're very kind!!
I post very late at night, normally, to answer your question! It is shortly before Midnight as I'm writing, and that's considered on-time for me!
If you feel it's something you'd like to do, then contacting your cousin might be an idea - though I know everyone deals with grief differently, and it might be difficult for him to talk about, but if you'd like to see, then I do think it could be worth a try
The other day I made a stew, to freeze for future lunches; and otherwise I make brownies, cake, and ice-cream. Infrequently I'll make apple tarts, too
Yes, the next week should be less busy, as everything's made and frozen now! It's hard to say whether having a dishwasher would change much - I think I would be reluctant to use it, given the water and power they must use, particularly when I don't use a tremendous amount of crockery on my own, but perhaps if I knew a dishwasher were economical!I think Lilia's doing very well, but I know things are super-busy!!
My home isn't what you'd call large, no; the house used to be a council house, years ago, and so whilst it's perfectly fine, it's not massive!
I haven't had to turn on the heating yet, though it came on automatically the other day - today was surprisingly alright, and I think the next week's supposed to be mild-ish down here, if wet!
With regard to frugality, Zack, I'm afraid I don't mean much more than not buying extravagances, which isn't terribly helpful, I know. I do hope you've a good day tomorrow, and sorry again for the slow reply!!
Thank you again ted! Oh, you're such a lovely guy, your words are so kind and caring. I really admire you, and am grateful that you are so candid here. Thank you for being so sweet
thank you for being a lovely friend I am worried about a lot of things lately, the war in israel is on my mind, the bedbugs i feel scared of, my health, my aunt's passing, my financial situation. I am trying to be positive, but feel overwhelmed and out of control.
What can i do to clean and be tidy?
Is there anything i could do to stop feeling stressed?
Why did your heating turn on automatically?
Do you ever feel tired?
How are you feeling today?
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by ZackX#Thank you again ted! Oh, you're such a lovely guy, your words are so kind and caring. I really admire you, and am grateful that you are so candid here. Thank you for being so sweet thank you for being a lovely friend
I am worried about a lot of things lately, the war in israel is on my mind, the bedbugs i feel scared of, my health, my aunt's passing, my financial situation. I am trying to be positive, but feel overwhelmed and out of control.
What can i do to clean and be tidy?
Is there anything i could do to stop feeling stressed?
Why did your heating turn on automatically?
Do you ever feel tired?
How are you feeling today?
thank you for being a lovely friend I am worried about a lot of things lately, the war in israel is on my mind, the bedbugs i feel scared of, my health, my aunt's passing, my financial situation. I am trying to be positive, but feel overwhelmed and out of control.
What can i do to clean and be tidy?
Is there anything i could do to stop feeling stressed?
Why did your heating turn on automatically?
Do you ever feel tired?
How are you feeling today?
Thank you so much, Zack!! I'm sorry to hear you've felt worried
Do you have bedbugs in the home, or are you worrying about them more generally? (I ask because I think they've been in the news in the last week, and I didn't know if that was what had prompted your thinking about them.) On another note, do you know when the money will come through from the magistrate; have you long to wait, or are you not sure? I hope it's soon I've been seeing rather a lot on CNN about the war - though I do have to bear in mind it's an American perspective, but they're not too bad at being objective. It's always the civilians that suffer, that's the worst bit. Hopefully, with Joe Biden's influence, things won't escalate, and can be brought to a ceasefire soon
I hope you've a better day tomorrow, Zack With regard to cleaning, I only really do a bit of dusting and vacuuming once a week! Dusting does help if you're in a space a lot - it builds up quickly on my desk - but otherwise I'm not so sure it's worth the time!
I'm afraid I don't know with regard to stress - perhaps you could try deliberately thinking through certain thoughts? That might sound a bit silly, but say you were feeling stressed about... the news, for example, and it was just going round and round your head - stopping for a few minutes, and running through in your mind exactly what stresses you out, and figuring out your opinions, and trying to remind your brain that there tends not to be much one can do about the news, will hopefully let your mind think, "Ah, we've thought about this, no need to think about it anymore!" Doing that, and categorising things, can help me in similar situations, but it might not be terribly helpful!
I am feeling quite alright today, Zack, thank you
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by EVRoosevelt Thank you so much, Zack!! I'm sorry to hear you've felt worried
Do you have bedbugs in the home, or are you worrying about them more generally? (I ask because I think they've been in the news in the last week, and I didn't know if that was what had prompted your thinking about them.) On another note, do you know when the money will come through from the magistrate; have you long to wait, or are you not sure? I hope it's soon I've been seeing rather a lot on CNN about the war - though I do have to bear in mind it's an American perspective, but they're not too bad at being objective. It's always the civilians that suffer, that's the worst bit. Hopefully, with Joe Biden's influence, things won't escalate, and can be brought to a ceasefire soon
I hope you've a better day tomorrow, Zack With regard to cleaning, I only really do a bit of dusting and vacuuming once a week! Dusting does help if you're in a space a lot - it builds up quickly on my desk - but otherwise I'm not so sure it's worth the time!
I'm afraid I don't know with regard to stress - perhaps you could try deliberately thinking through certain thoughts? That might sound a bit silly, but say you were feeling stressed about... the news, for example, and it was just going round and round your head - stopping for a few minutes, and running through in your mind exactly what stresses you out, and figuring out your opinions, and trying to remind your brain that there tends not to be much one can do about the news, will hopefully let your mind think, "Ah, we've thought about this, no need to think about it anymore!" Doing that, and categorising things, can help me in similar situations, but it might not be terribly helpful!
I am feeling quite alright today, Zack, thank you
You're so lovely, so kind and wonderfully sweet ted. Thank you for everything. Thank you being so accommodating, and caring and just so understanding. And clever too, you are extremely wise, likeable and knowledgable. And you deal with adversity really well- as a gay man, you're a superb role model and friend for the community here. You're a hugely,popular talented modest and humble yet brilliant man.
I heard about the bedbugs via news but my dad is going to France and so I'm feeling worried and anxious about it
I'm just feeling very stressed and worried and nervous and it's taking a toll on me, nothing in particular. Anxiety autism and ocd i suppose
Do you think joe biden does a good job?
Do you like going to bed late?
How are you feeling today?
Oh I've been cleaning too, i'm very nervous about bedbugs, sickness and so forth- i washed my mattress with scolding hot water before drying it on a electric rack, steam cleaned the bed, poured boiling hot water and bleach down the toilet, i Hoover every day so as to avoid bad consequences
Do you like cleaning?
What is your ancestry like?
Do you think you are the end of your family's bloodline?
Has it rained in your area today?
Do you have any advice for dry skin?
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by ZackX#You're so lovely, so kind and wonderfully sweet ted. Thank you for everything. Thank you being so accommodating, and caring and just so understanding. And clever too, you are extremely wise, likeable and knowledgable. And you deal with adversity really well- as a gay man, you're a superb role model and friend for the community here. You're a hugely,popular talented modest and humble yet brilliant man.
I heard about the bedbugs via news but my dad is going to France and so I'm feeling worried and anxious about it
I'm just feeling very stressed and worried and nervous and it's taking a toll on me, nothing in particular. Anxiety autism and ocd i suppose
Do you think joe biden does a good job?
Do you like going to bed late?
How are you feeling today?
Oh I've been cleaning too, i'm very nervous about bedbugs, sickness and so forth- i washed my mattress with scolding hot water before drying it on a electric rack, steam cleaned the bed, poured boiling hot water and bleach down the toilet, i Hoover every day so as to avoid bad consequences
Do you like cleaning?
What is your ancestry like?
Do you think you are the end of your family's bloodline?
Has it rained in your area today?
Do you have any advice for dry skin?
I heard about the bedbugs via news but my dad is going to France and so I'm feeling worried and anxious about it
I'm just feeling very stressed and worried and nervous and it's taking a toll on me, nothing in particular. Anxiety autism and ocd i suppose
Do you think joe biden does a good job?
Do you like going to bed late?
How are you feeling today?
Oh I've been cleaning too, i'm very nervous about bedbugs, sickness and so forth- i washed my mattress with scolding hot water before drying it on a electric rack, steam cleaned the bed, poured boiling hot water and bleach down the toilet, i Hoover every day so as to avoid bad consequences
Do you like cleaning?
What is your ancestry like?
Do you think you are the end of your family's bloodline?
Has it rained in your area today?
Do you have any advice for dry skin?
Thank you Zack!! Ah, I see - I did hear the news about them in relation to France, but I don't think they're so widespread as to be in every French household, and so I'm sure your father won't bring any back with him
Besides, even if he does, I imagine he'll have a vested interest in getting rid of them! There'd be no sense in him cleaning / scalding his own stuff, and leaving yours alone, because they could get from one room to another - in short, I'm sure it'll be okay! I'm sorry to hear that, Zack
I hope today's been better I think Joe Biden does a very good job, to be fair to him!
I don't much mind when I go to bed, it normally just ends up being quite late as I'm not very quick about anything!
I find cleaning to be fairly alright, but then I don't do a whole lot of it! As long as I haven't much to do, I don't mind it
Oh, you're more thorough than I am! I don't know that I've ever cleaned my mattress, and I only vacuum once a week! I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling nervous, though Yes, it's been quite wet these past couple of days! Hmm, hand cream might help for dry skin, but I don't know of any other remedies!
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by EVRoosevelt Thank you Zack!! Ah, I see - I did hear the news about them in relation to France, but I don't think they're so widespread as to be in every French household, and so I'm sure your father won't bring any back with him
Besides, even if he does, I imagine he'll have a vested interest in getting rid of them! There'd be no sense in him cleaning / scalding his own stuff, and leaving yours alone, because they could get from one room to another - in short, I'm sure it'll be okay! I'm sorry to hear that, Zack
I hope today's been better I think Joe Biden does a very good job, to be fair to him!
I don't much mind when I go to bed, it normally just ends up being quite late as I'm not very quick about anything!
I find cleaning to be fairly alright, but then I don't do a whole lot of it! As long as I haven't much to do, I don't mind it
Oh, you're more thorough than I am! I don't know that I've ever cleaned my mattress, and I only vacuum once a week! I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling nervous, though Yes, it's been quite wet these past couple of days! Hmm, hand cream might help for dry skin, but I don't know of any other remedies!
Oh that is lovely ted - you're so kind, and so friendly - you are such a lovely man. I really admire you and i'm really happy, grateful, priviliged to talk to you - you really make me feel good, feel valued, happy - i really enjoy your company, i'm really fortunate to be able to call you a friend. Honestly, you're a lovely man and i'm really thankful that you're always so kind. I probably sound like a broken record, but you're so funny and lovely, so thank you a lot for your company.. I really enjoy these moments
What parts of the home do you attempt to clean during the week?
Have you had any matches on tinder lately? If so, what do you think of them?
Do you have a door bell at home or do people simply knock?
Yes, today was uneventful
Thank you for your lovely reassurance. You're so very kind, and i really appreciate that. You have many great talents, but your kindness is one of the greatest pleasures that you give us. I'm going to rant a little bit, because i'm feeling frustrated, so feel free skip over it if you don't fancy reading, but a tldr from me is i'm just suffering and hurting
I feel so mortified embarrased, i just don't have many friends or people to talk to - i'm not a interesting person, i'm very socially awkward, and it hurts a lot to see many people my age have much more substantial lives than myself. I can't shake that feeling of always feeling disappointed and i carry a lot of negativity, i can't really deal with that very well. I'm not personable, easy to talk to or friendly, and i just am not someone that connects with others easily - but it is embarrasing and upsetting to see many other people my age having such great lives - it really hurts a lot that i haven't got anything to show for 20 years, i think in all honesty i should really forget about making friends or having a boyfriend, i think things like that are beyond me in this life. For example today, i was walking down the street and some of the people i went to school with were all walking in a big group with some friends, all chatting, all laughing and generally having a good time, like 20 of them. They haven't seen me in years, but they have loads of other friends it seems, and i feel disappointed in myself that i can't have something like that. It made me think, why can i not be a part of something like this? I think it is because i'm inherently unlikeable.
Sorry for all the negativity, just needed to unload a little bit. I'm just awkward, totally socially weird, and it kinda shows in all my interactions - i'm not sure where to go from here, i've just f*cking wasted the supposedly best years of my life. I never had a relationship, never passed a exam, ever, never achieved my college results, failed my courses, never passed a single qualification in 14 years of education, am terrible, slow, unproductive, lazy, arrogant, rude, disingenous, sloppy and cold at work, i am f*cking poor, have virtually no friends, and more of all, i'm just not a very nice person, i think i'm a bit of an a**hole to be honest, i just am unpleasant and rude and not very clean, and i have a very low iq, and am relatively stupid, and socially i'm an absolute nightmare, wtf am i going to do with my life? I'm really stuck in a rut, and i've wasted my youth, and now what? I will age, get older, and i will have even less and less subjective value, i'm so out of touch with so many things. I'm not a gamer, i have nothing in common with so many people of my age group, i am quite niche, quite extroverted, but very nervous, jittery, very unreliable, poor - i just don't see what i can bring to other people's lives to make them happy, so i'm left wondering, what am i even doing? What can i do anymore to help myself? Who do i talk to? I see people on this thread, e.g Alex, Lilia, Nathan, Mosaic, yourself - so many of you have achieved so much, i'm not comparing myself but i legitimately haven't done anything in my life, i haven't travelled much, haven't taken on any milestones that teenagers, adults should have done. I don't even know what to say, i'm so upset and disappointed in myself today.I'm really sorry to burden you, you are a beautiful friend and great companion, and i think you deserve better than this.
I was going to ask, do you ever use an alarm to wake you up in the morning?
And also, what kind of things do you like doing on a monday?
What is the busiest time on your dog walk?
Have you had more time to do what you want, given your cooking last week?
How are you feeling today?
What kind of things would you like to do or have that you've never had or done before, is there anything new you ever want to experience?
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@ZackX# Sorry for not replying yesterday! I was on TSR quite a bit earlier than usual, and I didn't see your message!
Thank you, Zack!
Hmm, I always keep my bedroom clean, and otherwise I keep the kitchen surfaces pristine, and I suppose I clean the microwave about once a week? I do use it most, so that's quite fair!
I haven't had any Tinder matches for several months! I like people so infrequently that I don't much aid myself, I know, but then I don't want to match with those I'm swiping away!
Not at all, thank you!
I'm very sorry to hear of how you were feeling, I do hope today's been a kinder day to you. I am myself very guilty of comparing myself to other people, and so I ought to be taking my own suggestion, here (!), but those comparisons aren't always what they seem - plenty of those our age are still figuring themselves out, Zack, and I'm sure you'll find the right path! I don't think you ought to feel disappointed in yourself, either, Zack!
I sort of use an alarm! I use the alarm to wake me up once, and then I normally sleep for another 90 minutes after that!
Hmm, on the matter of things I'd like to do, I'd quite like to do something more aquatic at some point in my life! Whether that were SCUBA diving, or having a small boat of some kind, or even just renting a boat for a time - I think I'd like the freedom of it What about you?
Thank you, Zack!
Hmm, I always keep my bedroom clean, and otherwise I keep the kitchen surfaces pristine, and I suppose I clean the microwave about once a week? I do use it most, so that's quite fair!
I haven't had any Tinder matches for several months! I like people so infrequently that I don't much aid myself, I know, but then I don't want to match with those I'm swiping away!
Not at all, thank you!
I'm very sorry to hear of how you were feeling, I do hope today's been a kinder day to you. I am myself very guilty of comparing myself to other people, and so I ought to be taking my own suggestion, here (!), but those comparisons aren't always what they seem - plenty of those our age are still figuring themselves out, Zack, and I'm sure you'll find the right path!
I don't think you ought to feel disappointed in yourself, either, Zack! I sort of use an alarm!
I use the alarm to wake me up once, and then I normally sleep for another 90 minutes after that!Hmm, on the matter of things I'd like to do, I'd quite like to do something more aquatic at some point in my life! Whether that were SCUBA diving, or having a small boat of some kind, or even just renting a boat for a time - I think I'd like the freedom of it
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