🌼🍉 Brownies, books and planning a wedding - your favourite fiancés’ 2nd blog 🍉🌼

Hi everyone!

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Welcome to our new blog!! :h:

In case you're new here, I (Nathan) started a thread two and a half years ago to ask for advice when I found out my crush was gay. I was 18, in my first year of uni, super shy, and not out to anyone. Thanks to the lovely people of tsr who convinced me to wave at him on Facebook, we ended up talking and got together! Whoop whoop! :biggrin:

We've had our struggles, my family was very homophobic at first, we both have mental health issues, we even broke up for a couple months, but lately things have been going super duper well -- we moved in together in January and got engaged a few weeks ago!

My fiancé, Alex, also made a tsr account (@nicalibres) and we started a blog together just over a year ago, to stay in touch with everyone who's helped us and supported us, it's a lovely lil community :h:

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Time to introduce ourselves!

Hi, I'm Nathan, 21 years old. I'm from Cumbria but moved to the south of England to study English at uni. I've just graduated (with a first!! :biggrin:

) and my plans are to work for a year and then do a masters. I'm really not sure what I want to do with my life, hopefully I'll figure it out somewhere along the way :tongue:

My family are pretty religious, but they eventually came around to me being gay and they're lovely and supportive now. I've got a twin sister who is dating my best friend from school, and then there's my mum, my dad, and our dog. In my spare time I like to play guitar, read, listen to music, pretty basic stuff really, and lately I've been really into wedding planning! I have anxiety so sometimes I can be a bit annoying, but most of the time I manage it pretty well :smile:

Alright, my turn? Hey, my name is Alex, I also go by @nicalibres on here. I'm 22 and originally from London. My past is a little bit tragic - grew up poor, dad left when I was 12, toxic first boyfriend, two years of drinking and sleeping around, yadda yadda. I've managed to sort myself out now... for the most part, that is. Like Nathan, I also study English at uni, that's how we met! Aforementioned tragic past has made me mentally ill, so I've had to take a year out. I'm on meds and in therapy now - ready to start third year again in October. My dream job is being a teacher. I also enjoy art, I draw and paint quite a lot. N and I have totally different personalities - he's quiet, I'm outgoing; he's organised, I'm messy; he's cute and innocent, people often call me dirty-minded... But I'm really quite sweet. I've got a baby brother, Luca, he's almost 1 now and totes adorbs. Like Nathan!

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Other fun stuff :biggrin:

Key dates in our relationship:

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Gym:

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nathan1403

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by Mosaic4

In the vast majority of cases of three against one, the one is always going to come off worse. This is nothing to do with being weak. There is not a lot you could have done.

You should tell your parents what happened as factually as possible. Then you can tell them how brave you were getting on with your life and describe the wedding fair to them.

Good luck!

Thank you, I guess I'll try, but I'm so nervous! :redface:

They want to have a video call this week so I really have to do this, unless I want to wait until they call me and see my face, but then they'll just get annoyed that I didn't tell them sooner!

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Mosaic4

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by nathan1403

Thank you, I guess I'll try, but I'm so nervous! :redface:

They want to have a video call this week so I really have to do this, unless I want to wait until they call me and see my face, but then they'll just get annoyed that I didn't tell them sooner!

I would call and tell them sooner rather than later. Then it's over and done with and you aren't worrying about that along with everything else. This whole thing isn't your fault, you've done nothing wrong.

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nathan1403

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by Mosaic4

I would call and tell them sooner rather than later. Then it's over and done with and you aren't worrying about that along with everything else. This whole thing isn't your fault, you've done nothing wrong.

I guess I'm just really embarrassed, my mum will probably have a go at me for being alone in the dark and not walking on main roads only or something :frown:

I feel like I could've prevented this :frown:

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nathan1403

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I just called my mum and it went okay, but when I said the guys probably knew I was gay because they'd seen me with Alex, she implied what happened was my own fault for not keeping the 'gay stuff' behind closed doors :s-smilie:

Other than that she was nice to me so I guess I can't complain :smile:

At least that's over and done with now!

Time to celebrate our anniversary with pizza and Netflix!!!

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PHRED

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by nathan1403

Time to celebrate our anniversary with pizza and Netflix!!!

Don't forget what the doctor ordered. :biggrin:

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nathan1403

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by PHRED

Don't forget what the doctor ordered. :biggrin:

Lots of hugs???? :biggrin:

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username5776044

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by nathan1403

Thank you

I'm sorry to hear you've been attacked too, its terrifying isn't it? Fortunately I'm okay other than a few bruises but it's made me afraid of being gay in public again :frown:

I've made it to work safely and I'm just abiut to order a new phone online because the guys broke my old one :s-smilie:

yes so scary. i ****ing crapped my pants and RAN. 1st time i was in yr 7 and it was just after this stabbing and i was chased for 10 mins and second time i was followed home so walked around for and hour until he left 😳 i got so lost lol
aaw man ****ing idiots just accept lgbtq+ WTF HAVE THEY EVER DONE TO YOU HUH 😡😠😤

oml well imma be getting a new phone too so twins wooo (im tryna lighten the mood tell me if i should shut up 👀)

Reply 1387

AnnaBananana

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I’m just catching up on stuff

Omg Nathan - none of this is your fault. It’s no ones business who you love, nothing to do with anyone else at all. You didn’t cause this, the small minded cowards who ganged up on you are the only ones at fault here. I’m so happy that you went out yesterday and out to work today - it’s a sign of how far you’ve come as a few months ago you would have curled up in a ball for days.

Look how successful you are, and how far you’ve come. First class honours degree, hot fiancé, family that’s supportive of your relationship, and a job. And they are getting in a group and ganging up on a guy on his own. I know who I think it stronger and more impressive tbh.

Enjoy the pizza! I had my first day of uni, we got lists of all the skills we have to get signed off this year, I don’t know whether to curl up under my duvet (lolz) or be massively impressed by how much I’ll (hopefully!!) have progressed by this time next year

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nathan1403

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by hey yall

yes so scary. i ****ing crapped my pants and RAN. 1st time i was in yr 7 and it was just after this stabbing and i was chased for 10 mins and second time i was followed home so walked around for and hour until he left 😳 i got so lost lol
aaw man ****ing idiots just accept lgbtq+ WTF HAVE THEY EVER DONE TO YOU HUH 😡😠😤

oml well imma be getting a new phone too so twins wooo (im tryna lighten the mood tell me if i should shut up 👀)

Ooft they both sound so scary, I'm so glad you managed to get away but that must've been terrifying!! I really don't understand people like that :frown:

Yay I hope you like your new phone, I just ordered a cheap one online because who knows, this just might happen again so I didn't want to pay lots of money!

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by AnnaBananana

I’m just catching up on stuff

Omg Nathan - none of this is your fault. It’s no ones business who you love, nothing to do with anyone else at all. You didn’t cause this, the small minded cowards who ganged up on you are the only ones at fault here. I’m so happy that you went out yesterday and out to work today - it’s a sign of how far you’ve come as a few months ago you would have curled up in a ball for days.

Look how successful you are, and how far you’ve come. First class honours degree, hot fiancé, family that’s supportive of your relationship, and a job. And they are getting in a group and ganging up on a guy on his own. I know who I think it stronger and more impressive tbh.

Enjoy the pizza! I had my first day of uni, we got lists of all the skills we have to get signed off this year, I don’t know whether to curl up under my duvet (lolz) or be massively impressed by how much I’ll (hopefully!!) have progressed by this time next year

Thank you

While those guys were hurting me they were saying things like 'this is what you get for sucking ****/taking it up the arse/other gay things' and I was like does it really bother you that much what I do in the bedroom??? They probably had no life! I'm honestly so tempted to curl up in a ball but I didn't want to miss the wedding fair and I can't really miss work, but I haven't slept the past two nights and I constantly feel like I'm on the verge of a panic attack so that's fun :tongue:

They wouldn't make you learn so much stuff if they didn't think you were up to it, you're going to be fine! It's always intimidating looking forward to something but then when you look back on it it actually wasn't so bad. Try to relax while you still can, I have a feeling you'll be very busy soon!

Reply 1389

nathan1403

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We had a lovely anniversary!! We ate way too much pizza but it was nice to forget about what happened for a bit and just enjoy spending time with my hot fiancé :biggrin:

Hopefully I'll manage to get some sleep tonight, long day at work tomorrow :s-smilie:

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nicalibres

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nathan1403

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by nicalibres

I would say come grab me then but I'm too full from all that pizza :tongue:

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nicalibres

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by nathan1403

I would say come grab me then but I'm too full from all that pizza :tongue:

That's ok, we can cuddle -

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nathan1403

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by nicalibres

That's ok, we can cuddle -

Now we know which of us will make terrible dad jokes when we have kids :tongue:

This is cute tho, you do give top koality hugs :biggrin:

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username5776044

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by nathan1403

Ooft they both sound so scary, I'm so glad you managed to get away but that must've been terrifying!! I really don't understand people like that :frown:

Yay I hope you like your new phone, I just ordered a cheap one online because who knows, this just might happen again so I didn't want to pay lots of money!

Thank you :hugs:

While those guys were hurting me they were saying things like 'this is what you get for sucking ****/taking it up the arse/other gay things' and I was like does it really bother you that much what I do in the bedroom??? They probably had no life! I'm honestly so tempted to curl up in a ball but I didn't want to miss the wedding fair and I can't really miss work, but I haven't slept the past two nights and I constantly feel like I'm on the verge of a panic attack so that's fun :tongue:

They wouldn't make you learn so much stuff if they didn't think you were up to it, you're going to be fine! It's always intimidating looking forward to something but then when you look back on it it actually wasn't so bad. Try to relax while you still can, I have a feeling you'll be very busy soon!

yh they were but now i look back and think i done what i could im proud of me :biggrin:

same why have they got to be idiots they dont affect your lives smh
no its like a babied version of my old phone and its the same as my bros. its worse than my old phone ffs i didnt think that was possible lol my dad gave me his old phone but mum said no shes getting a "burner phone" until the xmas after her 16th :colonhash:

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nathan1403

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by hey yall

yh they were but now i look back and think i done what i could im proud of me :biggrin:

same why have they got to be idiots they dont affect your lives smh
no its like a babied version of my old phone and its the same as my bros. its worse than my old phone ffs i didnt think that was possible lol my dad gave me his old phone but mum said no shes getting a "burner phone" until the xmas after her 16th :colonhash:

My parents were the same, they always bought me really *****y phones because they thought I spent too much time online, so I just started buying my own ones :tongue:

Reply 1396

nicalibres

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I've been to therapy and the gym this morning. Who thinks I deserve to treat myself to some ice cream for lunch? I love doing irresponsible things while Nathan is away!

Reply 1397

STARFIRE13245

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if you like then you need to redo sport

Reply 1398

nathan1403

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We had dominos yesterday!!!

But okay, as long as you save some for me :biggrin:

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Fresher18

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by nathan1403

I just called my mum and it went okay, but when I said the guys probably knew I was gay because they'd seen me with Alex, she implied what happened was my own fault for not keeping the 'gay stuff' behind closed doors :s-smilie:

Other than that she was nice to me so I guess I can't complain :smile:

At least that's over and done with now!

Time to celebrate our anniversary with pizza and Netflix!!!

Glad the call went mostly okay and tbf you were expecting her to make a comment like that so don't let it get you down. Hope you had a nice anniversary

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