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Help with porn addiction

Guys this is actually really annoying now. I am just full a mixture of emotions. I have tried to refrain from porn for a couple days but ended up going back onto it now. I have had this addiction for a while now and I don't know why I come back to it. I am a muslim struggling with this. have tried fasting and even listening to forms of religious recitation to distract my mind from thinking about this but I still keep going back and doing it (even when I know its wrong I somehow still do it). I am also scared as a heard porn can lead to attraction of spirits and those spirits may or may not give me evil eye or something worse. I don't know what to do anymore I feel like just giving up and accepting I am a failure at controlling myself!

Reply 1

hey there. don’t beat yourself up about this. I promise you are not alone with this struggle, there are more young people than you think dealing with this. good of you to speak up, it’s so important. as hard and embarrassing as it may feel, it is so important to speak to someone. I’d suggest a religious leader that you trust and is further in their faith than yourself. just getting it out in the open is the first step in freeing yourself. ask God for his help and you will get there. don’t give up

Reply 2

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Muslim here too, it's not an individual addiction, in a sense it's our addiction. It's not fully in our control. Pray, repent and all will be ok.

Reply 3

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My advice is to remove every single possible way of accessing it (unless you use a browser). Distracting yourself from it is the best way of going about it. Doing things like listening to music or something that occupies a lot of your time helps a lot. Think of it as something you can go without, like a weird food choice you realise wasn't the best for you. Don't beat yourself up about it either, since everyone watches porn. Eventually you'll begin to look at it as just something that you can do if you're bored and go with that so long as you don't get completely addicted to it and start watching it excessively

Reply 4

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Original post by urlocalinmate

Muslim here too, it's not an individual addiction, in a sense it's our addiction. It's not fully in our control. Pray, repent and all will be ok.

thats the thing I have done this so many times the cycle is neverending (watching porn, feeling guilty, trying to pray - struggle with it terms of keepign wudu, repent, feel good, then watch porn again). As I watch it I know its bad and haram have even heard its a form of sihr (magic) attracting jinns that can give evil eye or do magic (know I am worried about doing Ruqayyah).

Reply 5

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Original post by Anonymous

Guys this is actually really annoying now. I am just full a mixture of emotions. I have tried to refrain from porn for a couple days but ended up going back onto it now. I have had this addiction for a while now and I don't know why I come back to it. I am a muslim struggling with this. have tried fasting and even listening to forms of religious recitation to distract my mind from thinking about this but I still keep going back and doing it (even when I know its wrong I somehow still do it). I am also scared as a heard porn can lead to attraction of spirits and those spirits may or may not give me evil eye or something worse. I don't know what to do anymore I feel like just giving up and accepting I am a failure at controlling myself!

I am not a muslim nor a boy. I think masturbation is completly normal as long as it doesnt make you lose control over diffrent parts of your life making them worse. Your problem seems to be the shame you experience around your sexuality and you beating yourself up. Stop repressing your sexuality. It is unhealthy. If you dont want to watch porn just dont do it while you masturbate but dont hold yourself to a standard of going from doing something to the point of addiction to not doing it at all just because you decided not to do it. Appreciate your progress and not that you do it at all or not.

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go like 5 days without it and reward yourself. you can then do it. then go like 7 days without it and reward yourself.

then just keep increasing the days until you see that you can cope without it.

just stopping completely like that is going to be hard.

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Original post by Anonymous

thats the thing I have done this so many times the cycle is neverending (watching porn, feeling guilty, trying to pray - struggle with it terms of keepign wudu, repent, feel good, then watch porn again). As I watch it I know its bad and haram have even heard its a form of sihr (magic) attracting jinns that can give evil eye or do magic (know I am worried about doing Ruqayyah).

Exactly, it's never-ending due to our hormones and all that sciency stuff. I don't believe that it's magic, the magic is literally the chemicals that makes our sex drive increase. This is what you're really watching (subpixels of a screen, not living cells, there's an element of science in it, not just superstition) - https://www.androidauthority.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/sub-pixel-layout-710x273.jpg?fresh

Seriously, we're just looking at light. It's still haram, but I'm just trying to remove the guilt from you as it's not your fault.

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Original post by Anonymous

I am also scared as a heard porn can lead to attraction of spirits and those spirits may or may not give me evil eye or something worse.

This is new. :biggrin:

:biggrin:

I am sorry for laughing at it.

Are you fasting the right way?
"Fasting has been prescribed as a way of dampening the sexual urges. Many will say that they have tried it but it doesn’t work. One must look at the way they are fasting—was their niyyat clear and pure, did they ask Allah for the help, did they truly fast or just deny themselves food. Fasting involves so much more than not eating. Denying the nafs is the essence of fasting, especially for this issue. Denying the senses of anything stimulating is the key. Shunning the media in all its forms is the first step, not only during the fast but afterwards as well. You can’t watch Beyonce shaking her behind and not have thoughts about doing the same. You cannot listen to singers talk about what they can/will/want to do with you tonight and expect not to fantasize about someone doing the same with you. You cannot watch and ardent kiss or love scene and not become aroused to some point. That is human nature. To be successful deny yourself access to these things as much as possible." https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/controlling-sexual-desires-when-marriage-is-put-on-hold/

Also, this might be helpful. https://seekersguidance.org/answers/general-counsel/how-can-i-wean-myself-off-from-porn/

One thing to do would be to engage yourself in reading something unillustrated that doesn't deal with sexual content.

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Original post by Anonymous

As I watch it I know its bad and haram have even heard its a form of sihr (magic) attracting jinns that can give evil eye or do magic (know I am worried about doing Ruqayyah).

No. Don't worry about that. It is just our own desires getting an upper hand over our self control..

(edited 3 years ago)

Reply 10

OP

Original post by urlocalinmate

Exactly, it's never-ending due to our hormones and all that sciency stuff. I don't believe that it's magic, the magic is literally the chemicals that makes our sex drive increase. This is what you're really watching (subpixels of a screen, not living cells, there's an element of science in it, not just superstition) - https://www.androidauthority.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/12/sub-pixel-layout-710x273.jpg?fresh

Seriously, we're just looking at light. It's still haram, but I'm just trying to remove the guilt from you as it's not your fault.

I have also noticed that my in terms of my memory and intelligence has decreased significantly (like I used to get good grades) but now end up getting like below average and stuff. I have basically ruined myself due to this and have no will to pursue a career at all - don't even remember how to revise or study properly

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Original post by Elize W

Stop repressing your sexuality. It is unhealthy.

There is a way in Islam. But I don't think that it is practical here for the time being.

Reply 12

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Original post by Anonymous

Guys this is actually really annoying now. I am just full a mixture of emotions. I have tried to refrain from porn for a couple days but ended up going back onto it now. I have had this addiction for a while now and I don't know why I come back to it. I am a muslim struggling with this. have tried fasting and even listening to forms of religious recitation to distract my mind from thinking about this but I still keep going back and doing it (even when I know its wrong I somehow still do it). I am also scared as a heard porn can lead to attraction of spirits and those spirits may or may not give me evil eye or something worse. I don't know what to do anymore I feel like just giving up and accepting I am a failure at controlling myself!

Sorry to hear of this. Unfortunately this is becoming a very common problem within the Muslim community.

I suggest that you block all adult content sites that lead you to watch it (you can amend settings on your broadband account)
This includes social media sites where you may come across content like this.

Watching content like this is degrading and makes you lose respect for humans, you only see them in your mind as a tools for sexual fulfilment and nothing else. Also, keeping in mind, long term addiction to this messes up your sex life when you get married. Your spouse can’t fulfil your needs properly because your brain has been addicted to watching porn, you won’t find pleasure in intimacy the natural way.

If all else fails and you still keep going back to it, then you have to remember that as a Muslim, how would you feel knowing that Allah is watching you. Imagine if you this was your last moments in this world, would you want this deed to be written as the last thing you did?

Please don’t give up, keep yourself busy with hobbies/work/education etc in the meanwhile, and if your really struggling, maybe consider getting married?

Check out this website:
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/videos-articles/

Also, keep making dua that Allah gives you the strength to quit this sin.

(edited 3 years ago)

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Original post by Anonymous

I have also noticed that my in terms of my memory and intelligence has decreased significantly (like I used to get good grades) but now end up getting like below average and stuff. I have basically ruined myself due to this and have no will to pursue a career at all - don't even remember how to revise or study properly

My short-term memory has significantly decreased too, same with my grades. If you're 18 or over you could get a part-time job so you won't work too long but spend consciously. If you're under 18, you could ask how to revise and what methods are best for the subject you're studying (on TSR).

Reply 14

Pray and lower your gaize
read surah yaseen in morning after fajr and read surah mulk at night after maghrib
trust allah with your full heart

Reply 15

Salaam brother

First of all I would like to commend you for speaking up about this issue. Remember Allah is always there for you and do not give up I him.

I have got a few tips for you here:
1. Try to pray all your salaahs on time and if possible at the masjid

2. Start praying 2 rakat salaah istighfar and haajat and cry to Allah about your difficulties and challenges with addiction. ALWAYS REMAIN HOPEFUL AND NEVER DOUBT OR QUESTION ALLAHS POWER

3. Look at what is triggering you to watch porn and masterbate and in what situations and see how you can resolve that.

E.g maybe when no one is at home then you watch or maybe in your room or even when you have nothing to do and have got free time.

4. I'm not sure if you're working or studying but outside those times make yourself busy with a hobby or side business/project so you have something to occupy your mind and something to do in your free time. Just make sure you use up all your free time in some way so your mind doesn't start drifting towards the bad stuff.

5. When outside and even on social media keep your gaze low. Delete social media if you have to.

6. Start Meditating for 10 minutes daily to increase control over your thoughts and actions.

7. Start journaling daily to express gratefulness and it will decrease depressed and negative thoughts.

8. Get in a habit of doing thikr like subhanallah alhamdulillah astaghfirullah though your day so your mind is constantly in state of remembering Allah.

This is what helped me to quit this crippling addiction and I make dua it will help you too inshallah.

Reply 16

Original post by Anonymous

Guys this is actually really annoying now. I am just full a mixture of emotions. I have tried to refrain from porn for a couple days but ended up going back onto it now. I have had this addiction for a while now and I don't know why I come back to it. I am a muslim struggling with this. have tried fasting and even listening to forms of religious recitation to distract my mind from thinking about this but I still keep going back and doing it (even when I know its wrong I somehow still do it). I am also scared as a heard porn can lead to attraction of spirits and those spirits may or may not give me evil eye or something worse. I don't know what to do anymore I feel like just giving up and accepting I am a failure at controlling myself!

Salaam brother

First of all I would like to commend you for speaking up about this issue. Remember Allah is always there for you and do not give up I him.

I have got a few tips for you here:
1. Try to pray all your salaahs on time and if possible at the masjid

2. Start praying 2 rakat salaah istighfar and haajat and cry to Allah about your difficulties and challenges with addiction. ALWAYS REMAIN HOPEFUL AND NEVER DOUBT OR QUESTION ALLAHS POWER

3. Look at what is triggering you to watch porn and masterbate and in what situations and see how you can resolve that.

E.g maybe when no one is at home then you watch or maybe in your room or even when you have nothing to do and have got free time.

4. I'm not sure if you're working or studying but outside those times make yourself busy with a hobby or side business/project so you have something to occupy your mind and something to do in your free time. Just make sure you use up all your free time in some way so your mind doesn't start drifting towards the bad stuff.

5. When outside and even on social media keep your gaze low. Delete social media if you have to.

6. Start Meditating for 10 minutes daily to increase control over your thoughts and actions.

7. Start journaling daily to express gratefulness and it will decrease depressed and negative thoughts.

8. Get in a habit of doing thikr like subhanallah alhamdulillah astaghfirullah though your day so your mind is constantly in state of remembering Allah.

This is what helped me to quit this crippling addiction and I make dua it will help you too inshallah.

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