Is it okay to identify as heteroflexible?

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I get that I might be bi, but I mainly feel attraction to men (I'm a girl) so I don't want to identify as bi because it might look like I'm attention seeking. At the same time, I don't want to contribute to bi-invisibility by saying I'm heteroflexible, so is it okay?
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I get that I might be bi, but I mainly feel attraction to men (I'm a girl) so I don't want to identify as bi because it might look like I'm attention seeking. At the same time, I don't want to contribute to bi-invisibility by saying I'm heteroflexible, so is it okay?
What does it mean.....
A heteroflexible person is someone who’s “mostly straight” — they usually find themselves attracted to people of a different gender to them, but occasionally find themselves attracted to people who are the same gender.

This attraction could be romantic (that is, concerning the people you want to date) or sexual (concerning the people you want to have sex with), or both.
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I've never heard the term heteroflexible being used, sometimes hear bi-curious.
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Why label yourself as anything? You don't have to make declarations and perform for others.
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One of these terms sounds a bit more attention seeking than the other
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I find some girls attractive but I just call myself heterosexual because i wouldnt want to have sex or relationship with another girl. If someone was curious about my sexuality i could explain that but if it is just about a label i just use heterosexual so that a bi or lesbian girl doesnt consider me as a potential partner.
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If you're bi I'd just identify as bi, I would think if you were worried about people thinking you're attention seeking (which you definitely shouldn't), you should use bi not heteroflexible too. But if you're more comfortable with heteroflexible use that.
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You're overthinking this a bit. It's "okay" for you to identify as whatever feels right
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Bisexuality doesnt mean you have to like both 50/50. You can have a preference. Maybe not attention seeking but it does seem a tad odd to identify as something many people havent heard of when there is already a mainstream label that already describes your sexuality.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I get that I might be bi, but I mainly feel attraction to men (I'm a girl) so I don't want to identify as bi because it might look like I'm attention seeking. At the same time, I don't want to contribute to bi-invisibility by saying I'm heteroflexible, so is it okay?
I've never head of the term heteroflexible? But if you're attracted to men and women then that probably means you're bi. I would say that I am bi as I'm the same as you, I'm mostly attracted to men but still have some attraction towards women too. Bi doesn't have to mean 50/50 men and women, bi just means that you feel attraction towards both genders despite if its equal attraction or not.

But to be honest unless you'd feel more comfortable having a label I'd say it doesn't matter. Even though I'm attracted to both genders I don't really like to label myself and I don't see the point, and if someone asks me I tell them it doesn't matter because sexuality doesn't define who you are.
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(Original post by londonmyst)
I've never heard the term heteroflexible being used, sometimes hear bi-curious.
To be honest I didn't know either till one of the young students was telling me about it as doing research on this subject so she understand things with it for future career issues...!
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First time I've heard the term 'heteroflexible'. It's getting difficult to keep up with all these new names.
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Use whichever label you're most comfortable with.
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