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Hi guys. I am a new FY1 and wondering whether I can seek some advice please. Essentially due to messing up the sjt I have had to move halfway up the country away from home and my support network in an undesirable part of the country. I have no support network here and don't know any F1s and the WhatsApp group chats etc weren't that active for finding houses etc. This led me to apply for hospital accomodation. I'm struggling for a number of reasons even though I haven't even started my job and am seriously worried about how I'm going t cope when the job gets tough.


Firstly the accomodation is an issue. It's great living on site and I absolutely love that I live across the road from work so have no commuting expenses etc. However the accomodation is not great. I have been placed with a middle aged pharmacist in a flat and it is just the two of us and I don't know anyone else in the block. There are no other fy1s from my cohort as far as I am aware living in hospital accomodation which is making things very lonely. I'm used to a big family and suddenly I find myself on my own and it's awful. The accomodation is very basic but all I seem to do when I come home in the evenings is sit in my room on my own because there's nothing to do and weekends are even worse. The other housemate has overtaken all of the communal areas and it feels very awkward to me, especially because I thought I'd be living with a load of f1s. Additionally there is very little else to private rent in the hospital area or town. I've tried searching for months on all the usual websites and there's nothing to rent. I don't even feel at all safe in the town I am in so really don't want to private rent for reasons described later on.

When I spoke to other fy1s people are either living with their parents or living in the largest nearest town. I don't drive and all of the socials appear to be set up by the mess are in the other town. All of the FY1s seem to be from the local medical school so already know each other and already have friendship groups that as an outsider this feels really difficult to break through. No one is interested in talking to me at all and in the lecture theatre they're all sat in their groups and I'm in the row on my own. I've tried to have conversations with doctors but it doesn't lead anywhere and I still end up on my own. I honestly feel like I'm going to be lonely for the entire foundation programme because even my f2 is at the same place.

In terms of the local area, the hospital is situated in a very bad part of town. I've been warned by nursing staff not to venture out 5 minutes down the road from the hospital and I've even been told yesterday that if someone drives in the area the hospital in and the lights turn red that they need to ignore the red light and keep going. This is an urban inner city town with lots of poverty and I'm just not used to this at all, coming from a quiet village. I feel scared to leave the hospital complex and have been told that the town has a high rate of knife crime, gang crime and drugs and I feel so scared to even leave the hospital complex. I think people from the local medical school already knew this, hence why no one lives in this town. In hospital accomodation there are no other fy1s and this is a complete contrast to what I thought it would be like. Even at work, I haven't even got anyone to eat my lunch with and I don't even know where to go. Because I feel scared to leave the hospital complex and come back to this area late at night after I've been out socialising this is making me not want to go out at all. Then because of this I haven't got anyone to talk to.


I literally feel like fy1 and 2 where I am is the biggest mistake of my life. I can't cope here and don't know what to do. Has anyone please got any advice as to how to make things better?
Will I naturally make friends as I rotate through my specialities? I think I've read before that doctors will be friendly with their fellow FY1s and then when they rotate they lose their friends again and I'm just sat here thinking I should never ever have left my med school deanery because I had it so good there with all of my friends and knowing the systems inside out etc
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F1 is very social; you’ll make a whole gang of friends very quickly. You’ll also be paid okay money as an F1 so just formulate an exit strategy to move to the nice part of town ASAP.
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I’m sorry you’re going through this all, it sounds really tough and demoralising
For what it’s worth, I made friends during fy1 with people I absolutely thought I had nothing in common. See, when people are struggling together through oncalls, rotas, doctoring - it’s a massive bonding experience. So yeah, in all likelihood you’ll make friends fairly soon, so don’t despair just yet and give it a chance.
In terms of practical steps, can you try to learn to drive? You’ll have some money for that now, and it sounds like you have some free time in the evenings/weekends you could use for that.
Having a car, even the cheapest possible option, may solve quite a few of the problems you mentioned.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi guys. I am a new FY1 and wondering whether I can seek some advice please. Essentially due to messing up the sjt I have had to move halfway up the country away from home and my support network in an undesirable part of the country. I have no support network here and don't know any F1s and the WhatsApp group chats etc weren't that active for finding houses etc. This led me to apply for hospital accomodation. I'm struggling for a number of reasons even though I haven't even started my job and am seriously worried about how I'm going t cope when the job gets tough.


Firstly the accomodation is an issue. It's great living on site and I absolutely love that I live across the road from work so have no commuting expenses etc. However the accomodation is not great. I have been placed with a middle aged pharmacist in a flat and it is just the two of us and I don't know anyone else in the block. There are no other fy1s from my cohort as far as I am aware living in hospital accomodation which is making things very lonely. I'm used to a big family and suddenly I find myself on my own and it's awful. The accomodation is very basic but all I seem to do when I come home in the evenings is sit in my room on my own because there's nothing to do and weekends are even worse. The other housemate has overtaken all of the communal areas and it feels very awkward to me, especially because I thought I'd be living with a load of f1s. Additionally there is very little else to private rent in the hospital area or town. I've tried searching for months on all the usual websites and there's nothing to rent. I don't even feel at all safe in the town I am in so really don't want to private rent for reasons described later on.

When I spoke to other fy1s people are either living with their parents or living in the largest nearest town. I don't drive and all of the socials appear to be set up by the mess are in the other town. All of the FY1s seem to be from the local medical school so already know each other and already have friendship groups that as an outsider this feels really difficult to break through. No one is interested in talking to me at all and in the lecture theatre they're all sat in their groups and I'm in the row on my own. I've tried to have conversations with doctors but it doesn't lead anywhere and I still end up on my own. I honestly feel like I'm going to be lonely for the entire foundation programme because even my f2 is at the same place.

In terms of the local area, the hospital is situated in a very bad part of town. I've been warned by nursing staff not to venture out 5 minutes down the road from the hospital and I've even been told yesterday that if someone drives in the area the hospital in and the lights turn red that they need to ignore the red light and keep going. This is an urban inner city town with lots of poverty and I'm just not used to this at all, coming from a quiet village. I feel scared to leave the hospital complex and have been told that the town has a high rate of knife crime, gang crime and drugs and I feel so scared to even leave the hospital complex. I think people from the local medical school already knew this, hence why no one lives in this town. In hospital accomodation there are no other fy1s and this is a complete contrast to what I thought it would be like. Even at work, I haven't even got anyone to eat my lunch with and I don't even know where to go. Because I feel scared to leave the hospital complex and come back to this area late at night after I've been out socialising this is making me not want to go out at all. Then because of this I haven't got anyone to talk to.


I literally feel like fy1 and 2 where I am is the biggest mistake of my life. I can't cope here and don't know what to do. Has anyone please got any advice as to how to make things better?
Will I naturally make friends as I rotate through my specialities? I think I've read before that doctors will be friendly with their fellow FY1s and then when they rotate they lose their friends again and I'm just sat here thinking I should never ever have left my med school deanery because I had it so good there with all of my friends and knowing the systems inside out etc
It does sound really tough. But you are hung to be OK
1. Talk to you medical education team
2. Volunteer to be or do something like an f1 rep
3. All f1 re supposed to get a buddy/mentor find yours and see if they can meet up for a coffee break and introduce you to people
4. It is really early in the year to be feeling so dejected and instead you need to draw on some positivity and be outgoing - sit next to groups, say hello that you are new to the area and want to get to know people. All grown ups now, not at school, so should assume that you can get to be friends.
5. If there is a something you are interested in going to - taxi. Chalk up the initial expense to getting to know people. And maybe learn how to drive?
6. Get to know your older pharmacist flat mate.

It’s going to get better, but you are going to have too push that.
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Current FY1 going to FY2. its normal to feel that way. I was there once. dw there are always people that you will meet.
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