Is being 5'8'' a major disadvantage in dating?

4”7 and 25

I'm 5'8'' and I have read many women who say they prefer guys who are much taller than that. Even women who are 5'4'' or 5'5'' themselves.

I do not know how strong the preference is but I'm worried I might not be attractive because of how much shorter I am compared to what women often say they prefer (6' and over).

Do other short guys have noticed this? has it affected your self-esteem or your dating behaviour? (I avoid dating cos I'm thinking I'll be rejected before they even get to know me, just from my appearance?)

And girls, do you really place that much emphasis on height?

There are shallow and superficial people out there who are hung up on having a really tall partner, and you don't have to worry about putting those people off, because you were never going have a deep, long, and happy relationship with them anyway. It's not a disadvantage, it's a convenient filter.

It really depends tbh, i’m 5’7 and prefer guys taller but i’d date anyone my height and up. 5’8 is not bad at all, obviously a lot of women prefer taller guys but if you tick all other boxes then i think you’ll be fine. There’s a lot of guys i know that are shorter then you or around your height and in happy relationships.

Girls do value height a lot. However, many expect most to be 5'4"/5'6"/5'8" or 6' and above, there's a lot of variation. I know many males shorter than me in relationships, and I'm not quite 5'7".

Have u noticed that it sometimes mostly really short girls (4'9 to 5'4) that go for really tall guys?

I'm quite tall for a girl. I don't look at height tbh. my friends who are like 5'0 would only feel attracted to guys 6ft and above.

But then again majority of shorter guys are also looking for women who are shorter than them

I'm 5'8'' and I have read many women who say they prefer guys who are much taller than that. Even women who are 5'4'' or 5'5'' themselves.

I do not know how strong the preference is but I'm worried I might not be attractive because of how much shorter I am compared to what women often say they prefer (6' and over).

Do other short guys have noticed this? has it affected your self-esteem or your dating behaviour? (I avoid dating cos I'm thinking I'll be rejected before they even get to know me, just from my appearance?)

And girls, do you really place that much emphasis on height?

I don't think the majority of women care past wanting to date someone who's taller than them, if they prefer very tall men it's generally a nice bonus rather than a requirement. There are also women like myself who prefer their partners to be shorter or close to their own height, but as you're taller than the vast majority of women that shouldn't even be a problem. Probably the least attractive thing about your height is that you're insecure about it - nobody cares if you're a couple of inches shorter than average but acting like it's some kind of big handicap is off-putting.

You can't blame solely guys and say you're insecure about your height and 'acting like it's some kind of big handicap" when literally every woman can't shut up about height and glorifying tall men. There are other things for which men are mostly insecure for no reason - muscularity and penis size for example - but height is not of them.

I am 5ft 1 and don't do go out with stumpy manlets below 6ft thanks. A princess like me needs a huge guy to look after her and make her feel special.

It goes for both genders though. Men won't shut up about having a girl with a big bum, big boobs and small waist, and are constantly glorifying curvy women.