Is being 5'8'' a major disadvantage in dating?

You can't blame solely guys and say you're insecure about your height and 'acting like it's some kind of big handicap" when literally every woman can't shut up about height and glorifying tall men. There are other things for which men are mostly insecure for no reason - muscularity and penis size for example - but height is not of them.

while it is nice of you to be on here to make other people feel better, i found evidence on your social media (reddit, insta) that you are a lesbian, so your contributions are well-meaning but dishonest

I literally said in my post that I prefer shorter men, so no, "literally every woman" doesn't do this. Nobody is necessarily to "blame" for people not getting dates and I think it's a bad mindset to have, especially as it can lead to feeling hostile towards people for not being attracted to you, which they can't help. Being 5'8" is not a huge handicap for men and even if it was getting a victim complex about it wouldn't be helpful, and I for one would definitely take someone who didn't match my physical ideal over someone who was hung up over an insecurity.

Good for you but this is a thread about advice to others, not what you individually like.

In any case, feel free to advise men that height is unimportant because you personally prefer shorter men. I have found that to be completely false so I'll advise the opposite.

I do not disagree that having a victim complex and thinking you're not gonna get anywhere is a bad mindset. And I didn't say that, I simply acknowledge that it is indeed gonna be hard or harder than most guys, not that it's impossible.

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I was using myself as an example to disprove your universal claim (all women are x - but I'm not so your view is false). I know many men 5'8" and below who have succeeded finding dates and the majority of women I have talked to haven't had any specific height requirement other than that their male partner was taller than them, the most I've heard was three inches taller. Height can be important to some people when seeking a relationship, but for most people who aren't close to extremes (5'8" is two inches below average male height in the UK) it's not. I didn't think you thought it was impossible for a 5'8" man to find a date, but the thing is, it's not really that difficult either - even if height was the only thing that mattered, you'd be in the top two-thirds, which are pretty good chances considering how many people are looking for relationships.

I love TSR's obsession with men's height. It's nearly 20 years and still counting.

But there again, I am 6'5".


Something tells me you have a weight problem. Amirite?

If you read my original post all I said was that it is a disadvantage, which it is.

I wanted to make sure that some of us are aware of it and not make OP think it's all in his head because it's not.

Your post is much more misleading than mine even if ''literally all women'' were indeed interpreted as literally all women.

lol no, I am slim but curves in the right place. With your height you've got the big d*ck energy that the manlets need...

I'm pretty glad you didn't find what I looked like for whatever reason. I don't post pictures of myself under my screen name for exactly this kind of reason.

whyy, it's just natural human curiosity to know what ones interlocutors look like!

One that I've never experienced and find rather creepy.

I'm 5'8'' and I have read many women who say they prefer guys who are much taller than that. Even women who are 5'4'' or 5'5'' themselves.

I do not know how strong the preference is but I'm worried I might not be attractive because of how much shorter I am compared to what women often say they prefer (6' and over).

Do other short guys have noticed this? has it affected your self-esteem or your dating behaviour? (I avoid dating cos I'm thinking I'll be rejected before they even get to know me, just from my appearance?)

And girls, do you really place that much emphasis on height?

I'm 5'8'' and I have read many women who say they prefer guys who are much taller than that. Even women who are 5'4'' or 5'5'' themselves.

I do not know how strong the preference is but I'm worried I might not be attractive because of how much shorter I am compared to what women often say they prefer (6' and over).

Do other short guys have noticed this? has it affected your self-esteem or your dating behaviour? (I avoid dating cos I'm thinking I'll be rejected before they even get to know me, just from my appearance?)

And girls, do you really place that much emphasis on height?

mm yes i'm sure you have never clicked on the Facebook profile of a stranger, righteous as you are!

Not really, a lot of K-pop idols are 5'8 in height, their faces and muscles usually compensate though.

I have no idea why I'd have reason to do that. I don't consider it an issue of morals, I just don't see a good reason why someone would want to see what a random person on the internet looks like, and I bet you don't have one to give me.