Men, why do you cheat?

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So I was in a relationship for a very long time and I’m not bragging but I was the perfect girlfriend to him in every way. I’d say I’m physically attractive as well. But he still cheated, I asked why and he honestly had no reason because I gave him my all and he knew that I was the perfect girlfriend to him. Now of course he wants me back because he’s realised (I’m sorry this sounds really braggy ik😭). But I just want to know why do guys cheat even when their relationship is perfect. Like in ours we never argued, we laughed all the time and were best friends. So why what is the reason why you cheat if everything is perfect?
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Don't know why he cheated. But i can tell you that not all men cheats even if their girlfriend is not perfect. You're just unlucky that you got a cheater in your life.
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Flattered someone wanted him
The thrill
Variety
Thinking he can get away with it
Because he's a backside
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(Original post by Anonymous)
So I was in a relationship for a very long time and I’m not bragging but I was the perfect girlfriend to him in every way. I’d say I’m physically attractive as well. But he still cheated, I asked why and he honestly had no reason because I gave him my all and he knew that I was the perfect girlfriend to him. Now of course he wants me back because he’s realised (I’m sorry this sounds really braggy ik😭). But I just want to know why do guys cheat even when their relationship is perfect. Like in ours we never argued, we laughed all the time and were best friends. So why what is the reason why you cheat if everything is perfect?
If you give some people too much, they take it for granted and stop appreciating you.

It's crap. It pulls people in positions like yours into playing games, playing 'hard to get' and gibberish like it... to keep the other person hooked. But in the long term this will never work, and it's not generally healthy. A relationship where you have interminably play 'carrot on a stick' with your partner, isn't worth being in. As soon as they get the carrot, they loose interest. They don't want the relationship, they just want the feeling of pursuing one.

Twisted. Stupid. Don't fall for it. If a guy does this to you, move on. Don't become one of those women that plays games and strings guys along to keep them hooked.
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Women cheat too. It doesn't matter which gender does it more. The fact is, they both cheat
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Women cheat too. It doesn't matter which gender does it more. The fact is, they both cheat
no one said they didn't
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no one said they didn't
It's stupid asking if men cheat when all genders do, she may aswell ask why do people cheat
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It's stupid asking if men cheat when all genders do, she may aswell ask why do people cheat
You’re kinda focusing on the wrong thing... but if that’s what floats your boat: why do people cheat in general?
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If you give some people too much, they take it for granted and stop appreciating you.

It's crap. It pulls people in positions like yours into playing games, playing 'hard to get' and gibberish like it... to keep the other person hooked. But in the long term this will never work, and it's not generally healthy. A relationship where you have interminably play 'carrot on a stick' with your partner, isn't worth being in. As soon as they get the carrot, they loose interest. They don't want the relationship, they just want the feeling of pursuing one.

Twisted. Stupid. Don't fall for it. If a guy does this to you, move on. Don't become one of those women that plays games and strings guys along to keep them hooked.
But I don’t understand that logic because if they’re perfect to me that would make me fall in love with them more and want them more. Is this not the same with everyone?
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Not sure if the inclination to cheat is more male than female, to be honest. There is someone about wanting to have your cake and eat it that seems to be human nature
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So I was in a relationship for a very long time and I’m not bragging but I was the perfect girlfriend to him in every way. I’d say I’m physically attractive as well. But he still cheated, I asked why and he honestly had no reason because I gave him my all and he knew that I was the perfect girlfriend to him. Now of course he wants me back because he’s realised (I’m sorry this sounds really braggy ik😭). But I just want to know why do guys cheat even when their relationship is perfect. Like in ours we never argued, we laughed all the time and were best friends. So why what is the reason why you cheat if everything is perfect?
Women, why do you cheat?

So I was in a relationship for a very long time and I’m not bragging but I was the perfect boyfriend to her in every way. I’d say I’m physically attractive as well. But she still cheated, I asked why and she honestly had no reason because I gave her my all and she knew that I was the perfect boyfriend to her. Now of course she wants me back because she’s realised (I’m sorry this sounds really braggy ik😭). But I just want to know why do women cheat even when their relationship is perfect. Like in ours we never argued, we laughed all the time and were best friends. So why what is the reason why you cheat if everything is perfect?
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opportunity for something different, thrill, drunk and out of it, horny/desire for that person, cold feet about monogamy
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It's got nothing to do with you.

Even if you weren't the 'perfect' girlfriend to him he most likely would still have cheated. A cheater will always cheat.

Some people are just *****y, unfortunately.
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opportunity and they feel entitled to cheat because they've been socialised to believe it's okay so long as they don't get caught. they want all the comforts of having a steady relationship and the thrill of having casual sex. it's a real shame and hypocrisy since cheaters would not be too happy if they found out their partner was cheating on them.

you're not going to take him back, are you?
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But I don’t understand that logic because if they’re perfect to me that would make me fall in love with them more and want them more. Is this not the same with everyone?
Superficially, it's not logical. If we were to succeed in fully understanding the inner workings of his mind... we might be able to discern the 'logic' in his behavior.

People for example self-sabotage relationships, perhaps by cheating, because they're afraid of the intimacy that a long-term relationship exposes them to. It makes them more vulnerable than they are comfortable with. The reason for that may be that they were raised by abusive parents who destroyed their trust in other people. Or perhaps they were bullied in school. That type of stuff. People can self-sabotage relationships in other ways too, not just cheating. Cheating is a topic of it's down that I've already chewed to death on these forums over the past day or two under other threads.

So on the one hand, they might want a relationship, genuinely. But on the other hand are too scared to actually commit to one and behave appropriately in order to maintain one.

Let's put the dysfunctional people to one side, and focusing on more 'normal' and healthy people for a minute:
Nobody is 'perfect'. Having arguments from time to time is actually not only normal, but healthy. Research done on this has shown that the most sustainable relationships usually involve 1 out of 5 interactions being some type of minor argument. If the arguments are too frequent, it's too stressful and you're probably not compatible. If there are no arguments whatsoever, then you either get bored of each other because of it, or more likely... someone is not being genuine. Because people are not perfect, you will always have differences. People resolve those differences through arguments.

Someone who never argues, or never disagrees with you on anything... is probably not being entirely honest with you about what they really think. Ultimately, that's what blows the relationship to pieces. Each time they disagreed with you but kept it to themselves instead, builds up, and either results in a buildup of anger and an emotional outburst that breaks the relationship, or causes them to emotionally dissociate from the relationship entirely instead, which will instead look like they're getting bored of you. People who do this, might be doing it because they haven't learned how to properly control their emotions, so repress them instead, or dissociate from the situation that is causing them stress. One is explosive, the other is passive.

Hopefully... these things sound a little more logical now, after I've explained it. It's just a bit complicated, that's all.
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Self obsession, lack of care for partner (warranted or unwarranted)
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So I was in a relationship for a very long time and I’m not bragging but I was the perfect girlfriend to him in every way. I’d say I’m physically attractive as well. But he still cheated, I asked why and he honestly had no reason because I gave him my all and he knew that I was the perfect girlfriend to him. Now of course he wants me back because he’s realised (I’m sorry this sounds really braggy ik😭). But I just want to know why do guys cheat even when their relationship is perfect. Like in ours we never argued, we laughed all the time and were best friends. So why what is the reason why you cheat if everything is perfect?
I have couple of guesses why...

He may not have wanted to settle down after having sex with one girl only (no matter how attractive or good you were) ... he may wanted to try sex with another girl to see how differently it feels.. since i think it can get boring with just one person... maybe thats my twisted thinking.. could be influenced by social media etc.

Another reason is that he might just be agreeing/comforting you thinking you were perfect to him.. but there might have been something bothering him that he either thought wasn't a big of a deal or just didn't want to bring it to your attention... but i think he would a pursued a relationship rather than just sex

i could be chatting bs.. but this is what i think from my imagination
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P.S. I assume the OP is a heterosexual woman, interested in men. Hence the thread title. She's not interested in women, or women who cheat.

I don't see the big deal either when a guy makes a thread about women who cheat. Unless we're now expecting everyone to be so gender fluid and gender agnostic that it makes no difference.

Besides, men and women tend to cheat for slightly different reasons. So it's not the same.
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