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all my life I’ve been told by family and a couple of friends that I exhibit a lot of symptoms of ADHD quite often.
So when my boyfriend brought this up…I feel as though a diagnosis might help me a lot. Especially as I am heading into the last year of my degree where I feel I can be doing a lot better and need more help.

I realise you need to have had ADHD as a child to be able to be diagnosed with it as an adult. As a child I remember having extra support in the classroom because I would have emotional breakdowns. Although I wasn’t badly behaved and I was quite quiet, I always seemed to interrupt the class with excessive crying about small things or sometimes for no reason. I can’t ever remember doing my homework. I remember being in good classes throughout school but I was never top of the class. I found it really hard to focus in school though. I always daydreamed. I remember in secondary school I would try to refocus on the lesson but end up distracted by trying to focus too much. I’d think about anything but the things I was meant to. As a child I was also teased for making strange “tics” (not sure how else to call them) where I’d excitedly move my hands or run to another room just out of excitement. If I was angry I’d bite down on my lip so hard it would bleed. I still do these things and I even found myself at work scratching myself and I noticed this cos I made myself bleed. I seem to do it during intense emotion but also due to fidgeting.

I have been able to hide these things as I got older because people told me it was weird, but I can’t stop doing it.
Nowadays, people pick up I do:
Walk to rooms in a day dream and have no idea what I’m doing
Losing things
Dangerous driving (I tend to speed without really thinking about it)
Inability to do any Uni work without moving onto something else. I manage to get things done but it’s usually rushed and never to my potential.
I still do the things I did as a child
I tend to talk excessively about one topic then randomly to another. But I struggle to make friends and very introverted, I find it hard understanding how to speak with people.
I have irrational fears of doctors etc and whenever I’m in an environment I freak out to no end, it’s embarrassing, but even when I tried soup for the first time at 20 years old I didn’t know how to react and it was like my mind didn’t like the unknown. I’ve also felt this when my boyfriend gets a haircut or wants a new tattoo. I don’t like the change (I’m not sure this is a symptom but hoped if it’s not ADHD then someone can suggest if something is more apt)

I just need help, my life is messy. I try so hard to get it on track but it seems impossible with the way my mind is. Any advice would be soooooo amazing
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all my life I’ve been told by family and a couple of friends that I exhibit a lot of symptoms of ADHD quite often.
So when my boyfriend brought this up…I feel as though a diagnosis might help me a lot. Especially as I am heading into the last year of my degree where I feel I can be doing a lot better and need more help.

I realise you need to have had ADHD as a child to be able to be diagnosed with it as an adult. As a child I remember having extra support in the classroom because I would have emotional breakdowns. Although I wasn’t badly behaved and I was quite quiet, I always seemed to interrupt the class with excessive crying about small things or sometimes for no reason. I can’t ever remember doing my homework. I remember being in good classes throughout school but I was never top of the class. I found it really hard to focus in school though. I always daydreamed. I remember in secondary school I would try to refocus on the lesson but end up distracted by trying to focus too much. I’d think about anything but the things I was meant to. As a child I was also teased for making strange “tics” (not sure how else to call them) where I’d excitedly move my hands or run to another room just out of excitement. If I was angry I’d bite down on my lip so hard it would bleed. I still do these things and I even found myself at work scratching myself and I noticed this cos I made myself bleed. I seem to do it during intense emotion but also due to fidgeting.

I have been able to hide these things as I got older because people told me it was weird, but I can’t stop doing it.
Nowadays, people pick up I do:
Walk to rooms in a day dream and have no idea what I’m doing
Losing things
Dangerous driving (I tend to speed without really thinking about it)
Inability to do any Uni work without moving onto something else. I manage to get things done but it’s usually rushed and never to my potential.
I still do the things I did as a child
I tend to talk excessively about one topic then randomly to another. But I struggle to make friends and very introverted, I find it hard understanding how to speak with people.
I have irrational fears of doctors etc and whenever I’m in an environment I freak out to no end, it’s embarrassing, but even when I tried soup for the first time at 20 years old I didn’t know how to react and it was like my mind didn’t like the unknown. I’ve also felt this when my boyfriend gets a haircut or wants a new tattoo. I don’t like the change (I’m not sure this is a symptom but hoped if it’s not ADHD then someone can suggest if something is more apt)

I just need help, my life is messy. I try so hard to get it on track but it seems impossible with the way my mind is. Any advice would be soooooo amazing
If anyone on TSR replies to say you definitely have or don't have ADHD, their advice should be immediately discounted. No-one can diagnose on the basis of a social media post, and there could be a number of reasons for the difficulties you describe.

The important point is you are having difficulties with your emotional/mental health that are significantly interfering with everyday activities, and you'd probably benefit from a specialist assessment. The "proper" way to do this is to go to your GP and ask for one. The problem will be that getting an ADHD assessment of the NHS when you're an adult can be hard.

Your best bet is to start with a clear statement of your problems, making sure to include the key symptoms that are likely to trigger a specialist referral. Si9nce you don't have a diagnosis from childhood, you'll need to provide evidence that
- you have the typical manifestations of ADHD (hyperactivity/impulsivity and/or inattention). A diary of how they affect you over a week or something might help
- they began during childhood and have persisted throughout life
- they aren't explained by other psychiatric diagnoses
- they have resulted in or are associated with moderate or severe psychological, social and/or educational or occupational impairment (i.e. they interfere with daily life, most days)
- they occur in a variety of settings (eg not just at work or in the home).

This is taken from the NICE guidance here https://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/ng8...n-and-referral

You can see from the guidance that first line treatment is usually modifications to your living spaces and routines, some skills training or advice, and finally medication. But you can do the first things without even having a formal diagnosis. A support group like the ADHD Foundation might help with everything https://adhdfoundation.org.uk/adults/

Good luck!

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You have quite a lot of l symptoms that would be consistent with ADHD however it is not a straightforward diagnosis and there's a lot of crossover with other neuro diverse differences such as autism and dyslexia.
It is often considered that hyperactivity is required the diagnosis however ADD the non-hyperactive version is as common as the hyperactive version and probably significantly more common in females. The history you give of your child and school days is extremely consistent with that which would expect from any with ADHD. The start of the diagnostic process of all neuro diverse conditions the exception of dyslexia is your GP. The GP will find it particularly careful helpful if you can produce written evidence of the symptoms you had as a child from an independent witness such as a parent or sibling . GPs don't have a lot of time to take a complicated history like as is required for ADHD so a bullet point list of the symptoms and effects you have will be useful to them. If this history was presented to me I would refer for a diagnosis though I might be suspicious that we need to look at ASD as well as ADHD because you have a few symptoms that are more consistent with the ASD diagnosis since they are often copresent with one be more dominant than the other this should not be seen as a problem.
I would definitely recommend being assess as it can be eye-opening both yourself and close friends and partners and really create any disadvantages as you don't need to tell people if you don't want to.
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