Should I wish my bf a happy birthday?

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I've been with my bf for 3 years, but the last year has been rocky due to COVID restrictions etc. It's his 30th birthday today, but the last few weeks we have been arguing and are experiencing a relationship breakdown. We are going to go for therapy, and are not talking until after the first session (every time we talk at the moment it's pointless as we go round in circles).

Usually for his birthdays I make a big effort - bake a cake, take him away to special places for the weekend, and generally spoil him. However today I haven't even wished him a happy birthday and don't know if I should. He's not even bothered about his birthday - in the past he would've been quite happy if we hadn't celebrated it, but I wanted to as I wanted him to feel special. He always makes a huge effort for my birthdays.

I feel like he wouldn't care if I didn't acknowledge it, but it's eating me up inside. However, my parents have messaged him and he hasn't responded to them to thank them. Should I just not talk to him today or should I send him a simple 'Happy birthday' text?
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Thanks. What should I say? Would 'Happy Birthday' suffice do you think? I'm not sure there's any point putting kisses on the end
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Thanks. What should I say? Would 'Happy Birthday' suffice do you think? I'm not sure there's any point putting kisses on the end
I personally would write a little more than just 'Happy Birthday' because you've known him for three years. Everyone likes to feel special. I think you should send him cake like Katya said . He is your boyfriend after all. That's what I would do anyway.
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Yes, you're still his bf, and even though he doesn't care about his birthday, he'll be happy on the inside to know that you care.
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