Should a mum tell you something makes you look ugly when you're 5?

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Basically as a kid my older sister would always wear her hair down and people would always tell her she looks pretty. I wanted to be like her and also wear my hair down instead of my usual ponytail. However my mum would not let me. Like ever. She told me it makes me look ugly and that I can only have it tied back. I remember crying as a 5 year old because me and my sister were playing and then she put her hair down with a headband and I went to do the same but my mum came into the room and stopped me and said I look ugly with my hair down.
Should a mother tell a 5 year old something is ugly on them/ doesn't suit them even if it is the truth? Hurt self-esteem/no confidence or learning to accept the truth from a young age?
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No, it's experiences like these which ruin children and shape their future for the worst. Upbringing shapes a large part of you, parents should realise that.
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Parents definitely shouldn't do that.

I remember how my mother told me I looked like "a freak" because she didn't like my outfit.
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Well, that's some fairly dreadful parenting right there.
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No. This kind of thing is the origin point for dodgy ideas that 5 year old will have in 15 years.
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IMHO, it depends.

If it's something that other kids may tease them about, then I don't see the harm in tactfully telling them (maybe word it a bit better than it makes you look ugly). However, if it's just not to the mothers tastes, then she should just let her kids be kids
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