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Partner won’t let me see friends

My partner won’t let me see my friends, and insists on me stopping messaging them, and said I shouldn’t have female friends as it’s cheating. My partner checks my phone every day and bans me from following other girls on Instagram.

Any advice?
Reply 1
Original post by Anonymous
My partner won’t let me see my friends, and insists on me stopping messaging them, and said I shouldn’t have female friends as it’s cheating. My partner checks my phone every day and bans me from following other girls on Instagram.

Any advice?

My partner doesn’t let me spend the money I earn either, and checks my spending constantly If I do.
Reply 2
leave them, they sound toxic and controlling
Reply 3
Original post by li2
leave them, they sound toxic and controlling

Agreed they sound toxic, not healthy.
This sounds slightly like abuse, but ofc every situation is different.
It's not up to your partner to tell you who you can and cannot talk to, nor should they be going through your phone. Stop obeying their rules. If they threaten to break-up with you over it then kindly escort them to the door and never allow them back in.
Reply 6
Original post by Glemon
Agreed they sound toxic, not healthy.

Though a sit-down chat about your concerns would be helpful for the both of you even if you break up, they would be able to understand where your coming from for their future relationships and you might feel good getting it out in the open.
break up with them
Reply 8
Original post by Ranker
Smack your partner fam

Violence is never the answer.
Reply 9
Original post by sinfonietta
It's not up to your partner to tell you who you can and cannot talk to, nor should they be going through your phone. Stop obeying their rules. If they threaten to break-up with you over it then kindly escort them to the door and never allow them back in.

She accuses me of being wrong, even though her mum says she is acting stupid. She also accuses her mum of liking me more than her.
https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/healthy-body/getting-help-for-domestic-violence/

scroll down and check the section which says SIGNS OF DOMESTIC ABUSE AND VIOLENCE. What you describe is similar to some of the things in the first part which says 'emotional abuse'
(edited 2 years ago)
Original post by Asha_m
This sounds slightly like abuse, but ofc every situation is different.

Sure, if by "slightly", you mean "exactly".

OP: Your partner sounds controlling, manipulative, and toxic, and you'd do very well to leave them.
Reply 12
Original post by Anonymous
My partner won’t let me see my friends, and insists on me stopping messaging them, and said I shouldn’t have female friends as it’s cheating. My partner checks my phone every day and bans me from following other girls on Instagram.

Any advice?

Sounds like she is trying to box you in and isolate you from others this sounds like the start of domestic abuse personally I would say leave the relationship now before things get any worse it might seem minor all these problems but when you get to the other side you will see that these problems are large than you see right now

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