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I’m the type of person who would rather spend an evening drinking tea and playing chess than going out clubbing. I’m also allergic to alcohol which really doesn’t help

I’ve joined some freshers groups and seems like everyone is very focused on going out, how can I meet people who might want to stay in and chill with me? Is this a socially acceptable thing to do during freshers?
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You won't be the only one, many people are like you.
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I’m the type of person who would rather spend an evening drinking tea and playing chess than going out clubbing. I’m also allergic to alcohol which really doesn’t help

I’ve joined some freshers groups and seems like everyone is very focused on going out, how can I meet people who might want to stay in and chill with me? Is this a socially acceptable thing to do during freshers?
Is there a big group chat for your course/year?? Invite people round cor a board game night or a movie night. My group are mixed with drinking and more chilled activities. So some people make cocktails some don’t but we all play board games and stuff.

Also activities help. So if there’s a uni activity go do it. Like my uni just did dragon boating for my course on Saturday. We have a total wipeout thing next weekend. There’s a picnic on Wednesday. You’ll also meet a lot of different people in sports sessions if there’s any you wanted to try out
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I’m the type of person who would rather spend an evening drinking tea and playing chess than going out clubbing. I’m also allergic to alcohol which really doesn’t help

I’ve joined some freshers groups and seems like everyone is very focused on going out, how can I meet people who might want to stay in and chill with me? Is this a socially acceptable thing to do during freshers?
Most universities have societies which you would be able to join this could be a possible avenue to make friends for example Table Top gaming or even Chess clubs are rather common at universities so their isn't much to worry about additionally if your in accommodation their will be people their who might want to socialise with you..
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I’m the type of person who would rather spend an evening drinking tea and playing chess than going out clubbing. I’m also allergic to alcohol which really doesn’t help

I’ve joined some freshers groups and seems like everyone is very focused on going out, how can I meet people who might want to stay in and chill with me? Is this a socially acceptable thing to do during freshers?
Hi there,

I hope you are well

You really will be surprised of the wide variety of people that go to University, that I am sure that very soon you will find people of the same interests as you. You did the right thing joining some fresher groups, but have you looked into societies that you find interesting. For example, does your University have a 'tea-drinking' society you could get involved in?
Equally, you can make friends when you start to go into your tutorials (and hopefully lectures soon!), and from then you can chat to your peers about interests, and see if you can find friends that way. You can't forget that everyone's in the same boat as you - and sometimes you'll come across people you don't want to be friends with, and sometimes you'll come across people you love spending your time with. Don't worry too much - everything will fall into place once the ball starts rolling. However, getting enrolled in societies that you're interested in is a great start

Ana
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**** your friends, they're all ********s anyways.
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I’m the type of person who would rather spend an evening drinking tea and playing chess than going out clubbing. I’m also allergic to alcohol which really doesn’t help

I’ve joined some freshers groups and seems like everyone is very focused on going out, how can I meet people who might want to stay in and chill with me? Is this a socially acceptable thing to do during freshers?
Hi Anonymous,

I'd really recommend having a look at societies and sports teams to join, they are such a great way to make friends! I couldn't drink for 4 months due to medication and during that time I joined a new society to fill the clubbing/bars/pub gap in my life and it was so much fun! I met loads of really great people through it.

Lucy
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I’m the type of person who would rather spend an evening drinking tea and playing chess than going out clubbing. I’m also allergic to alcohol which really doesn’t help

I’ve joined some freshers groups and seems like everyone is very focused on going out, how can I meet people who might want to stay in and chill with me? Is this a socially acceptable thing to do during freshers?
Hi,
I was also really worried about this as I don't drink alcohol and would prefer to have a night in than a night out too. However, I found that loads more people at uni than I thought felt the same way. I know quite a few people at uni who don't drink alcohol or prefer a night in rather than a night out.

It may depend on your uni but during Freshers' Week at Southampton, the Students' Union organised zero alcohol social nights as well as clubbing events. These included watching films at the uni cinema (though alcohol was served if you wanted it) and alcohol-free mini golf.

Lots of societies here (and I'm assuming at other universities too) have a mixture of clubbing/alcohol socials (although actually drinking at these events is always optional of course) but also no-alcohol (or less alcohol) socials like bbqs or quiz nights.

You will make friends though. Freshers' isn't the only way to make friends too, I met my best friends (and housemates) through societies and my course (and one of my original flatmates).

I hope this helps and please feel free to ask any questions in the comments!

Daisy (an Official University of Southampton Rep)
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just spend time with others and get to know them. join societies, go to clubs. depends whatever you like doing
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I’m the type of person who would rather spend an evening drinking tea and playing chess than going out clubbing. I’m also allergic to alcohol which really doesn’t help

I’ve joined some freshers groups and seems like everyone is very focused on going out, how can I meet people who might want to stay in and chill with me? Is this a socially acceptable thing to do during freshers?
i love chess too, and just staying inside lots of people are like you so dw
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