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Not sure if this is the right place to post this, but my Saudi Arabian girlfriend is thinking about claiming asylum in the UK before her Uni course ends next year. She is worried that her family has friends in high places in the Saudi government and will do all they can to bring her back for "shaming" the family for:

1) Being in a relationship out of wedlock
2) Being in a relationship with another woman i.e. me!

She was really lucky to study here in the first place, as she pretty much had to beg her father to let her study abroad and wants to live her life as she is and knows in her heart of heart that her family will never accept her sexuality and would force her to marry a man to avoid any "shame"

I'd really appriciate it if anyone on the forum has had experience of claiming asylum based on sexual orientation or has any useful information that can help my girlfriend.
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What is her sexuality?
I mentioned she is in a relationship with me (I am also a woman). This is against Saudi Arabian law.
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Not sure if this is the right place to post this, but my Saudi Arabian girlfriend is thinking about claiming asylum in the UK before her Uni course ends next year. She is worried that her family has friends in high places in the Saudi government and will do all they can to bring her back for "shaming" the family for:

1) Being in a relationship out of wedlock
2) Being in a relationship with another woman i.e. me!

She was really lucky to study here in the first place, as she pretty much had to beg her father to let her study abroad and wants to live her life as she is and knows in her heart of heart that her family will never accept her sexuality and would force her to marry a man to avoid any "shame"

I'd really appriciate it if anyone on the forum has had experience of claiming asylum based on sexual orientation or has any useful information that can help my girlfriend.
She'd have to be very careful since this could be quite dangerous, I remember watching documentaries similar to this
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Here are some links that may be helpful to your gf and you:

https://www.rainbowmigration.org.uk
https://blackstonelaw.co.uk/uk-visas...-for-lgbt.html
https://aronastjames.co.uk/lgbt-advice/
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Not sure if this is the right place to post this, but my Saudi Arabian girlfriend is thinking about claiming asylum in the UK before her Uni course ends next year. She is worried that her family has friends in high places in the Saudi government and will do all they can to bring her back for "shaming" the family for:

1) Being in a relationship out of wedlock
2) Being in a relationship with another woman i.e. me!

She was really lucky to study here in the first place, as she pretty much had to beg her father to let her study abroad and wants to live her life as she is and knows in her heart of heart that her family will never accept her sexuality and would force her to marry a man to avoid any "shame"

I'd really appriciate it if anyone on the forum has had experience of claiming asylum based on sexual orientation or has any useful information that can help my girlfriend.
I'm rooting for her though! I really hope she makes it out safe
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Is it not possible to claim it as mere friendship to avoid harm from her family?
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She'd have to be very careful since this could be quite dangerous, I remember watching documentaries similar to this
She has mentioned that a lot of woman are treated as "objects" by Saudi men and that it is a very patriarchal society. She understands if she goes down this path and she is unsuccessful, she pretty much has an awful life in front of her.
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Thank you so much for those links!
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I'm rooting for her though! I really hope she makes it out safe
Thank you for your support. She really means a lot to me, and I'd hate to be seperated from her.
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Not sure if this is the right place to post this, but my Saudi Arabian girlfriend is thinking about claiming asylum in the UK before her Uni course ends next year. She is worried that her family has friends in high places in the Saudi government and will do all they can to bring her back for "shaming" the family for:

1) Being in a relationship out of wedlock
2) Being in a relationship with another woman i.e. me!

She was really lucky to study here in the first place, as she pretty much had to beg her father to let her study abroad and wants to live her life as she is and knows in her heart of heart that her family will never accept her sexuality and would force her to marry a man to avoid any "shame"

I'd really appriciate it if anyone on the forum has had experience of claiming asylum based on sexual orientation or has any useful information that can help my girlfriend.
I mean it does go against their religion and culture
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She has mentioned that a lot of woman are treated as "objects" by Saudi men and that it is a very patriarchal society. She understands if she goes down this path and she is unsuccessful, she pretty much has an awful life in front of her.
nah, they treat their objects better lol (sad but true)
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Thank you for your support. She really means a lot to me, and I'd hate to be seperated from her.
she deserves to get out and live! like if she stays I bet they'll marry her off to a possible abusive husband
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She was really lucky to study here in the first place, as she pretty much had to beg her father to let her study abroad and wants to live her life as she is and knows in her heart of heart that her family will never accept her sexuality and would force her to marry a man to avoid any "shame"
Marrying them off soon isn't going to solve anything. It is the most foolish thing a family can do.
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Have you had sex?
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She is worried that her family has friends in high places in the Saudi government and will do all they can to bring her back for "shaming" the family for:

1) Being in a relationship out of wedlock
2) Being in a relationship with another woman i.e. me!
How do they know it in the first place?
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How do they know it in the first place?
And I would prefer to believe that there is nothing sexual between you.
They would know if she claims asylum.

Also your second question is creepy and none of your business.
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Why should she claim asylum in the first place?
Maybe, just maybe... being a conservative Islamic country, she'll be persecuted for her sexualtiy?

I didn't mean to be creepy. I apologize if I came across that way. I meant to be homophobic.
Of course... that makes your comment perfectly ok, doesn't it :rolleyes:
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I wish you all the best and I really hope things work out for the both of you. However, you need to seek specialist advice off immigration experts. It would be a really shame if someone on TSR gave bad advice and that resulted in an unfortunate outcome.
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Maybe, just maybe... being a conservative Islamic country, she'll be persecuted for her sexualtiy?
No one will know what is in her mind as long as she doesn't openly express it. Personally, I am against homosexuality, but if she wishes to proceed with it, at least could she not avoid unnecessarily cutting ties with her family?
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No one will know what is in her mind as long as she doesn't openly express it. Personally, I am against homosexuality, but if she wishes to proceed with it, at least could she not avoid unnecessarily cutting ties with her family?
Are you seriously suggesting she lives a lie?

Assuming she's fully lesbian (and not bisexual), chances are it'll leak out and someone will pick up on it, and they'll take "appropriate action".

Anyway, being a woman from a patriarchal society, maybe she likes the freedom the west offers her now.


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