What's the Uni experience like with social anxiety?Watch
Student life, in partnership with UEA
That being said, it is a lot easier to make an effort in university. You can join clubs and societies to find people with similar interests so they're easier to talk to. While living in halls you can also make friends with your flatmates.
It's also helpful to remember that everyone will be nervous when starting university, and everyone is searching for new friends.
Sorry to hear about that! I get anxious as well, so my advice would be to definitely try to put yourself out there, especially in the first days of first year when everyone is nervous, because then at least you're in the same boat. Even if it's just turning to someone you're sitting next to or nearby and just say hi, introduce yourself, talk about the subject material (boring? challenging? interesting?), ask them questions too. People love to talk about themselves, and it takes the pressure off of you to speak and to say the 'right thing' (which is what I normally freak out over before, during and after conversations). Lectures can be intimidating, so maybe try seminars or other small gatherings? I believe seminars are a must to have someone because of that dreaded moment - the group project - where the teacher says "everyone choose amongst yourselves" and because you never said a word to anyone, or aren't acquainted with anyone, you awkwardly have to insert yourself somewhere (or be inserted). It's easier than we think to say hi to someone, especially when we're all new to something. And even if a friendship doesn't come out of a specific situation, it's okay, uni is a much bigger pond to fish in than high school. You'll be okay! I'm rooting for you! Hope that helps! Anything else, lmk!
Samantha, Official UoP Rep
When she started uni she brought a white board and wipe pens. That went down a treat. It ended up turning into a chunder chart, come cleaning rota, come message board. She also brought some chocolates and biscuits. Plus 2 bottles of wine and some beer (she doesnt drink) . Plus playing cards and a board game. It was just a way to break the ice and say hi.
Because of covid, they got inventive and turned their flats into a themed bar crawl, plus halloween, valentines, all chipping in for a projector for movie nights, and other themed nights such as disney, 1920s, sports night etc. It wasn't parties all the time because they all had different schedules, but at least once a week they made an effort to all get together, and meet individually/smaller flat group the rest of the time.
So get chatting on line, and bring a few bits on move in day to say hi, welcome