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Hi everyone,

I'm 19M and have recently met a 16 (soon to be 17) year old girl at my work. I really like this girl, she is kind, beautiful and we get along really well. I can't tell if she has any interest in me, however, I have noticed that she does try and spend time with me whenever she can.

I feel very conflicted. I know that should I make a move it would be legal, however, I can't help but feel slightly uncomfortable at the age gap. I also am very concerned at the impact this will have at my work. I won't be able to stay on if she says no, and if she says yes it will make things awkward with co-workers. The last thing I want is for people to think that I am taking advantage of her.

I really don't want her to be uncomfortable, I'd hate for her to think of me as a creep if I asked her out. I would like to keep her as a friend if she says no because I really like her as a person.

What would you recommend I do?
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It's really not worth it
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Nah, i dont know about it, leave work and love aside maybe, she's still really young tbh
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Unpopular opinion but yes I think you should. It will play on your mind for a long time if you don't shoot your shot.
Also, I don't think the age gap is bad. At her age she probably knows what she's doing. Good luck
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I never used to think this, but dating someone at 18 or under seems too early to me (no longer supportive of it basically), at least in the UK. Things become legal, people develop an addiction or dependency on drugs, alcohol, cigarettes or gambling. It'll eventually develop into a difficult life. I'd wait until she's 19 to see if she's the same, you know, just in case.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi everyone,

I'm 19M and have recently met a 16 (soon to be 17) year old girl at my work. I really like this girl, she is kind, beautiful and we get along really well. I can't tell if she has any interest in me, however, I have noticed that she does try and spend time with me whenever she can.

I feel very conflicted. I know that should I make a move it would be legal, however, I can't help but feel slightly uncomfortable at the age gap. I also am very concerned at the impact this will have at my work. I won't be able to stay on if she says no, and if she says yes it will make things awkward with co-workers. The last thing I want is for people to think that I am taking advantage of her.

I really don't want her to be uncomfortable, I'd hate for her to think of me as a creep if I asked her out. I would like to keep her as a friend if she says no because I really like her as a person.

What would you recommend I do?
In my head she is a receptionist at Dunder Muflin Pam and your Jim
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Thank you everyone for your suggestions. I definitely think I will leave it alone for the time being.
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Thank you everyone for your suggestions. I definitely think I will leave it alone for the time being.

To be fair, I do say that you should just leave it and wait a little bit longer until you know for definite what you both want.

Last thing you want is to make your job, which I’d imagine is most convenient for you, to be ruined.
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Thank you everyone for your suggestions. I definitely think I will leave it alone for the time being.
Hope you happiness
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