Girls ! What would you do ?! Finding out my fiancé was paying for only fans

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I found out a while back my fiancé was on onlyfans i for one did not let it slide, he however felt embarrassed at the fact that he had it so he said. He never wanted to tell me who he was paying to watch said it was “some famous person” til this day I obviously haven’t gotten over it and I don’t think I’ll get past it especially bc yesterday I brought up that I had “found out” who he was watching, I lied of course to see if he’d deny who I was going to say turns out I was right from day one. ( we both have a old middle/high school friend that does content) it really bothered me especially bc we knew this person, she is someone I would talk to I was good friends w her.
The simple fact that our relationship was very good at the time when I had found this all out and he didn’t even think about how it’d affect me in the moment of him paying just makes it so sad

Last night I was a CRY BABY I could not stop crying (might be the time soon 💀) I’m just so upset and sad that I don’t know how to go about it anymore
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You're mad your boyfriend paid for porn? That seems weird. Being straight seems exhausting...
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(Original post by artful_lounger)
You're mad your boyfriend paid for porn? That seems weird. Being straight seems exhausting...
For paying to see my friend ? Yes I am
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You're mad your boyfriend paid for porn? That seems weird. Being straight seems exhausting...
i think theyre more mad at the fact that the porn is of someone who they both knew quite well (well the girl at least)

i could be wrong tho and could be interpreting the post incorrectly
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is the guy still in contact with the friend?? like do they still talk??
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i think theyre more mad at the fact that the porn is of someone who they both knew quite well (well the girl at least)

i could be wrong tho and could be interpreting the post incorrectly
Yes that is exactly what it is, I could care less if he went on a porn site but the point is it’s someone I personally know
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I'm not surprised you're mad. When it's someone you know and you're literally paying for it I'd probably class that as cheating (although that boundary is for you to decide in your own relationship). I don't think it's something I could ever get over personally, so you will definitely need to consider whether this is forgivable for you.
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Just let that bih go
He does t deserve u
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Doesn’t *
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I'm not surprised you're mad. When it's someone you know and you're literally paying for it I'd probably class that as cheating (although that boundary is for you to decide in your own relationship). I don't think it's something I could ever get over personally, so you will definitely need to consider whether this is forgivable for you.
Personally that’s why I feel so hurt by it it feels like a form of cheating bc I do know you can chat anonymously w the content creator and ask for specific content from them. Which just bothers me even more lol
I definitely agree, I won’t be able to get over it so upsetting to be going through this it being just common sense especially after getting engaged
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Personally that’s why I feel so hurt by it it feels like a form of cheating bc I do know you can chat anonymously w the content creator and ask for specific content from them. Which just bothers me even more lol
I definitely agree, I won’t be able to get over it so upsetting to be going through this it being just common sense especially after getting engaged
yeah if this was me id feel quite betrayed and wouldve lost most of my trust for my partner therefore my advice would be to call off the wedding and break up with this person.
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Personally that’s why I feel so hurt by it it feels like a form of cheating bc I do know you can chat anonymously w the content creator and ask for specific content from them. Which just bothers me even more lol
I definitely agree, I won’t be able to get over it so upsetting to be going through this it being just common sense especially after getting engaged
Oh my god I had no idea about that feature. It's just really weird to me because it's basically like getting nudes from someone you know. I guess it's the drawback with this kind of culture and age of technology because the lines get blurred, but I definitely think you're justified in calling it cheating. I'm so sorry you're going through this and if you need support you can always message me.
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You're mad your boyfriend paid for porn? That seems weird. Being straight seems exhausting...
It's not just a problem for straight people. I'd also be angry if my boyfriend or girlfriend watched porn, never mind paying money for porn of a mutual friend. She has every right to be upset about this, it's not something that everyone would just let slide.
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I'd dump him.
Leaving him free to spend even more time on onlyfans and waste even more money buying dirty pics or digital porn content from friends.
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I found out a while back my fiancé was on onlyfans i for one did not let it slide, he however felt embarrassed at the fact that he had it so he said. He never wanted to tell me who he was paying to watch said it was “some famous person” til this day I obviously haven’t gotten over it and I don’t think I’ll get past it especially bc yesterday I brought up that I had “found out” who he was watching, I lied of course to see if he’d deny who I was going to say turns out I was right from day one. ( we both have a old middle/high school friend that does content) it really bothered me especially bc we knew this person, she is someone I would talk to I was good friends w her.
The simple fact that our relationship was very good at the time when I had found this all out and he didn’t even think about how it’d affect me in the moment of him paying just makes it so sad

Last night I was a CRY BABY I could not stop crying (might be the time soon 💀) I’m just so upset and sad that I don’t know how to go about it anymore
Lots of men cheat. Let's face it, there are many girls much prettier than you. Of course he is going to stare at them and admire their beauty

Humble yourself. Let your boyfriend have some freedom
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Lots of men cheat. Let's face it, there are many girls much prettier than you. Of course he is going to stare at them and admire their beauty

Humble yourself. Let your boyfriend have some freedom
Admire someone’s beauty sure, girls do it as well but not to that extent
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I'd dump him.
Leaving him free to spend even more time on onlyfans and waste even more money buying dirty pics or digital porn content from friends.
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Admire someone’s beauty sure, girls do it as well but not to that extent
You can leave him. But don't surprised if another boyfriend does the same.

Or stay with him and take your revenge. Sleep with another man secretly.
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honestly i wouldn’t be happy. i feel like it’s a betrayal of trust as it is someone you both know that they were paying to see naked .. i would get angry and tell him to go and date her since he wants to actually pay his money to see her nude lol. Hopefully you find someone who deserves you
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