Would you ask your children to help pay rent/bills?Watch
Ive grown up in a house where i saw my mum working long hours but still worrying about she was going to pay the bills and rent. Now that i work FT and so do my siblings, this is a huge burden off my mum and she doesnt have to worry about bills anymore, we all contribute.
What do you guys think?
Some take the the view that parents should be providing everything and the child shouldn’t have to contribute anything because “it’s the parents responsibility”. Whilst I understand where this point of view stems from, I think once the child crosses a certain age (e.g. 18, the age of adulthood), if they are comfortably able to contribute to the household then they should consider doing so to help support their parents (if the parents need/want support). I can’t really see an argument where you can justify contributing to household bills and rents with random strangers in a flat share for example, but refuse to do so when living (in the same circumstances) with parents simply for the sake of it.
I would never ask any of my descendants for their money.
Nor charge them rent or housekeeping to live with me.
I don't agree with any parents charging their teenagers and adult children rent to live in their childhood bedroom or asking them for housekeeping/loans/cash.
Of course, if the household are experiencing financial problems and a young person has a stable monthly income and is financially able & willing to help out without the risk of financial hardship- that's fine.
But only as far as paying for their own shopping or transferring the bills into their own name for some utilities/extra services that they alone use.
Contribution to household bills... it depends. If I could afford not to charge them, then no. I'd prefer not to. If I was struggling to pay bills though, then yes, but just enough to cover essentials.
In the future, I’d prefer for my child to be able to go through school without a job so they can focus on what’s important to them. or if academia isn’t quite their thing, I’d support them to either find a hobby they like or a part time job so they can save money.
If they went to uni I’d want to support them so they’d have the best experience possible and do their absolute best without having to worry about working to afford accommodation and such. If they chose not to go to uni and got a job or apprenticeship instead I’d rather they save all their earnings so that they can become more independent and afford to rent a flat or a house sooner. They could help around the house by doing chores and such rather than paying rent or bills. I don’t think that’s fair to put on your kid IMO.
I wouldn't want my child to work through school or college anyway as I'd want them to focus on their education and do as well as they can without the added pressure of a job. If they were older and living at home (and I wasn't struggling financially), I wouldn't expect them to pay the bills but I would expect them to pay for anything else - extra food they want, takeaways, clothes, toiletries, extras, running a car etc - themselves.
The real world isn't always as clear cut as that.
So many families rely on Child Benefit and Child Tax Credits / Working Tax Credits in order to afford to buy food and pay bills (and yes, having children DOES increase your household bills - think how many extra showers are taken and how much more washing up is done with children in the house, thus increasing the water bills; think how many more electronic devices such as televisions and computers are plugged in with children in the house, thus increasing the electricity bills, and so on.)
Once children get older, and these benefits stop, it's unrealistic to think that parents are still just automatically going to be able to support adult children financially without any consequence. If they can, great, but it's certainly not selfish for parents to ask for a household contribution if they are struggling at that point.