Should I continue to pursue this?

Watch
Megatitans101
Badges: 5
Rep:
?
#1
Report Thread starter 1 month ago
#1
So I met up with a girl last week after we matched on Tinder the same day. Twice actually, first in the morning for a coffee, then she invited me over to her place that evening to meet her friends. I was out of town over the weekend and haven't seen her since, but I texted her asking if she wanted to meet up this week, but unfortunately this was her reply:

"I must focus on work🥺 but if I will be available I will let u know that I'm bored or smth"

Ouch. Yeah I know, kinda stung when I read that cause I know it's not a good sign. I'm not even sure where I went wrong in these 2 meet-up, it would be nice to know so I can learn from my mistakes.

Regardless, should I keep the door open to her or just cut ties and move along?
0
reply
urlocalinmate
Badges: 19
Rep:
?
#2
Report 1 month ago
#2
Hasn't been too long, so I'd wait a month at most, wouldn't go further than that.
0
reply
Megatitans101
Badges: 5
Rep:
?
#3
Report Thread starter 1 month ago
#3
(Original post by urlocalinmate)
Hasn't been too long, so I'd wait a month at most, wouldn't go further than that.
How about 2 or 3 weeks instead?
0
reply
pineapplemango
Badges: 11
Rep:
?
#4
Report 1 month ago
#4
Still early days, but like the person above me said; dont keep the door open for more than a month at most.

It seems like she just wants something casual. You might not have done anything wrong at all; but the fact that she met up with you the same day and brought you to see her friends the first day you met points to her just seeking casual stuff IMO.
Last edited by pineapplemango; 1 month ago
1
reply
urlocalinmate
Badges: 19
Rep:
?
#5
Report 1 month ago
#5
(Original post by Megatitans101)
How about 2 or 3 weeks instead?
3 weeks, bare minimum.
0
reply
Megatitans101
Badges: 5
Rep:
?
#6
Report Thread starter 1 month ago
#6
(Original post by pineapplemango)
Still early days, but like the person above me said; dont keep the door open for more than a month at most.

It seems like she just wants something casual. You might not have done anything wrong at all; but the fact that she met up with you the same day and brought you to see her friends the first day you met points to her just seeking casual stuff IMO.
Well honestly that's fine with me cause I'm just looking for something casual right now as well. I guess I'll see what happens
0
reply
pineapplemango
Badges: 11
Rep:
?
#7
Report 1 month ago
#7
(Original post by Megatitans101)
Well honestly that's fine with me cause I'm just looking for something casual right now as well. I guess I'll see what happens
Maybe she thinks you are looking for more and is therefore trying to put in some distance so that you wont get the wrong idea. Guess youll just have to see what happens yeah
0
reply
Megatitans101
Badges: 5
Rep:
?
#8
Report Thread starter 1 month ago
#8
(Original post by pineapplemango)
Maybe she thinks you are looking for more and is therefore trying to put in some distance so that you wont get the wrong idea. Guess youll just have to see what happens yeah
UPDATE: Well, looks like things have turned around. She just texted me saying we should go to the gym tomorrow
0
reply
GabiAbi84
Badges: 21
Rep:
?
#9
Report 1 month ago
#9
I mean the fact that she said she would only want to meet up if she was “bored or smth” - I’d have a bit of self respect and move on.
1
reply
Megatitans101
Badges: 5
Rep:
?
#10
Report Thread starter 1 month ago
#10
(Original post by Megatitans101)
UPDATE: Well, looks like things have turned around. She just texted me saying we should go to the gym tomorrow
Annnnddd since then I haven't seen her. Idk what it is. One week she's happy to see me, the next she's not. I don't get it. Not sure where I went wrong. I made it clear that I'm not looking to just be friends, we did match on Tinder after all.

Maybe I didn't do anything wrong. I just learned that you can do everything right on the first 3 dates and it can still not work out
0
reply
X

Quick Reply

Attached files
Write a reply...
Reply
new posts
Back
to top
Latest
My Feed

See more of what you like on
The Student Room

You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

Personalise

Feeling behind at school/college? What is the best thing your teachers could to help you catch up?

Extra compulsory independent learning activities (eg, homework tasks) (18)
7.44%
Run extra compulsory lessons or workshops (37)
15.29%
Focus on making the normal lesson time with them as high quality as possible (43)
17.77%
Focus on making the normal learning resources as high quality/accessible as possible (34)
14.05%
Provide extra optional activities, lessons and/or workshops (63)
26.03%
Assess students, decide who needs extra support and focus on these students (47)
19.42%

Watched Threads

View All