does anyone (muslim) understand or feel the same/ in the same position?
Just take it easy though, make sure you get to know the other person before you rush into settling down. See if they have similar life goals, ideas, whether they'd fit into your family and vice versa etc.
The best advice I can offer is: to always trust your gut instinct, listen to what your common sense is telling you and stick to your list of dealbreakers.
Remember that marriage is always a gamble that can go either way, regardless of how keen both people are to have a long and successful marriage.
Of course nobody is 100% perfect and there will always be risks.
The potential for incompatibility and dishonesty will always exist in every close social or business relationship.
Not just directly from potential spouses, their relatives or friends of the family- all of whom could well make wildly inaccurate claims trying to create very favourable impressions. Sometimes even without the person's knowledge.
But the risks can managed as efficiently as possible by getting to know the person in a calm and neutral environment over a reasonable timespan- with no pressure to rush things or give misleading impressions/information in order to conform to third party expectations.
In order to gain some familiarity with a potential spouse's: achievements, character, past, family background, future ambitions and personal priorities.
Then decide whether there is enough compatibility, mutual attraction and shared ambitions to consider either an engagement or paying for an expensive wedding.
If the answer to either is no, it means that you probably have doubts about whether the person is right for you or your family circumstances.