The relationship that I have with her has since gotten worse since I got promoted -- even though I helped her get her promotion. In spite of this, she is another grade beneath me, and there is no doubt she has heavier workload, but she keeps making comparisons to my work – saying how easy it is so to that, like she did that when she was junior grade, or how much lighter it is than hers. I don’t think she realises that her grade is more operational and mine is more strategic
She snaps so much that every single sentence she sounds intensely annoyed – annoyed almost prodding like the bear. She is snapping all time – only once she has apologized but then it disintegrated into another rant about her workload incomparison to mine
I wonder if she is stressed due to her workload. Sometimes its things in my personal life when I ask for advice. I know I do this a lot, but I thought that’s were mates were there for.
Most recently, it was well over the top. I made a joke that I would play the disabilty card to which she took offence with. When I said I was classrified as vulnerbale, she basically said I wasn’t classed as a vulnerable adult and unwell – despite having my life wrecked by autoimmune disease that left me near bed-ridden and a learning difficulty. She said I was in work saying that it couldn’t have been too bad and that I wasn’t vulnerable because I make a shed load of money.
Before this, I made real because I made a rude comment about her relationship with her ex-husband who she is still friends with. I felt awful and apologized and she accepted and I thought we have moved on. Surely this negativity above is because of this..