I’m feeling stuck

I can’t stop comparing myself with others.

I’ve spent the whole summer at the sea at my grandma’s house. My mum didn’t want me to stay alone at home, so she rented a small apartment at the sea and decided to bring me with her and her grandma. It was awful… spending an entire week at the beach, on the seashore… seeing all those guys having fun with girls in their groups, playing and doing stuff.

I’ve never experienced something like that, and i’m 18. At the same time, the worst part is that my only friend was sending me pics of him and his girlfriend on a cruise ( yeah, they’re 18, and they went on a cruise ). Ofc they both look like models, while i’m still here alone. I don’t look that good. I still remember when i spent days with my only friend. We were still wishing to find a girl. He eventually find her, they’ve been dating for a year now. I try to be funny, nice, but i always end up spending time alone and not having anyone to talk to.

All this situation led me to quit my only interests ( movies and photography ). i’m not feeling good too, cause i acknowledged i’d love to have a girlfriend, maybe a wife and a family one day, but that’s not going to happen.

Have you ever been at this point? How did you react? What’s your solution? I’d really like to read your suggestions cause i need them right now

I can’t stop comparing myself with others.

I’ve spent the whole summer at the sea at my grandma’s house. My mum didn’t want me to stay alone at home, so she rented a small apartment at the sea and decided to bring me with her and her grandma. It was awful… spending an entire week at the beach, on the seashore… seeing all those guys having fun with girls in their groups, playing and doing stuff.

I’ve never experienced something like that, and i’m 18. At the same time, the worst part is that my only friend was sending me pics of him and his girlfriend on a cruise ( yeah, they’re 18, and they went on a cruise ). Ofc they both look like models, while i’m still here alone. I don’t look that good. I still remember when i spent days with my only friend. We were still wishing to find a girl. He eventually find her, they’ve been dating for a year now. I try to be funny, nice, but i always end up spending time alone and not having anyone to talk to.

All this situation led me to quit my only interests ( movies and photography ). i’m not feeling good too, cause i acknowledged i’d love to have a girlfriend, maybe a wife and a family one day, but that’s not going to happen.

Have you ever been at this point? How did you react? What’s your solution? I’d really like to read your suggestions cause i need them right now

I can’t stop comparing myself with others.

I’ve spent the whole summer at the sea at my grandma’s house. My mum didn’t want me to stay alone at home, so she rented a small apartment at the sea and decided to bring me with her and her grandma. It was awful… spending an entire week at the beach, on the seashore… seeing all those guys having fun with girls in their groups, playing and doing stuff.

I’ve never experienced something like that, and i’m 18. At the same time, the worst part is that my only friend was sending me pics of him and his girlfriend on a cruise ( yeah, they’re 18, and they went on a cruise ). Ofc they both look like models, while i’m still here alone. I don’t look that good. I still remember when i spent days with my only friend. We were still wishing to find a girl. He eventually find her, they’ve been dating for a year now. I try to be funny, nice, but i always end up spending time alone and not having anyone to talk to.

All this situation led me to quit my only interests ( movies and photography ). i’m not feeling good too, cause i acknowledged i’d love to have a girlfriend, maybe a wife and a family one day, but that’s not going to happen.

Have you ever been at this point? How did you react? What’s your solution? I’d really like to read your suggestions cause i need them right now

- OP, go to the gym and build up muscle. As a girl, seeing a dude that's muscular is attractive. I'm assuming (I'm sorry if it's rude) that you're not that attractive, in that case going to the gym is even more important

- Get a hairstyle that matches your face shape. This can make or break a face

- I'm assuming you're not very social, and/or you can't keep conversations.
Watch youtube videos about how to be funny, charming, talk to anyone, etc. And practice them with 50 people. No, really. Do it. Easier said than done, but do it. You can watch all the vids in the world but if you don't practice, and if you don't practice with enough people, then nothing will change. Your life is in your hands. If you want you can read books about it but I just recommend videos (or, youtube summaries of books)
But, before you speak to them, make sure you analyse them first. Looking at what they say to other people, or their tone of voice, or their aura in general, are they jerks/*****es? Or feel like it? If so, don't talk to them, you don't want to be with them. Be selective about your friends.

- I strongly recommend you take the Myers Briggs personality quiz, just to find more about yourself. He theorised there are 16 personality types and everyone falls in one of those.

- For the love of god, never quit your interests, otherwise it's step backwards towards making friends

- Be confident. Fake it til you make it. Confidence is one of the most attractive things in a guy, as well as making friends

- Whenever you're in a convo, be nonchalant. Don't be rigid, take a deep breath and stretch your legs forward a bit. This will allow convos to flow smoothly. Also, if you think a convo will start a to get awkward, then stop talking. Wait a few mins, then talk again. It's common knowledge, but it's easy to forget.

Everyone can say ''don't compare yourself to others'' and all that- and they're right. You shouln't. But there gets a point where it's understandable if you are, because the reason behind that may not just be your thoughts, but because you do lack something/s crucial in life (unfortunately)

I can’t stop comparing myself with others.

I’ve spent the whole summer at the sea at my grandma’s house. My mum didn’t want me to stay alone at home, so she rented a small apartment at the sea and decided to bring me with her and her grandma. It was awful… spending an entire week at the beach, on the seashore… seeing all those guys having fun with girls in their groups, playing and doing stuff.

I’ve never experienced something like that, and i’m 18. At the same time, the worst part is that my only friend was sending me pics of him and his girlfriend on a cruise ( yeah, they’re 18, and they went on a cruise ). Ofc they both look like models, while i’m still here alone. I don’t look that good. I still remember when i spent days with my only friend. We were still wishing to find a girl. He eventually find her, they’ve been dating for a year now. I try to be funny, nice, but i always end up spending time alone and not having anyone to talk to.

All this situation led me to quit my only interests ( movies and photography ). i’m not feeling good too, cause i acknowledged i’d love to have a girlfriend, maybe a wife and a family one day, but that’s not going to happen.

Have you ever been at this point? How did you react? What’s your solution? I’d really like to read your suggestions cause i need them right now