I might be wrong, but I'm going to assume you're a guy interested in women?
The thing you have to bear in mind is that a lot of women get a lot of interest on dating apps, often they will be involved in 4-5+ separate conversations at once. Unless there's something about you that makes you really stand out, your messages will often get lost in the shuffle.
The standard "Hi, how are you?" Sort of conversation potentially just isn't going to cut it. A good starter can be to try and build a connection based on things in their profile, and try to produce a deeper sort of conversation that way. Ask them open questions and pick up on things in their responses.
And, to be blunt, it helps if your profile makes you look/sound very attractive.
Thank you very much. This is the honest sort of answer I wanted to hear. Any further advice would be much appreciated. I find similar problems offline too. I can’t get their attention or keep it. Of I can, I just get friend zoned.
Thank you very much. This is the honest sort of answer I wanted to hear. Any further advice would be much appreciated. I find similar problems offline too. I can’t get their attention or keep it. Of I can, I just get friend zoned.
Ok, I'm going to be a bit blunt, as I think that's what you've asked for.
You can't make someone fancy you. If they don't feel the spark, they don't feel it. And I'm not sure you can easily change that.
At some point, you will meet the right person who feels something for you. But right now, it's possible your eagerness for that is perhaps putting people off a bit (yes, I know on dating apps, everyone wants the same thing). But in real life, maybe play it cool a bit more- don't push so much, and see if things evolve more organically? I'm not saying to play games/play hard to get, but just don't be pushy- be a bit more relaxed and see where things go?
On dating apps, I don't know- there are probably things you can do to make your profile seem more desirable, and obviously you want to put the effort into the conversation, but if they aren't, don't waste time on it- it is a bit of a numbers game?
Ok, I'm going to be a bit blunt, as I think that's what you've asked for.
You can't make someone fancy you. If they don't feel the spark, they don't feel it. And I'm not sure you can easily change that.
At some point, you will meet the right person who feels something for you. But right now, it's possible your eagerness for that is perhaps putting people off a bit (yes, I know on dating apps, everyone wants the same thing). But in real life, maybe play it cool a bit more- don't push so much, and see if things evolve more organically? I'm not saying to play games/play hard to get, but just don't be pushy- be a bit more relaxed and see where things go?
On dating apps, I don't know- there are probably things you can do to make your profile seem more desirable, and obviously you want to put the effort into the conversation, but if they aren't, don't waste time on it- it is a bit of a numbers game?
To be honest, I think I have the opposite problem of being pushy. I’m quite shy and like playing it safe.
I get rejected or friend zoned in real life. Any advice on how to avoid this?
There isn't a one size fits all piece of advice for getting a date, because it isn't as simple as is shown in TV shows or movies. Although the best advice I can give you may seem opposite to what you want:
Stop worrying about getting a partner.
Just be relaxed and yourself around people. The less you worry about it and say to yourself "I really want a partner, God I really need someone" and the more you just relax, the more likely people will fall for you, because they're seeing who you actually are.
Of course, there will be times where you can be flirtatious, which will become obvious to you at the time, but in general, just be relaxed and get along with people as if they are your friends. That's when you'll find out you truly like someone, and they may even like you back.
There isn't a one size fits all piece of advice for getting a date, because it isn't as simple as is shown in TV shows or movies. Although the best advice I can give you may seem opposite to what you want:
Stop worrying about getting a partner.
Just be relaxed and yourself around people. The less you worry about it and say to yourself "I really want a partner, God I really need someone" and the more you just relax, the more likely people will fall for you, because they're seeing who you actually are.
Of course, there will be times where you can be flirtatious, which will become obvious to you at the time, but in general, just be relaxed and get along with people as if they are your friends. That's when you'll find out you truly like someone, and they may even like you back.
I’ve tried this as well and unfortunately, it didn’t work.
I’m very shy and take a long time to open up to people which doesn’t help. Any advice for meeting and connecting for shy people?
The answers in ur response, find things that build a connection eg mutaual interests. Be outgoing go out of your comfort zone. Get off of your phone or console and just talk.