would you be offended @ Bengalis / south asians

I completely get what you mean and it’s due to the stereotypes and colourism/racism we bengalis suffer from a lot. Just simply remind them Bangladeshi people are very very diverse in appearance- some of my cousins are very light with blue/grey eyes and I have friends who’s relatives also have green eyes and fair skin which isn’t fitting into social media’s stereotypes.

Remind them about this diversity to shut them up- no one can really ‘look’ bengali, I believe.

Thanks I will
I have a friend who says this numerous times to people who guess where I'm from she says 'her sister is really brown but she's white so it's a country where there's loads of brown people' and I get annoyed by this but idk why. She has said this lots of times.

That’s not really respectful of her to say about your sister about being ‘really’ brown. What does this mean? 🤔
It’s not a country where there’s loads of brown people it’s a country where there’s people of VARIOUS skin tones, I’ve been back home and whilst the majority is brown it’s not uncommon to see fair/darker than ‘brown’ skin individuals at all! Again remind them of the large variation of our people. Anyone who says bengalis look the same are ignorant/haven’t seen many

I'm Bengali, and frequently get asked if I'm Chinese, especially as my name is kinda Western (Sara). I just take it in my stride.

I know the emphasis pisses me off because I also don't know why it matters if she is or isn't. My sister isn't even 'really brown' she's caramel lol which I find so pretty but when she says it irl it sounds negative. Yep I will I do say there's variation but then they say then why is this the first time I've met a light Bengali? Idk they're really close minded there because I've met numerous

Then reply,
In that case you clearly haven’t met enough? Because literally 3/4 of the bengalis I know are light skinned
Lighter side of caramel most of the time and my best friend is very very pale lol.
Best thing to do with close minded people is either educate them if you’re close and genuinely care about them or ignore them 🤷🏻*♀️
Embrace & love yourself <3 LOOL cringe, but very important

I go to a multicultural school and we often guess each other's ethnicity, when I tell people mine, 90% of them say you're too light/white to be Bengali or say something in your language then.
It annoys me because they overreact, would this annoy you?
It annoys me because where else am I meant to be from and even people from my own country think I'm whitewashed because I'm literally white.
I know people are just surprised which I don't mind but they overreact too much that it makes me uncomfortable.

I go to a multicultural school and we often guess each other's ethnicity, when I tell people mine, 90% of them say you're too light/white to be Bengali or say something in your language then.
It annoys me because they overreact, would this annoy you?
It annoys me because where else am I meant to be from and even people from my own country think I'm whitewashed because I'm literally white.
I know people are just surprised which I don't mind but they overreact too much that it makes me uncomfortable.

urgh it's annoying because my whole time at secondary has been like this. I don't think it even matters where ur from but these days everyone wants to know or guess
Thanks

I go to a multicultural school and we often guess each other's ethnicity, when I tell people mine, 90% of them say you're too light/white to be Bengali or say something in your language then.
It annoys me because they overreact, would this annoy you?
It annoys me because where else am I meant to be from and even people from my own country think I'm whitewashed because I'm literally white.
I know people are just surprised which I don't mind but they overreact too much that it makes me uncomfortable.