How do I tell a girl that I like her?

There is a girl in one of my classes at school and I really like her but I don't know how to ask her if she wants to be friends. Because I don't want to tell her that I like her or if she wants to be my friend because if she doesn't like me it will just be weird and I really don't want that. And it would be very sad for me. I think she does like me, we have spoken in class a few times, and when I was walking home one time I saw her and she smiled and waved, but I just don't know.

I have never told a girl that I liked her before and she is the first girl who I have actually really liked before. I honestly cannot stop thinking about her and thinking about all the ways I might tell her what I feel. But I am just too scared to tell her or even ask if she wants to be friends.

So does anyone have any advice?

There is a girl in one of my classes at school and I really like her but I don't know how to ask her if she wants to be friends. Because I don't want to tell her that I like her or if she wants to be my friend because if she doesn't like me it will just be weird and I really don't want that. And it would be very sad for me. I think she does like me, we have spoken in class a few times, and when I was walking home one time I saw her and she smiled and waved, but I just don't know.

I have never told a girl that I liked her before and she is the first girl who I have actually really liked before. I honestly cannot stop thinking about her and thinking about all the ways I might tell her what I feel. But I am just too scared to tell her or even ask if she wants to be friends.

So does anyone have any advice?

You've just got to bite the bullet and ask her. Maybe don't tell her exactly how you feel (it can sometimes be overwheming)... but there's certainly no harm in letting her know that you think she's attractive and you'd like to "hang-out" (or whatever it is teenagers do these days).

I'll give you the worst case scenarios of either case:-

You ask her out, she says "No":- You feel a bit rubbish for about a week or so, but then you get over it, you notice summer's here, lockdown is lifted, so there's lots of other girls about... so you quickly find someone new to obsess over (and by the time school starts, you're well and truly over her.

You don't ask her out because you're too scared etc:- She stops smiling and starts ignoring you completely because she's started seeing Dexter in the year above you. You challenge her about it, and she says that she didn't think you were interested, so she moved on... right before Dexter gives you a dirty look . You really kick yourself for not saying something to her.

Which would you rather be?!? Ball's in your court mate.

you dont't tell a girl you like her, you ask her on a date, it's less awkward <3 good luck !!

Where do people go on dates??? I've never been on one before so any advice if I so someday ask her out on a date?

You've just got to bite the bullet and ask her. Maybe don't tell her exactly how you feel (it can sometimes be overwheming)... but there's certainly no harm in letting her know that you think she's attractive and you'd like to "hang-out" (or whatever it is teenagers do these days).

I'll give you the worst case scenarios of either case:-

You ask her out, she says "No":- You feel a bit rubbish for about a week or so, but then you get over it, you notice summer's here, lockdown is lifted, so there's lots of other girls about... so you quickly find someone new to obsess over (and by the time school starts, you're well and truly over her.

You don't ask her out because you're too scared etc:- She stops smiling and starts ignoring you completely because she's started seeing Dexter in the year above you. You challenge her about it, and she says that she didn't think you were interested, so she moved on... right before Dexter gives you a dirty look . You really kick yourself for not saying something to her.

Which would you rather be?!? Ball's in your court mate.

Be bold.. we want someone to literally be able to grab us and toss around. Lean in for a kiss, don't be hesitant at all or I'll be put off.

If I did that I'd have a restraining order waiting for me.

Oh please. This is the green light to say that it's what we find attractive, for a man to lay down the law hun.

Oh please. This is the green light to say that it's what we find attractive, for a man to lay down the law hun.

thats you, not necessarily what everyone else wants hun.

I don't have her phone number so I'll have to wait till I'm back at school to tell her. And there are no other girls - she is the only one, so if I mess it up then what do I do? We'll still be in the same class next year so it will be really weird if she just says no. And I'll have to see her in class so I'll never be able to get over her.

You ask her out, she says "No":- You feel a bit rubbish for about a week or so, but then you get over it, you notice summer's here, lockdown is lifted, so there's lots of other girls about... so you quickly find someone new to obsess over (and by the time school starts, you're well and truly over her.

You don't ask her out because you're too scared etc:- She stops smiling and starts ignoring you completely because she's started seeing Dexter in the year above you. You challenge her about it, and she says that she didn't think you were interested, so she moved on... right before Dexter gives you a dirty look . You really kick yourself for not saying something to her.

And the second outcome assumes she is interested in me- she might just be being nice because she is a nice person.

It's really not that big a deal. Rejections only really become something when someone is being unreasonable about it. If you don't ask her out in front of the class, chances are no one is ever going to find out (she may tell a couple of her girlfriends... but that's about it). And yes, I know it seems like she's the only one right now, but you'll be surprised how well you cope with it, and how quickly you'll notice other girls.

On the other hand, if she did make a big deal about it, and embarrass you, then she's done you a favour... she's shown her true colours to you straight away, instead of messing with your head with stupid mind games some 2-3 months down the line.




Mate, you're really over-thinking this. I'll warn you now, you risk working yourself up so much about this, you never make a move on anyone ("paralysis by analysis").

... And what i've described is the WORST CASE SCENARIO... IF she didn't fancy you, then it's not that big a deal if you didn't ask her out. Even so, as you said, she's a nice person, so even if you did ask her and she wasn't interested, it's extremely unlikely she'll be unpleasant about it. Even if she doesn't actually fancy you, that doesn't mean to say that she won't say "Yes" if you asked her out.

EDIT:- From re-reading your post, I'd say there's a good chance that she likes you. Not certain, but there are some good signs there. Having said that, there's every chance that she may have gone off you by the time term starts again (a lot can happen in the summer holidays, and people your age are generally fickle). So yes, there's a chance you've missed out by the time you go back to school, but if she still smiles at you etc. it's in your interest to ask her on a date (even if it's hanging out at break time lol)

Or do I tell her how I haven't stopped thinking about her all summer and genuinely and truly like her?