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Guys would you consider me good looking?

I feel insecure about how I look right now. I know I'm supposed to love myself no matter how I do look but some days are easier than others. Sometimes I think I'm pretty but lately I feel like I'm comparing myself too much. I'm about 5'5 to 5'6 in height, and about 70 kg last I checked. I've got wide hips and medium to large chest, I've got a big butt, and a somewhat small waist but I don't feel hourglass even though it feels like that's my body shape. My bust and hips are 30 inches approx and the thinnest bit of my torso (waist) is 20 inches ish. I've got a bit of a belly from not working out as much as before, and it makes me feel a bit embarrassed. I've got skinny arms from my elbows down, but a bit of fat in my shoulder ish top arm area. I look good in skinny jeans according to me but sometimes it makes me look fat. I've got dark brown hair with golden highlights, and brown eyes which are somewhat big, I used to have braces and now my teeth are pretty much straight except two overlaps, I've got full lips with a not prominent cupid bow. I'm medium fair and I've got glasses. I know I shouldn't be that concerned about my appearance but I want a honest opinion.

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Reply 1

Noone can truly just without seeing you and, Judging by the fact you are on anon, you don't want to post a photo.


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Reply 2

Original post by Anonymous
Noone can truly just without seeing you and, Judging by the fact you are on anon, you don't want to post a photo.


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Yea I don't want to post a pic, I'd appreciate an answer from what I've said,
and Yea It's fine if you guys want to be anon I just want to know

Reply 3

You shouldn't go around just advertising your measurements/desc like that. If you ever feel insecure you shouldn't need to go and do that, as well as it's kinda bad for both your mental state and your general well being. There are loads of people that would definitely be there to talk to you and try to make you feel better. Try to find friends that lift you up instead of put you down.
That aside you can't really do much with a simple description (like words) but yeah looks and beauty are subjective. Someone can find someone a 10/10 while the other person would think 5/10
I hope you can find your self confidence soon. I know it's still there inside of you waiting to be found.

Reply 4

Can't really tell from your description as I do not care about body size or shape if I like a girl. I am primarily attracted to a girl's face, her voice, her mannerisms and her personality as a whole, not her body as such.

Reply 5

Original post by Slx.24
You shouldn't go around just advertising your measurements/desc like that. If you ever feel insecure you shouldn't need to go and do that, as well as it's kinda bad for both your mental state and your general well being. There are loads of people that would definitely be there to talk to you and try to make you feel better. Try to find friends that lift you up instead of put you down.
That aside you can't really do much with a simple description (like words) but yeah looks and beauty are subjective. Someone can find someone a 10/10 while the other person would think 5/10
I hope you can find your self confidence soon. I know it's still there inside of you waiting to be found.

That's sweet of you to say, and this is the first time I've done that. It's just that I used to think I was beautiful and that's how people made me feel but now I'm not so sure comparing myself with other people out there. I know its a subjective thing which is why I wanted to know opinions of other people from what they could read above.

Reply 6

Original post by Anonymous
That's sweet of you to say, and this is the first time I've done that. It's just that I used to think I was beautiful and that's how people made me feel but now I'm not so sure comparing myself with other people out there. I know its a subjective thing which is why I wanted to know opinions of other people from what they could read above.

Np, the point is that no matter what you look like, you should still be happy with your looks. Trust me a positive outlook makes the world literally change around your eyes, and I completely know how hard trying to be positive is. Well the best thing to do is keep good people around you that would look out for you, but don't inflate your ego too much (this actually comes underneath looking out for you because an inflated ego is negative and quite dangersous ^^). Comparing yourself to others is a realllyyy bad idea. Trust me there's always going to be another person that has better qualities of what you are comparing yourself with. The thing is, that same person could be envious of something else you have. It's always going to be a mix. There could be something you have that maybe no one else has, and you just haven't found that thing yet. Also self confidence is attractive (not just to me either haha) so try your best to keep your head up high

Yeah well.. there isn't really a point for it yk ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Reply 7

Original post by Anonymous
I feel insecure about how I look right now. I know I'm supposed to love myself no matter how I do look but some days are easier than others. Sometimes I think I'm pretty but lately I feel like I'm comparing myself too much. I'm about 5'5 to 5'6 in height, and about 70 kg last I checked. I've got wide hips and medium to large chest, I've got a big butt, and a somewhat small waist but I don't feel hourglass even though it feels like that's my body shape. My bust and hips are 30 inches approx and the thinnest bit of my torso (waist) is 20 inches ish. I've got a bit of a belly from not working out as much as before, and it makes me feel a bit embarrassed. I've got skinny arms from my elbows down, but a bit of fat in my shoulder ish top arm area. I look good in skinny jeans according to me but sometimes it makes me look fat. I've got dark brown hair with golden highlights, and brown eyes which are somewhat big, I used to have braces and now my teeth are pretty much straight except two overlaps, I've got full lips with a not prominent cupid bow. I'm medium fair and I've got glasses. I know I shouldn't be that concerned about my appearance but I want a honest opinion.


I think 100% that males only value their face, the bodies shape and personality

Reply 8

Original post by mgcgian047
I think 100% that males only value their face, the bodies shape and personality

Sounds like 90% of everything to me 😂

Reply 9

Original post by Anonymous
Yea I don't want to post a pic, I'd appreciate an answer from what I've said,
and Yea It's fine if you guys want to be anon I just want to know

Well you sound alright to me but can't be sure

Reply 10

It's not healthy to observe your body like that with all those descriptions and measurements. Many guys like chubby girls anyway, not for me though.

Reply 11

girl I get it I'm 5'9 and people judge me on how I look and dress I just brush it off it's not their body to be worrying about. some people call me pretty others think I'm ugly . Just be confident in yourself and if you want to improve your body or looks do it for yourself not to please others. also, I feel like men looking for a girl with a nice personality and if they just go for looks that's just sad. You are a good height and you seem nice so don't put yourself down.
Guys prefer different things. Even if one person finds you attractive, another person might not. Just be yourself and hope to attract someone for you.

Reply 13

Thank you all and I understand that it isn't healthy and I don't always compare, it's just something I've noticed and been thinking a lot about for the past week.
And yes I know guys all prefer different things which is why I wanted each guy who replies to this thread's particular opinion, not a generalised opinion. And I know I'm not chubby per se, just a bit thick if that makes sense. And thank you again for all the nice things some of you have said.
I'm usually confident in myself about things like this, it's just that lately I feel a bit more insecure about that if it makes sense

Reply 14

Original post by Anonymous
Thank you all and I understand that it isn't healthy and I don't always compare, it's just something I've noticed and been thinking a lot about for the past week.
And yes I know guys all prefer different things which is why I wanted each guy who replies to this thread's particular opinion, not a generalised opinion. And I know I'm not chubby per se, just a bit thick if that makes sense. And thank you again for all the nice things some of you have said.
I'm usually confident in myself about things like this, it's just that lately I feel a bit more insecure about that if it makes sense

It's all good, everyone goes through a phase sometimes! Hope you feel better about yourself asap :biggrin:
I is here if you need to talk anyways :tongue:

Reply 15

Original post by Anonymous
Thank you all and I understand that it isn't healthy and I don't always compare, it's just something I've noticed and been thinking a lot about for the past week.
And yes I know guys all prefer different things which is why I wanted each guy who replies to this thread's particular opinion, not a generalised opinion. And I know I'm not chubby per se, just a bit thick if that makes sense. And thank you again for all the nice things some of you have said.
I'm usually confident in myself about things like this, it's just that lately I feel a bit more insecure about that if it makes sense

It sounds like you just need a hit for your self-esteem, so here you go:

You're what Shakespeare called a 'Hotty'. Now go be happy, Anon. You're awesome.

(You could be a 600 pound dude fishing for compliments for all I know, so there you go! Compliment.)

Reply 16

What? How in the hell are we meant to know whether you're good looking without a photo..? Use some common sense please.

Reply 17

Original post by Anonymous
I feel insecure about how I look right now. I know I'm supposed to love myself no matter how I do look but some days are easier than others. Sometimes I think I'm pretty but lately I feel like I'm comparing myself too much. I'm about 5'5 to 5'6 in height, and about 70 kg last I checked. I've got wide hips and medium to large chest, I've got a big butt, and a somewhat small waist but I don't feel hourglass even though it feels like that's my body shape. My bust and hips are 30 inches approx and the thinnest bit of my torso (waist) is 20 inches ish. I've got a bit of a belly from not working out as much as before, and it makes me feel a bit embarrassed. I've got skinny arms from my elbows down, but a bit of fat in my shoulder ish top arm area. I look good in skinny jeans according to me but sometimes it makes me look fat. I've got dark brown hair with golden highlights, and brown eyes which are somewhat big, I used to have braces and now my teeth are pretty much straight except two overlaps, I've got full lips with a not prominent cupid bow. I'm medium fair and I've got glasses. I know I shouldn't be that concerned about my appearance but I want a honest opinion.

Let me see your picture in a direct message. I won't judge.

Reply 18

According to a popular authority from my youth: "Fat-bottomed girls, you make the rockin' world go round."

There are actually a lot of men who prefer curves and shapes over tall semi-anorectic skeletons on the catwalk. A twinkle in the eye, and off to the bedroom you go.

Reply 19

Original post by ThatOldGuy
It sounds like you just need a hit for your self-esteem, so here you go:

You're what Shakespeare called a 'Hotty'. Now go be happy, Anon. You're awesome.

(You could be a 600 pound dude fishing for compliments for all I know, so there you go! Compliment.)

Idk why but what you said made me smile, thank you and no I'm not a 600 pound dude fishing for compliments, just a teenage girl going thro a bad phase.

Original post by SlaveofAll
Let me see your picture in a direct message. I won't judge.

I'm sorry I don't feel comfortable showing my picture to strangers online, which is why I tried to describe myself as much as I could. I just wanted an honest opinion based on that

Original post by michaelhw
According to a popular authority from my youth: "Fat-bottomed girls, you make the rockin' world go round."

There are actually a lot of men who prefer curves and shapes over tall semi-anorectic skeletons on the catwalk. A twinkle in the eye, and off to the bedroom you go.

Again what you said made me smile so thank you!

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