Is it a red flag if over 2 dates a guy has made no physical contact?

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Would you bother going on a third date with a guy if within 2 dates he hasn’t complimented you or made any sort of physical contact (he hasn’t tried to hug you or kiss you or touch your arm)?
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Absolutely not.
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It's not a red flag at all! That is for something far more serious than a guy who may be polite, shy or just not interested in you.

Anyway, it doesn't have to be him that initiates contact. What are you doing about if?
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Would you bother going on a third date with a guy if within 2 dates he hasn’t complimented you or made any sort of physical contact (he hasn’t tried to hug you or kiss you or touch your arm)?
Try getting to know his personality. If there is any interest between you, the physical contact will come in time. Maybe he is just shy. You could try paying him a compliment.

It's very early days to start expecting speedy results.
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Not a red flag, maybe he wants you to make the first move, or maybe he wants to get to know you more, and see where it goes, depends on the chemistry between the two of you, maybe he's just shy, maybe he wants to see a positive reaction from your side before he moves in? It seems too early right now
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Have you made any physical contact with him?
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Why are you waiting for him to initiate why don't you do it?
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No groping = red flag now?
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Would you bother going on a third date with a guy if within 2 dates he hasn’t complimented you or made any sort of physical contact (he hasn’t tried to hug you or kiss you or touch your arm)?
No. Two dates is a bit soon for that i think.
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Would you bother going on a third date with a guy if within 2 dates he hasn’t complimented you or made any sort of physical contact (he hasn’t tried to hug you or kiss you or touch your arm)?
I am a straight male, but even 1 date with a girl and we haven't kissed is a red flag to me...
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Would you bother going on a third date with a guy if within 2 dates he hasn’t complimented you or made any sort of physical contact (he hasn’t tried to hug you or kiss you or touch your arm)?
He does not want to get called a pervert pig who cannot control himself when there is a woman around.
I think is right to avoid contacts. We never know.
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It sounds like he's just being careful not to make you uncomfortable. If you want more physical touching, give him clear signs that's what you want, or if it's clear he'd be okay with it, touch him.
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has he complimented you on text?
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Not a single compliment? Nah
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No, I'm not surprised men aren't comfortable making physical contact because of the vocal minority of females who call for assault and rape over everything.
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Not a red flag, no.

However, I personally wouldn't bother with a third date if I didn't think the other person was romantically interested. That assurance could be verbal or physical. I always make a move on the first date to gauge if that spark is there and if it is worth going further.
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He’s probably scared that his gonna get accused for sexual assault
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if you're worried about whether he's intrested in you, you could ask
explain that you're concerned about the lack of compliments and physical contact
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Not a red flag.
Might be good manners; with the date doing their best to show you that their personality does not involve sexual aggression or any creepy behaviour.
Trying to avoid making you feel uncomfortable or under pressure.
But could be also indicative of no sexual attraction or a date with a very shy/introverted personality.
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if you're worried about whether he's intrested in you, you could ask
explain that you're concerned about the lack of compliments and physical contact
Exactly. Communication is key.
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