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Awkward silences and banal conversations with fellow students
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HappinessHappening
How many of you recognise some of the following situations? 
"You got a lecture today?"
"Nope. You?"
"No, I've got politics 9am tomorrrow though. It's really good, but we get lots of homework. How are you finding the amount of work you get?".....
End.
"I've got so much work to do."
"Yeah same."
"What you doin'?"
"Some economics. You?"
"Just some reading for history."
"Cool."
"So are you keeping an eye on the current finincial difficulties in the world?"...
End.
"You goin' out tonight?"
"No. You?"
"Yeah just down the pub."
"Cool, we had an awesome time at Jimbo's last night. It was great, lots of girls. What pub you going to?"....
End.
"You up to much over the weekend?"
"Nah. You?"
"Yes, I'm going to watch the chelsea game. Who do you support?"
"Spurs."
"Oh, they aren't doing good at the moment, why do you think this is?"...
End.
"What are you studying then?"
"Physics. What about you?"
"Politics."
"How are you finding it?"
"Yeah it's alright. What about you?"
"It's really good, I can't wait for the weekend though, going to go out and party at the silver club..."
End.
"So where are you from?"
"South London. You?"
"Shropshire."
"Oh cool."
"Oh, have you been there then?"
"Nope, but I'd like to. I love going to the countryside, it's so different from the big city that I'm used to. What do you prefer, the city or country?"
"Country"
"Why?"
End.
"So what kind of music you into?"
"Erm . . . a bit of everything really."
"Yeah same."
"I went to this awesome tingtings gig recently in paisley, what was the last gig you went to?"...
End.
*Guy walks into the kitchen while another is preparing food*
"Oh hey!"
"Alright?"
"Yeah, you?"
"Yeah not bad thanks."
"That smells good, what you cooking?"
"Spagetti bolongese."
"That's one of my favourite foods. Are you a good cook?"...
"You got a lecture today?"
"Nope. You?"
"No, I've got politics 9am tomorrrow though. It's really good, but we get lots of homework. How are you finding the amount of work you get?".....
End.
"I've got so much work to do."
"Yeah same."
"What you doin'?"
"Some economics. You?"
"Just some reading for history."
"Cool."
"So are you keeping an eye on the current finincial difficulties in the world?"...
End.
"You goin' out tonight?"
"No. You?"
"Yeah just down the pub."
"Cool, we had an awesome time at Jimbo's last night. It was great, lots of girls. What pub you going to?"....
End.
"You up to much over the weekend?"
"Nah. You?"
"Yes, I'm going to watch the chelsea game. Who do you support?"
"Spurs."
"Oh, they aren't doing good at the moment, why do you think this is?"...
End.
"What are you studying then?"
"Physics. What about you?"
"Politics."
"How are you finding it?"
"Yeah it's alright. What about you?"
"It's really good, I can't wait for the weekend though, going to go out and party at the silver club..."
End.
"So where are you from?"
"South London. You?"
"Shropshire."
"Oh cool."
"Oh, have you been there then?"
"Nope, but I'd like to. I love going to the countryside, it's so different from the big city that I'm used to. What do you prefer, the city or country?"
"Country"
"Why?"
End.
"So what kind of music you into?"
"Erm . . . a bit of everything really."
"Yeah same."
"I went to this awesome tingtings gig recently in paisley, what was the last gig you went to?"...
End.
*Guy walks into the kitchen while another is preparing food*
"Oh hey!"
"Alright?"
"Yeah, you?"
"Yeah not bad thanks."
"That smells good, what you cooking?"
"Spagetti bolongese."
"That's one of my favourite foods. Are you a good cook?"...
You should try and avoid asking one word answer questions. You want to ask them there opinions on stuff, and encourage them to talk, while not making it into a Q&A session..
alright mate.
alright.
alright.
Im socially stupid, but even I can avoid these convo's sometimes.
If you're answer is going to be "no" to one of their questions, just add something else e.g. "no, i was doing .. instead" or "no, but im going to do it .. ".
If you're answer is going to be "no" to one of their questions, just add something else e.g. "no, i was doing .. instead" or "no, but im going to do it .. ".
fisherman
You should try and avoid asking one word answer questions. You want to ask them there opinions on stuff, and encourage them to talk, while not making it into a Q&A session..
You have a point obviously, but even if you extend the conversation like that there is still the awkward and somewhat 'fake' feel to it. You don't get that around friends you have known for ages and it takes a while to get to that stage. I'm just having a laugh really.
At interviews:
Rah No 1: Oh, so what did you get for AS Levels, darling?!
Rah No 2: Four As! How about you, darling?!
Rah No 1: The same. How about you?
Me: 3 As and a C in Physics
Rah No 1: Oh...
End.
OK, so they didn't say darling, but they might as well have
Rah No 1: Oh, so what did you get for AS Levels, darling?!
Rah No 2: Four As! How about you, darling?!
Rah No 1: The same. How about you?
Me: 3 As and a C in Physics
Rah No 1: Oh...
End.
OK, so they didn't say darling, but they might as well have
hahah these are class 
i'm still in a levels & reading these are warming me to the idea of having to become a hardended alcoholic by next september as it seems its the elixir of uni conversation :P
i'm still in a levels & reading these are warming me to the idea of having to become a hardended alcoholic by next september as it seems its the elixir of uni conversation :PHappinessHappening
How many of you recognise some of the following situations?
"You got a lecture today?"
"Nope. You?"
"Yeah."
End.
"I've got so much work to do."
"Yeah same."
"What you doin'?"
"Some economics. You?"
"Just some reading for history."
"Cool."
End.
"You goin' out tonight?"
"No. You?"
"Yeah just down the pub."
End.
"You up to much over the weekend?"
"Nah. You?"
"Nah."
End.
"What are you studying then?"
"Physics. What about you?"
"Politics."
"How are you finding it?"
"Yeah it's alright. What about you?"
"It's cool, yeah."
End.
"So where are you from?"
"South London. You?"
"Shropshire."
"Oh cool."
"Oh, have you been there then?"
"Nope."
End.
"So what kind of music you into?"
"Erm . . . a bit of everything really."
"Yeah same."
End.
*Guy walks into the kitchen while another is preparing food*
"Oh hey!"
"Alright?"
"Yeah, you?"
"Yeah not bad thanks."
*awkward and oppressive silence persists until someone leaves the room*
After alcohol however:
"I love you guys!!!"
"Yeah!!"
"Wohoo!!"
"xxxxx Uni rocks!!!"
"Have another shot!!"
"Have some of my mixer!"
"Cheers mate!!"
"OMG I love this song!!"
"Turn it up!!"
* everyone sings in a drunken stupor*:
"Cos we all justwannabe BIG ROCKSTARS!!
And live in *falters* . . . fifteen cars!!" . . .
Feel free to add your own experieces to the list!
"You got a lecture today?"
"Nope. You?"
"Yeah."
End.
"I've got so much work to do."
"Yeah same."
"What you doin'?"
"Some economics. You?"
"Just some reading for history."
"Cool."
End.
"You goin' out tonight?"
"No. You?"
"Yeah just down the pub."
End.
"You up to much over the weekend?"
"Nah. You?"
"Nah."
End.
"What are you studying then?"
"Physics. What about you?"
"Politics."
"How are you finding it?"
"Yeah it's alright. What about you?"
"It's cool, yeah."
End.
"So where are you from?"
"South London. You?"
"Shropshire."
"Oh cool."
"Oh, have you been there then?"
"Nope."
End.
"So what kind of music you into?"
"Erm . . . a bit of everything really."
"Yeah same."
End.
*Guy walks into the kitchen while another is preparing food*
"Oh hey!"
"Alright?"
"Yeah, you?"
"Yeah not bad thanks."
*awkward and oppressive silence persists until someone leaves the room*
After alcohol however:
"I love you guys!!!"
"Yeah!!"
"Wohoo!!"
"xxxxx Uni rocks!!!"
"Have another shot!!"
"Have some of my mixer!"
"Cheers mate!!"
"OMG I love this song!!"
"Turn it up!!"
* everyone sings in a drunken stupor*:
"Cos we all justwannabe BIG ROCKSTARS!!
And live in *falters* . . . fifteen cars!!" . . .
Feel free to add your own experieces to the list!
Summed up my social life. Minus the drinking. Thank god for the internet.
HappinessHappening
"So where are you from?"
"South London. You?"
"Shropshire."
"Oh cool."
"Oh, have you been there then?"
"Nope."
End.
"So where are you from?"
"South London. You?"
"Shropshire."
"Oh cool."
"Oh, have you been there then?"
"Nope."
End.
Everyone I met in first year was from South London. It got to the point where I knew point blank the person was going to say South London. Or North London if we were going for something different.
I always felt the need to make links with whatever the person has just told me, whether it be where they're from or their subject. Then when I can't think of a link its really arkward as I hate just going "cool" or whatever. Although when you make links it gets more arkward, if you excitedly say:
"my flatmate is from London!!!"
"ah... you know where?"
"no"
-- end
"my friend is doing English!!!"
"cool, whats their name?"
"Sarah"
"Oh. I don't think I know her."
"Ah"
-- end
The ulitmate awkward slience just took place in the kitchen!
*me cooking pasta*
*guy walks into kitchen starts microwaving something*
me- "heya"
random guy- "Hi"
*slience*
me- "cooking anything nice?"
random guy- "food"
me- "right"
*slience for next 10 minutes until guy walks out of kitchen*
*me cooking pasta*
*guy walks into kitchen starts microwaving something*
me- "heya"
random guy- "Hi"
*slience*
me- "cooking anything nice?"
random guy- "food"
me- "right"
*slience for next 10 minutes until guy walks out of kitchen*
Lorniebee
The ulitmate awkward slience just took place in the kitchen!
*me cooking pasta*
*guy walks into kitchen*
"heya"
"Hi"
*slience*
"cooking anything nice"
"food"
"right"
*slience for next 10 minutes until guy walks out of kitchen*
*me cooking pasta*
*guy walks into kitchen*
"heya"
"Hi"
*slience*
"cooking anything nice"
"food"
"right"
*slience for next 10 minutes until guy walks out of kitchen*
You could have been a bit more expressive yourself! Commented on it, whined about the food you're eating, lamented on your cooking habits, etc.
Haha some of these are so true.
Naranoc
You could have been a bit more expressive yourself! Commented on it, whined about the food you're eating, lamented on your cooking habits, etc.
After asking what he was cooking and recieving the answer food I decided anymore attempts at a conversation were probably pretty pointless and that talking to my pasta would have been more interesting!
Lorniebee
After asking what he was cooking and recieving the answer food I decided anymore attempts at a conversation were probably pretty pointless and that talking to my pasta would have been more interesting!
Ah, I thought he was the one who asked you what you were cooking (and that you were cooking pasta!). Right - yeah, don't bother in that case :P
My conversation:
"You alright?"
"Yeah great...you?"
"Yeah, thanks"
Turn to other friend, "who the **** was that man?"
"You alright?"
"Yeah great...you?"
"Yeah, thanks"
Turn to other friend, "who the **** was that man?"
Naranoc
Ah, I thought he was the one who asked you what you were cooking (and that you were cooking pasta!). Right - yeah, don't bother in that case :P
Yeah I didnt make that clear lol! I refuse to answer questions with just a word or a close answer I always try to start a convoersation...usually to no success but at least i try
Lorniebee
Yeah I didnt make that clear lol! I refuse to answer questions with just a word or a close answer I always try to start a convoersation...usually to no success but at least i try
My personal response would've been sarcastic ("No ****, Sherlock.." kind of thing), but maybe that's just me.
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