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regret applying to Oxford.

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T-o dore
fair enough lol. I suppose my view is pretty slanted because I want to get there so bad - I would be pretty annoyed if someone got my place and then decided 'well, actually I dont want to do theology anymore'.

It's pretty easy to let opinions get slanted in the wait between applying and hearing about interviews. You must try not to let it bother you. If you get a place, you get a place. If you don't get a place, it's unlikely that you'll ever find out how close you were to getting a place, so you wouldn't be able to legitimately judge whether someone else got "your" place.

Don't let all these kinds of thoughts wind you up. Just focus on interview practise and sending off those essays :smile:
Well, I've applied to study Chemistry at Oxford, and I have the same problem as yourself. The things which worry me is the actual Oxford students - very intelligent, privileged, and I'm sure most of them live in a completely different social sphere from mine - a working-class village in rural North Wales; something's telling me there aren't many of us studying in the City of Dreaming Spires.

Also, the alleged difficulty of the work is also off-putting - I savour a challenge, and crave an intellectual course which will stretch my mental capacities to their utmost zenith. BUT - if the course is insurmountably difficult, and I spend four solid years in absolute toil with only the foggiest comprehension of the work - my whole 'university' experience could be ruined. So that's why I'm pulling out pre-interview.

I know at least 4 Welsh chemists and i probably only know about 50ish in total so pretty well represented I would say. You will definatley have time to go out etc. The course is hard but I still enjoy it. (Though maths is poop) Seriously mate, your making a pretty big mistake. Apply
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T-o dore
Ye youre completely right about everything - but why apply to oxbridge, such a competetive place, only to turn down an offer?

I applied to Durham, LSE and St. Andrews - all competitive places which huge amounts of people would love to go to - and turned them all down. I did this for entirely selfish reasons, because I wanted to go to Oxford. I didn't feel a sense of obligation to all those who opened their Durham rejection letter and cried.

I don't think this makes me a bad person.
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I don't think this makes me a bad person.

Of course it doesn't.

The idea that turning down an offer is 'selfish' is a bit silly IMO. Every applicant has a right to choose the path that's right for them - turning down an offer is actually a pretty damn brave thing to do, considering the likely reaction of the student's family, teachers etc.

And it doesn't mean denying another applicant a place at all. Every college makes more offers than it has places, in anticipation of some people turning them down and some people not getting their grades. If every successful candidate gets their grades, the college just has to cope with being over quota for the year. That's why many subjects have an open offer scheme to help shuffle candidates around in August if necessary.

If you're worthy of an offer, you get one. Turning down an offer doesn't mean you're ruining someone else's chances because everyone has the same chance at the same time.