We're on a break...does this text sound OTT to you?

Hey there, so basically the bf and I decided this week that because of being at different unis, the distance and both our huge work loads we are going to go on hold til Feb time. We will still see each other, but we just thought that he may be easier to take the pressure off our relationship...i.e so neither one of us feels guilty for letting the other one down when we promise to meet up. Basically we feel its something good enough waiting for, but the circumstances arent right...both of us dont want to lose one another but as i say its just not right at the moment.

I feel ridiculous for asking this, we had a long discussion on monday about what we wanted to do and his texts over the course of this week have been very brief and sparce at that. So I thought Id text him today because I needed to get somethings off my chest...does this sound over the top or too clingy?

"Things have been on my mind and I want u to know that I really hope we can get back on track when things are easier-I hope you feel the same. Im wary of overcrowding you given what we discussed, but I dont want the distance between us to get too great either. Hope that I'll see you at some point soon and that you're good x"

...Ive been really worried since I sent this that it was a bit too much? He hasnt text back also :o:

could just be coz his busy? Or because theres no real answer to that? Or because he doesnt want to receive that sort of text?

Im worried I shouldnt have sent it, but I wanted to say it and communication is key right? What do you guys think? I dont want to be the one doing all the chasing...

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Reply 1

samba

looks fine to me lol. it's just a text!

Reply 2

twinkle-toes

I think that was a good text to send him! It shows you care, without being OTT. How long have the two of you been together?

Reply 3

reikazen

well end of the day ur at different unis its gonnabe hard , if ur not made of each other in otherwords if his penis is greater then the sum of his love for you then he will forgot about you anyway.

so my point is and my advice is , just keep letting him know ur busyand u miss him , and how u feel , screw if it sounds clingy ,if u have been together a long time then ur very close , this clingyness is acceptable

Btw the text is good

Reply 4

Anisaar

First of all, I know it's the most difficult thing in the world not to do, but try not to concentrate on all the 'what if' questions that come with sending the text to him. He's got it, he'll've processed it, so give him a chance to think about it. Time is a magical thing. It doesn't sound overly intrusive to me, and it gets across what you want to say, so you've done well. Now it's probably best to sit it out and spend time keeping yourself busy. It'll make you feel better. Good luck to you both.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Im sorry for sounding so stupid. But Im articulate normally, but I find it hard to express my emotions sometimes...I worry too much about what people think of me. We'd only been together 4 months, and we decided that people with a longer history than ours would struggle to cope with "an occcasionally seeing each other relationship" because of the distance and work....but we like each other a lot and want to pursue it.

Any idea why he hasnt been texting me this week? Or why he hasnt replied? We had a good discussion on Monday about the "going on hold" thing.....and hes just been sending one line texts since, should I read anything into this or not?

Thanks guys x

Reply 6

reikazen

he is ether busy studying and making friends

or maybe
on the dark side of things

he has moved on =P

hes your bf lol you should know him lol we cant tell you what he is like lol im sorry love

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

I hope he hasnt moved on *sad face*...I trust him enough to think that that is not the case, but in any case I did say it was no pressure...I want us to be understanding of each others circumstances, not paranoid because of them.

Also I have a tendency to overanalyse things. I suppose he'll text me when he wants to talk and not before. Although its kinda disappointing he didnt text back, coz that means in my head he doesnt wanna talk....he seemed keen on the phone not to drop things altogether, I just dont want things to go too cold between now and when we get back on track. How do i strike the balance between making sure this doesnt hppen and being too forceful?

Reply 8

reikazen

just send him friendly texts , every few days

he will get the point.

Reply 9

Electric_Dreams

That's fine.

Reply 10

Absurd

Seems fine to me.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

reikazen

just send him friendly texts , every few days

he will get the point.

But IM gonna feel like an idiot if he doesnt text back. Its one thing showing you dont want things to go cold, but things have to come from both sides right? He is really different by text to how he is when we speak on the phone or face to face. Do you think I should subtly push the agenda that we should meet up at some point? (to make sure he doesnt forget about me :frown:

Reply 12

reikazen

lol hesur bf you shoulnt feel like that.

Keep texting.

if he donst text back after a while tell him its over, be in control and show you have independance.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

mm yeah independance is key...ok thanks a lot :smile:

Reply 14

reikazen

yep , even men want a confident girlfriend at times , but just make the point that you care night night lol

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

Still hasnt text me regarding what I said. So he obviously doesnt want to speak to me, otherwise he would have done...

I wish I could figure out why that is the case? Im not being overly forward, he said he didnt want to leave things dead either...so why is it now Ive text him, he doesnt seem to care enough to text back?

Reply 16

button8

If you are on a break because you both are busy, maybe he is too busy to text back? :smile:

I know it's really hard but you need to stop worrying about it. Find something to distract yourself with, maybe you could go out but leave your phone behind so you aren't checking it every 5 minutes? :smile:

Reply 17

reikazen

When my current partner is too busy with there life i replace them with porn , however this probly wouldnt work for you.

Ever thought about taking up arts and crafts maybe? could pass the time , perhaps =)

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

I need to stop thinking about it, I know I do....argh its just so hard. I dont want him to overcrowd him, but I know if the distance gets too great between us then itll be real difficult for us to get back together after such a long break due to circumstances...

I dont know what to think, is he just busy? Am I annoying him?....*sigh*

Reply 19

RightSaidJames

To be honest, what I think has happened is that he read the text when he was busy and couldn't reply, forgot about it for ages, and still hasn't replied because so much time has passed that it would be weird to reply now. Just send him another text, asking him a direct question and perhaps adding a "tb" to make a point. He'll get the message.