Should I tell my parents?

Should I tell my parents about my porn addiction. I have struggled with this since the age of 11 currently 17. My parents have caught me watching it in the past and have tried to monitor my internet activity but my desires and urges are so great I managed to bypass them over 2 years ago. My parents are Muslim and so am I and I am worried if I tell them they my react in a bad way and tell me that I have no faith in God - which in a way is true because I have literally tried praying and asking for forgiveness every time I go back to the same sin. In a way my lack of faith could be because I believe God has nothing to do with a person like me who is hypocritical (i.e asking for forgiveness and repeating it a couple days later). I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. I have mock exams in 2 weeks and have lost the will and motivation to do well in life (rn thinking I am gonna fail get DDD and become an even bigger disappointment to my parents than what I am already)

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Go out, find hobbies, get a job, go to the gym

find some sort of distraction that keeps you busy an away from this addiction. It will get easier, maybe go out and meet someone and get to know them, it will help you realise life isn't all about sexual intimacy and it is about so much more. You can even consider getting married young but for the right reasons obviously and to avoid physical addiction like zina

I pray it gets better for you brother

Reply 2

Anonymous #3

Is it porn that you are addicted to or is it masturbation? Can you you masturbate without watching porn?

Reply 3

londonmyst

No- there is no need to tell your parents.
You are months away from being an 18 year old man.
It is time for you to grow up and accept the full responsibility for your own life & future.

Start demonstrating some restraint and self-control.
Remember the purpose of willpower, a positive mindset and use both to give up watching pornographic content forever.
Switch your focus to improving your circumstances or finding new hobbies.
Adding to your income & savings, learning new skills, gaining new qualifications or getting in shape.
Good luck!

(edited 3 years ago)

Reply 4

Anonymous #4

God loves all his creation :smile:

he loves those who asks for forgveness the most. Ask Allah to turn ur heart away from this sinning. Start praying ur salah and see the change in ur life. it really does help.
It's a trick of satan to make a person feel like they sin so much, they cant turn to Allah anymore. it's completely wrong. You can always ask Allah for forgivenss even if u have a whole mountain of sins.
dont lose hope :biggrin:

I pray it gets better for you.

Reply 5

Anonymous #5

Don't put yourself in any situation that you feel may cause you harm. If you truly think that you will get difficulty from your parents for telling them then it might be best not to.

Maybe you could try and seek counselling though if you feel that it is a problem. Some places let you self refer or you might have to go through the gp, but you still don't have to tell your parents. If you're going to start uni soon then they often have their own counselling services you could access too.

Reply 6

username4899406

Original post by Anonymous

Man was created weak, the Qur'an says this
Try to reward yourself with porn breaks if this motivates you to study for the interim
Anything to get the job done for now

But in the longer term...it is fine in moderation but it can be dangerous to your well-being in large quantities

Reply 7

Anonymous #6

Salaam brother

First of all I would like to commend you for speaking up about this issue. Remember Allah is always there for you and do not give up I him.

I have got a few tips for you here:
1. Try to pray all your salaahs on time and if possible at the masjid

2. Start praying 2 rakat salaah istighfar and haajat and cry to Allah about your difficulties and challenges with addiction. ALWAYS REMAIN HOPEFUL AND NEVER DOUBT OR QUESTION ALLAHS POWER

3. Look at what is triggering you to watch porn and masterbate and in what situations and see how you can resolve that.

E.g maybe when no one is at home then you watch or maybe in your room or even when you have nothing to do and have got free time.

4. I'm not sure if you're working or studying but outside those times make yourself busy with a hobby or side business/project so you have something to occupy your mind and something to do in your free time. Just make sure you use up all your free time in some way so your mind doesn't start drifting towards the bad stuff.

5. When outside and even on social media keep your gaze low. Delete social media if you have to.

6. Start Meditating for 10 minutes daily to increase control over your thoughts and actions.

7. Start journaling daily to express gratefulness and it will decrease depressed and negative thoughts.

8. Get in a habit of doing thikr like subhanallah alhamdulillah astaghfirullah though your day so your mind is constantly in state of remembering Allah.

This is what helped me to quit this crippling addiction and I make dua it will help you too inshallah.