I&#x27;m So much better than she is...... so why did he choose her?

OP

Hmmmm cant be bothered to anon anymore

Reply 5

OP

jismith1989

Maybe, just maybe, I'm only throwing conjecture into the air here, a mere assumption, grope in the dark, if you like -- you're not better than her!

Yeah it's kinda obvious that i'm not better than her..................it just makes me feel better saying that.

:s-smilie:

Reply 6

Ascient

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jismith1989

Maybe, just maybe, I'm only throwing conjecture into the air here, a mere assumption, grope in the dark, if you like -- you're not better than her!

^^

^^

And maybe he prefers his girlfriend because she isn't the type of girl that would try and break up a relationship? The sort of girl that would sleep naked and grope a guy who she knows has got a girlfriend and is going through problems? The sort of girlfriend who isn't an arrogant, assumptive git, thinking she knows his girlfriend despite having only seen her once at a party where she seemed fine with everyone but you? Perhaps you're the problem and not her?

That said, he's twice the ****** that you are.

Reply 7

heartofglass

I dunno, maybe he wanted abit of cheap, easy fun and that was you. He's in a relationship with her and that's why he prefers her to you. Tough luck.
Oh and you look like that girl from gossip girl, lucky you.

Reply 8

MasterJomi

12

You just got played.

Reply 9

neebo

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MasterJomi

You just got played.

Agreed.

Someone who is willing to do what you do with someone who is in a relationship is not girlfriend material.

Reply 10

serrellen

You were mad to get naked with him while he had a girlfriend. Are you crazy? Also, no wonder she completely blanked you - did you really expect her to be hugging you when you essentially tried to steal her boyfriend?

Reply 11

OP

Ascient

The sort of girlfriend who isn't an arrogant, assumptive git, thinking she knows his girlfriend despite having only seen her once at a party where she seemed fine with everyone but you?

There have been other occasions when we met......that was just the most recent example, i was trying to keep the post short ish!!

yeah thanks! but surely the basic isuue in a relationship is do they make you happy?
he's grumpy with her...... happy with me, you can see why i'm confused about why he chose her.

Reply 12

serrellen

(To summarise, I have no sympathy. And you're not better than her).

Reply 13

serrellen

cheeseinthedraw

he's grumpy with her...... happy with me, you can see why i'm confused about why he chose her.

Well, all you have is his word that he was unhappy with her. He's trying to get into bed with you, n'est ce pas? He's not going to be going on about how much he loves her!

Reply 14

Resok

12

I'm sorry, what?

Reply 15

suek

17

1. The girlfriend either does know about you, or suspects something, hence she is wary of you.

2. Guy isn't worth your time anyway if he's willing to kiss/get naked/whatever else with another girl whilst in a relationship. (Yes, you HAD done something wrong by participating in this with a 'taken' man :p:

) Could you trust him to not do that to you?

3. Cut him loose, you need to look out for number one and him guilting you into 'sticking around' for his having cake and eating it antics isn't fair on you.

Reply 16

OP

suek

3. Cut him loose, you need to look out for number one and him guilting you into 'sticking around' for his having cake and eating it antics isn't fair on you.

Thanks.....it's just going to be so hard to do. Every friend i have made at uni is also mutual friends with him.
i'm basically going to be back ti square one, in a strange town with no friends around me :frown:

Reply 17

**CutiePie**

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cheeseinthedraw

OK so this is how it goes....

I tried to be nice to his girlfriend by complementing her shoes (they were so nice)

Hehe, that bit made me laugh! Trust her for getting the nice shoes and the nice guy!!

Anyway, sorry there's not alot i can offer as advice. Talk to the guy maybe when the girl goes back??

Reply 18

suek

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cheeseinthedraw

Thanks.....it's just going to be so hard to do. Every friend i have made at uni is also mutual friends with him.
i'm basically going to be back ti square one, in a strange town with no friends around me :frown:

You can still be friends with your mutual friends, just don't let him guilt you into being his dependable bit on the side or whatever. Treat him civily, but no more :smile:

Reply 19

bass_belle