Living at home during University

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Im really struggling at the moment, i have a really close friendship group of 3 and both my friends are living in halls for their first year, i have decided to live at home for the first year. Im struggling with feeling left out, does anyone have any advice or reassurance??
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Im really struggling at the moment, i have a really close friendship group of 3 and both my friends are living in halls for their first year, i have decided to live at home for the first year. Im struggling with feeling left out, does anyone have any advice or reassurance??

As a piece of support, you have to accept your situation and try to make the best of the situation. Maybe you make new friends at home, so you don't get bored or left out, as most students will be in halls during term time. Good luck
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Living at home has lots of benefits, you're saving money, have the help and support of your parents, etc i think its a good choice !
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Unfortunately, you played yourself. You should have thought about it when your mates chose to live in halls.

As a piece of support, you have to accept your situation and try to make the best of the situation. Maybe you make new friends at home, so you don't get bored or left out, as most students will be in halls during term time. Good luck
Im not exactly sure you helped at all there, except for making the situation worse. For me my best option was to stay at home during year 1 due to health issues with family and weighing up financial loses.

I will have no problem making friends i am sure of that, i am just looking for suggestions to get over this feeling of being left out. Both my friends are going to different universities to me and to each other so that really isn’t the problem here either.
please consider how what you say may impact others next time.
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Living at home has lots of benefits, you're saving money, have the help and support of your parents, etc i think its a good choice !
Thank you, i really needed to hear that right now, i think its the best decision for me this year. Thanks for the support
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Depends on what you value more- being home or the social life/full uni experience.
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Depends on what you value more- being home or the social life/full uni experience.
A healthy mix really- but i got news this year a close family member has a terminal illness and is very unlikely to make it past Christmas, which heavily swayed my decision. I do only live a 25 -35 minute drive from my university, so i guess as long as im not drinking i wont miss out too much on social events?
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(Original post by Abi0803)
Im really struggling at the moment, i have a really close friendship group of 3 and both my friends are living in halls for their first year, i have decided to live at home for the first year. Im struggling with feeling left out, does anyone have any advice or reassurance??

Don’t worry about it there will be loads of other people that are in exactly the same situation and are living at home. What uni are u going to?
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A healthy mix really- but i got news this year a close family member has a terminal illness and is very unlikely to make it past Christmas, which heavily swayed my decision. I do only live a 25 -35 minute drive from my university, so i guess as long as im not drinking i wont miss out too much on social events?
Ngl, i lived at home during all three years of my undergrad and hated it. It was only a 15min drive but it made socialising harder because there was always the pressure to be home a certain time etc. I couldnt just go out or do late night study sessions whenever i wanted.
If you can make it work then thats great.
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On the flip side, I lived on campus for 2/4 years of my degree and hated it. I'm still glad I experienced it, sure, but it's not for everyone. As long as you're not wanting to stay out until late every night then it's not that hard to make living at home work.
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Im really struggling at the moment, i have a really close friendship group of 3 and both my friends are living in halls for their first year, i have decided to live at home for the first year. Im struggling with feeling left out, does anyone have any advice or reassurance??
University is more for your education anyway, it's your problem that you decided to live at home, atleast you can put your head down and work on your studies
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Ngl, i lived at home during all three years of my undergrad and hated it. It was only a 15min drive but it made socialising harder because there was always the pressure to be home a certain time etc. I couldnt just go out or do late night study sessions whenever i wanted.
If you can make it work then thats great.
Yeah i guess where my situation differs is im determined on moving out for the second year.
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University is more for your education anyway, it's your problem that you decided to live at home, atleast you can put your head down and work on your studies
I chose to live at home for numerous reasons - wouldn’t exactly call that ‘my problem’
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On the flip side, I lived on campus for 2/4 years of my degree and hated it. I'm still glad I experienced it, sure, but it's not for everyone. As long as you're not wanting to stay out until late every night then it's not that hard to make living at home work.
Thank you thats really helpful
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I chose to live at home for numerous reasons - wouldn’t exactly call that ‘my problem’
You can't have everything, you either have your "numerous reasons" or stay at home
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Don't worry you will meet people in your class and in societies
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Hi! Abi0803 I’ll be living at home for the first year of university too! I think we can still socialise with our friends, regardless of where we are. And also, I won’t get homesick at all and I can continue working in my current job, and save money. You are not alone girl!
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(Original post by Abi0803)
A healthy mix really- but i got news this year a close family member has a terminal illness and is very unlikely to make it past Christmas, which heavily swayed my decision. I do only live a 25 -35 minute drive from my university, so i guess as long as im not drinking i wont miss out too much on social events?
I’m really sorry to hear about your family member! I think the main thing is to remember why you chose to remain at home and that everyone has different circumstances. Also, living in halls has its negatives too!
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Hi! Abi0803 I’ll be living at home for the first year of university too! I think we can still socialise with our friends, regardless of where we are. And also, I won’t get homesick at all and I can continue working in my current job, and save money. You are not alone girl!
Thank you so much for that!!!
Really nice to hear more people in a similar boats, same plan here i need to save money and be near family this year
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Don't worry you will meet people in your class and in societies
Thank you
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