I’m afraid from my friend, and his boyfriend.

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My friend told me he has reoccurring thoughts about raping people. I suggested coping mechanisms like distracting himself from the thought and even therapy. But he told me to stop the thoughts he needs to have a sexual experience. He started say thing like “ no body is going to have a sexual experience with me because they will find it creepy, and you won’t, would you?” He then asked me if he was drunk, tired or whatever and he did something to me how would I react.

I told his boyfriend about this, as I no longer think my friend is a safe person. His boyfriend came to my house and patronised me from being overly worried and emotional.

Once my friend found out I told his boyfriend he sent me text messages trying to guilt me for speaking out. He is incredibly manipulative, I don’t think he’s safe to be around. I’m scared about what he might do to someone, or his boyfriend.
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My friend told me he has reoccurring thoughts about raping people. I suggested coping mechanisms like distracting himself from the thought and even therapy. But he told me to stop the thoughts he needs to have a sexual experience. He started say thing like “ no body is going to have a sexual experience with me because they will find it creepy, and you won’t, would you?” He then asked me if he was drunk, tired or whatever and he did something to me how would I react.

I told his boyfriend about this, as I no longer think my friend is a safe person. His boyfriend came to my house and patronised me from being overly worried and emotional.

Once my friend found out I told his boyfriend he sent me text messages trying to guilt me for speaking out. He is incredibly manipulative, I don’t think he’s safe to be around. I’m scared about what he might do to someone, or his boyfriend.
Avoid this friend. He sounds extremely creepy and you should tell someone else as well (family/friend/teacher)
Make sure to never be in a situation alone with him, drunk or vulnerable in any way. If he comes to your house and if your alone don't open the door to him.
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My friend told me he has reoccurring thoughts about raping people. I suggested coping mechanisms like distracting himself from the thought and even therapy. But he told me to stop the thoughts he needs to have a sexual experience. He started say thing like “ no body is going to have a sexual experience with me because they will find it creepy, and you won’t, would you?” He then asked me if he was drunk, tired or whatever and he did something to me how would I react.

I told his boyfriend about this, as I no longer think my friend is a safe person. His boyfriend came to my house and patronised me from being overly worried and emotional.

Once my friend found out I told his boyfriend he sent me text messages trying to guilt me for speaking out. He is incredibly manipulative, I don’t think he’s safe to be around. I’m scared about what he might do to someone, or his boyfriend.
Hello, like someone said above ^ yes.. definitely look after your safety first. This might even escalate into a police case if it goes any further. I hope you are okay! 😕
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My friend told me he has reoccurring thoughts about raping people. I suggested coping mechanisms like distracting himself from the thought and even therapy. But he told me to stop the thoughts he needs to have a sexual experience. He started say thing like “ no body is going to have a sexual experience with me because they will find it creepy, and you won’t, would you?” He then asked me if he was drunk, tired or whatever and he did something to me how would I react.

I told his boyfriend about this, as I no longer think my friend is a safe person. His boyfriend came to my house and patronised me from being overly worried and emotional.

Once my friend found out I told his boyfriend he sent me text messages trying to guilt me for speaking out. He is incredibly manipulative, I don’t think he’s safe to be around. I’m scared about what he might do to someone, or his boyfriend.
If anyone I know had those types of thoughts and felt comfortable enough to share them with others I would completely remove them from my life immediately. Trying to help him might be the moral thing to do but if he's manipulative, you're only endangering yourself.
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(Original post by meymey:))
Avoid this friend. He sounds extremely creepy and you should tell someone else as well (family/friend/teacher)
Make sure to never be in a situation alone with him, drunk or vulnerable in any way. If he comes to your house and if your alone don't open the door to him.
Thank you so much, it felt really good to have someone listen. I’ll definitely delete his number.
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Hello, like someone said above ^ yes.. definitely look after your safety first. This might even escalate into a police case if it goes any further. I hope you are okay! 😕
Thank you for the advice, I’m so sorry about the slightly disturbing story. I’ll take steps to try remove him from my life.
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If anyone I know had those types of thoughts and felt comfortable enough to share them with others I would completely remove them from my life immediately. Trying to help him might be the moral thing to do but if he's manipulative, you're only endangering yourself.
You’re right, I hope he gets help in the future, but it’s a good idea to remove him from my life.
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Thank you for the advice, I’m so sorry about the slightly disturbing story. I’ll take steps to try remove him from my life.
You’re welcome!!
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Thank you so much, it felt really good to have someone listen. I’ll definitely delete his number.
thats great. ur welcome
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