Should I be feeling guilty about this?Watch
He has a really big crush on me but we’ve already had this discussion that I don’t feel the same cos I really don’t. He thinks that this is cos we’ve only worked and hung out together a few times and my feelings will change over the months but I know they won’t and never will cos I am not attracted to him at all. I do love him, like a friend and big brother but that’s as far as it goes for me. He always tells me how beautiful and pretty I am he doesn’t even try and hide it. Sometimes I feel uncomfortable when he flirts and compliments me but I try and hide it to spare his feelings
I enjoy spending time with him and hanging out as friends and I’d love to meet his friends. But he said his mum will be with him on our hangout tomorrow
His mum, who he said has been teasing him about me ever since we met in august, he told me she’s bound to tease us so I don’t want to go cos I know exactly what it’s gonna be “look at how he looks at you” “you two are a perfect match” “he never shuts up about you” etc. he’s admitted he thinks about me all the time. If I go tomorrow when his mum’s there i know I’ll feel uncomfortable and awkward af. And it might be building his hopes up which is not fair on him at all also what could I really talk to her about? I’ll feel like a gooseberry and jealous that they get on so well cos my own mum hasn’t got the time of day for me lately and it breaks my heart
I tried to cancel just now saying something’s come up and I’m not feeling too good. He always claims to care about my feelings but is trying to railroad me into going cos “I’m not happy lately and seeing you will help me feel better” he is normally really caring about me and now wants to know why I won’t go, what the hell am I supposed to say? I can’t tell him it’s cos of his mum
22f and 24m
This might be a deliberate stage by him to get what he wants, by having his mum there putting pressure on you which is so wrong. He’s probably asked her to help him snare you. There’s something afoot!
I'd cancel. It may sound harsh but why should you have to put yourself through so much awkwardness for a guy who clearly doesn't respect your boundaries and can't take 'no' for an answer?