I really hate socialising
I don't socialise much but after a while by myself I get the impulse to and I recently booked a trip with a couple friends for two days and I really regret it now. I'm filled with such dread and stress that I feel like a want to be sick, but I can't go back now as most of the things are none refundable. This is just a rant to be honest, but I'd love some advice on how to help deal with being so introverted as it is really taking its toll on me.
To be honest I have had many similar experiences like yours whilst being someone who has social anxiety. Not all of the experiences were the same, but I would some days be 'full of life' and have the motivation to go out of my boundaries to do stuff I usually avoid and on impulse I would make decisions like agreeing to meet up, sign up to a competitions or courses, arrange trips with friends etc. Later on when all the energy is dried up I would be filled with regret. Sometimes I would try to cancel whatever I planned using some excuse, but other times I would still go forward with it and when it is all over I usually found myself to have enjoyed the experience.
In short, it's your mindset and how you view it that makes you feel how you currently are. In addition, it may just be a temporary mental resistance from you doing something out of your comfort zone and when the ball starts rolling those feelings may reduce. Try sorting out your thoughts on how and what you will be doing over the 2 days and maybe your dread (if caused by uncertainty) may be reduced.
Hope it helps.
In short, it's your mindset and how you view it that makes you feel how you currently are. In addition, it may just be a temporary mental resistance from you doing something out of your comfort zone and when the ball starts rolling those feelings may reduce. Try sorting out your thoughts on how and what you will be doing over the 2 days and maybe your dread (if caused by uncertainty) may be reduced.
Hope it helps.
Original post by Anonymous
I don't socialise much but after a while by myself I get the impulse to and I recently booked a trip with a couple friends for two days and I really regret it now. I'm filled with such dread and stress that I feel like a want to be sick, but I can't go back now as most of the things are none refundable. This is just a rant to be honest, but I'd love some advice on how to help deal with being so introverted as it is really taking its toll on me.
Age?
Original post by Anonymous
Age?
23, yes I know that is quite old to be having this problem but I feel like my social anxiety is getting worse
Original post by Anonymous
I don't socialise much but after a while by myself I get the impulse to and I recently booked a trip with a couple friends for two days and I really regret it now. I'm filled with such dread and stress that I feel like a want to be sick, but I can't go back now as most of the things are none refundable. This is just a rant to be honest, but I'd love some advice on how to help deal with being so introverted as it is really taking its toll on me.
If you cant be bothered to talk with people then you pay the price which means you'll have no hope in a normal adult life
Original post by sabir2012
To be honest I have had many similar experiences like yours whilst being someone who has social anxiety. Not all of the experiences were the same, but I would some days be 'full of life' and have the motivation to go out of my boundaries to do stuff I usually avoid and on impulse I would make decisions like agreeing to meet up, sign up to a competitions or courses, arrange trips with friends etc. Later on when all the energy is dried up I would be filled with regret. Sometimes I would try to cancel whatever I planned using some excuse, but other times I would still go forward with it and when it is all over I usually found myself to have enjoyed the experience.
In short, it's your mindset and how you view it that makes you feel how you currently are. In addition, it may just be a temporary mental resistance from you doing something out of your comfort zone and when the ball starts rolling those feelings may reduce. Try sorting out your thoughts on how and what you will be doing over the 2 days and maybe your dread (if caused by uncertainty) may be reduced.
Hope it helps.
In short, it's your mindset and how you view it that makes you feel how you currently are. In addition, it may just be a temporary mental resistance from you doing something out of your comfort zone and when the ball starts rolling those feelings may reduce. Try sorting out your thoughts on how and what you will be doing over the 2 days and maybe your dread (if caused by uncertainty) may be reduced.
Hope it helps.
yes that is exactly it! thanks for the reply btw! I do think sometimes I just need to throw myself into it and take a moment when I can, because as you said, your energy gets drained to quickly and it's not that I 'can't be bothered' as someone has already commented, I think it's just getting overwhelmed and I think I just need to approach these thoughts and anxieties differently. Thanks!
Go, you may enjoy it.
