So I’m a 23 year old girl who just graduated from uni in July. I’ve been living out for uni and even went to Spain and Argentina for my year abroad. My parents weren’t thrilled but I pushed for it.
I moved home from my uni house mid August. Since moving home, I’ve felt my depression and BPD get increasingly worse. My bedroom only fits a bed and a wardrobe and it feels so claustrophobic to be in there. Small things that bought me joy such as playing Xbox on my TV and having a bath have been snatched from me. I’m also not Muslim, and I enjoy wearing what I like, smoking and going out. I can’t do any of these things at home. I have a 10pm curfew and my very move is watched and questioned. I feel like I’m in a cage.
I had a full time job which kept me busy and fulfilled, but I’ve been made redundant. I got a massive redundancy payout that I could use to support myself for about 6 months without a job if I moved out. Although I do have a few job prospects and would be starting a new job in November hopefully.
I’ve found a few houses that look incredible and would be within commuting distance of London, which is where I want to work. The only problem is, how do I tell my parents? They were fine with me moving out for uni, but now I’d be expected to stay home until I’m married. My sister is 27 and still lives at home.
TLDR;
1. I was allowed to move out for uni, but I’ve graduated now and expected to live at home until I’m married, like my older sister.
2. My home life has caused a flare up of my depression and BPD. And I lost my job which brought my joy.
3. I can support myself for 6 months without a job if I move out. Just unsure how to tell my parents I want to move out.