Is there shame in living at home at uni ?

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I tried halls and it is so expensive, very emotionally draining,and I can never be myself because i have to be formal and agreeable to all of my flatmates even when upset, i find it a lot harder to study because there are distractions everywhere.

Is there shame in commuting 40 minutes ?
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I lived at home while attending college, which I passed with full colors, so you need not feel any embarrassment about it.
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I lived at home while attending college, which I passed with full colors, so you need not feel any embarrassment about it.
uni is different to college
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uni is different to college
Where I live, "college" means what people in the UK tend to call "uni".
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Nobody care if you live at home dont worry
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I tried halls and it is so expensive, very emotionally draining,and I can never be myself because i have to be formal and agreeable to all of my flatmates even when upset, i find it a lot harder to study because there are distractions everywhere.

Is there shame in commuting 40 minutes ?
No. The only "shame" is that you're less able to socialise with other students, which would likely expose you to a wider range of backgrounds, and challenge some of your ideas and preconceptions. Having to get along with other people isn't bad, unless they're extreme.

On the practical side, 80 minutes (I assume 40 each way) is a big chunk of your day to lose. Commute times can, depending upon your mode of transport, be quite variable too.

Perhaps you could find other students that you get along better with, with a view to sharing accommodation next year.
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I know someone doing the same. I don't think there's shame in it but it might be best to try getting that independence if you can.
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No. The only "shame" is that you're less able to socialise with other students, which would likely expose you to a wider range of backgrounds, and challenge some of your ideas and preconceptions. Having to get along with other people isn't bad, unless they're extreme.

On the practical side, 80 minutes (I assume 40 each way) is a big chunk of your day to lose. Commute times can, depending upon your mode of transport, be quite variable too.

Perhaps you could find other students that you get along better with, with a view to sharing accommodation next year.
Yes, but i will miss out on a valuable life experience, wont i ?
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I tried halls and it is so expensive, very emotionally draining,and I can never be myself because i have to be formal and agreeable to all of my flatmates even when upset, i find it a lot harder to study because there are distractions everywhere.

Is there shame in commuting 40 minutes ?
Hey!

There's no shame in living at home at all, so many people decide to commute rather than move away. I commuted when I was a student, I didn't live far from the uni and moving out just didn't appeal to me

I didn't find it caused any issues with socialising, there were still plenty of opportunities to meet new people.

I thought you might find this student blog post useful:
Studying from home - a rarely mentioned student

Good luck with your uni journey

Becky
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no. most people on my course live at home and it's fine. you make friends with people on your course.
I don't mind living at home because I get on with my parents and I've got a lot of independence.
I'd never afford to live out anyway ahah.
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Nothing shameful- during covid living at home is fine.
Plenty of students studying in england & wales have returned to their family homes and had their accomodation refunded due to the pandemic.
This has been quite helpful for many students in terms of being able to build up some cash savings that would otherwise have been spent on rent or uni living expenses.
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You've at least given halls a try so I'd say go for commuting, especially if it will benefit you more in terms of studying. There's nothing shameful about it.

Maybe a flat can be an option though? I've found that where I am that they're generally less expensive. It would mean you'd still be close to your uni at least
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I tried halls and it is so expensive, very emotionally draining,and I can never be myself because i have to be formal and agreeable to all of my flatmates even when upset, i find it a lot harder to study because there are distractions everywhere.

Is there shame in commuting 40 minutes ?
There's no shame in living at home whatsoever - do what's best for you!

University is not all it's made up to be a lot of the time and there are people with a similar mindset as you, so there's no shame.
If you've explored what was at uni and it wasn't for you, it's not for you. It's much better to enjoy your life your way than be miserable in an environment that clearly isn't suited to you.

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