My mum is disappointed in my for not going university

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She was kind of pressuring me to apply and I didn't want to. She was always bringing information on different universities back and I didn't want to go so kept saying but she wouldn't listen and I said probably literally hundreds of times altogether that I don't want to go. I didnt want to go to save my life. I would rather do nothing all day than go to university and I said this. I don't want to ruin my future by going. She's just disappointed in me like coming home all the time referring to people who I went to school with and comparing them to me that they are off to uni or already there but I don't care.
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I think she is just worried , maybe if you discussed what other plans you have about higher education/working she might feel better about it
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I mean you say " I would rather do nothing all day than go to university". Are you doing anything? I don't think it's unreasonable to encourage you to do something if you're living with them, even if that's apprenticeship/technical training rather than university.
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(Original post by SubhanF)
I think she is just worried , maybe if you discussed what other plans you have about higher education/working she might feel better about it
Worried about what.I don't want further education

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I mean you say " I would rather do nothing all day than go to university". Are you doing anything? I don't think it's unreasonable to encourage you to do something if you're living with them, even if that's apprenticeship/technical training rather than university.
I just have a job working for family atm. She was pretty much forcing me though
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Worried about what.I don't want further education


I just have a job working for family atm. She was pretty much forcing me though
I don’t want to go either. I feel pressured to go and feel like I’ll fail my family if I don’t
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I don’t want to go either. I feel pressured to go and feel like I’ll fail my family if I don’t
Don't go, you are going to ruin your future just for your family, it might be a bit easier for you just make it clear you aren't going
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Don't go, you are going to ruin your future just for your family, it might be a bit easier for you just make it clear you aren't going
How would going to university ruin your future?
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What do you intend to do with your life, not at university...

Do you have a 5 year plan, career ambitions...
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How would going to university ruin your future?
Financially. I know a few people who just have loads of debts when they are older from university. I'm not risking that even though it might not happen to everyone and it also doesn't require a good job. I know people who struggled to get jobs and end up stuck with their parents till they are like 30 then people who kicked out of school who moved out in their teens
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What do you intend to do with your life, not at university...

Do you have a 5 year plan, career ambitions...
I want to get an apprenticeship, I applied for one
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Everyone's different! I'm currently taking a gap year and my parents think that I'm crazy for wanting to go uni and get debt etc. They think that I should just stay at my job and work my way up.
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Everyone's different! I'm currently taking a gap year and my parents think that I'm crazy for wanting to go uni and get debt etc. They think that I should just stay at my job and work my way up.
Do what you want
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Financially. I know a few people who just have loads of debts when they are older from university. I'm not risking that even though it might not happen to everyone and it also doesn't require a good job. I know people who struggled to get jobs and end up stuck with their parents till they are like 30 then people who kicked out of school who moved out in their teens
Students debt isn't a real debt especially not with the current repayment scheme. It is basically a tiny tax that you don't even notice coming out of your payslip.

Going to university isn't the reason they can't get a job.
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Students debt isn't a real debt especially not with the current repayment scheme. It is basically a tiny tax that you don't even notice coming out of your payslip.

Going to university isn't the reason they can't get a job.
Yes I meant is it worth it to go university, all that money and time then you still aren't really garanteed a job
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I want to get an apprenticeship, I applied for one
Perhaps you should come up with a more thorough & thought out plan and present a viable alternative to your mum
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Yes I meant is it worth it to go university, all that money and time then you still aren't really garanteed a job
Nobody is ever guaranteed a job, that is just life.
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(Original post by DiddyDec)
Nobody is ever guaranteed a job, that is just life.
It's not as bad if you haven't wasted loads of years just for nothing. I just don’t think university is worth it in general
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It's not as bad if you haven't wasted loads of years just for nothing. I just don’t think university is worth it in general
That isn't entirely true, having a degree gives you more opportunities when applying for work because you can apply for graduate jobs as well as entry level not requiring a degree.
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It's 100% up to you whether you waste your years at uni. Its not just about your degree, it's about the people you meet, the connections you make and the ideas you develop. It helps you grow academically but also as a person. What actually is your plan going forwards? It's not much use saving 3 years and then doing nothing with them.
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(Original post by DiddyDec)
That isn't entirely true, having a degree gives you more opportunities when applying for work because you can apply for graduate jobs as well as entry level not requiring a degree.
What types of jobs are graduates though
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