Found out my sister has a Bf, I’m very overprotective

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Sister has a boyfriend and I’m an very overprotective brother Hi everyone, Need some advice as it’s been keeping me up all night. My sister (22) has a secret boyfriend, I know this because she’s on the phone late at night everyday and when I ask who is it she’s say her girl best friend however I’ve seen her missed calls and it’s a guy I’ve never seen before. I’ve also heard some of her conversations (as we have thin walls so can hear who she’s talking to) To my knowledge I think they have met only once, but I only found out after so couldn’t stop it. As of now she has no idea that I know she has a boyfriend and haven’t confronted her yet. She tried meeting him again today but made an excuse so she wouldn’t leave the house. I’m extremely overprotective as I know London boys and they ain’t good at all. Also we jokingly discussed this months before and I said I don’t want her to get a boyfriend before 24/25 as that’s usually when my cousins find a man and marry after like 5 years. We’re also a Indian family so this ain’t normal. Any advice on what to do as I don’t want this to continue and has anyone had a similar experience
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In my opinion it’s her life and not your place to stop it, how would you feel if she listened in to your phone calls and objected to something to do with your social life.
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Sister has a boyfriend and I’m an very overprotective brother Hi everyone, Need some advice as it’s been keeping me up all night. My sister (22) has a secret boyfriend, I know this because she’s on the phone late at night everyday and when I ask who is it she’s say her girl best friend however I’ve seen her missed calls and it’s a guy I’ve never seen before. I’ve also heard some of her conversations (as we have thin walls so can hear who she’s talking to) To my knowledge I think they have met only once, but I only found out after so couldn’t stop it. As of now she has no idea that I know she has a boyfriend and haven’t confronted her yet. She tried meeting him again today but made an excuse so she wouldn’t leave the house. I’m extremely overprotective as I know London boys and they ain’t good at all. Also we jokingly discussed this months before and I said I don’t want her to get a boyfriend before 24/25 as that’s usually when my cousins find a man and marry after like 5 years. We’re also a Indian family so this ain’t normal. Any advice on what to do as I don’t want this to continue and has anyone had a similar experience
That's a ridiculous expectation. How old is she and do you have any reason to suspect this guy isn't good to her?

If you're worried about her welfare then I suggest becoming someone she can open up to because she feels safe and cared for. If you just don't like the idea then grow up.
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It’s good that you recognise that your behaviour is incorrect and you don’t want to continue behaving this way.
That’s step one to adjusting your behaviour so well done.

Step two is to respect her space and concentrate on your own life for now. When she is ready to be open she will let you know-no confrontations are necessary.
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she is 22, she can do what she wants lol. this is England so it doesn't matter that it's not a normal thing in your Indian family
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It's none of your business what your adult sister does. No wonder she keeps her boyfriend secret with your attitude! For overprotective read controlling, interfering, sneaky, immature, makes sweeping generalisations...
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You've recognised that you are an overprotective brother. Now you should focus on trying to change this about yourself. A 22yo woman does not need an overprotective sibling - this is actually a negative thing!
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Stop being jealous
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Stay out of it x 10. You, yourself use the word overprotective several times, that means you're not helping ort acting in her best interests.
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when you say london boys do you mean black?
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Best advice I can give is for you to mind your own business. She's 22 fgs, a fully grown adult woman. She can do what she likes with her life
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You have come to exactly the right place to post your troll thread and whip up a lot of outrage.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Sister has a boyfriend and I’m an very overprotective brother Hi everyone, Need some advice as it’s been keeping me up all night. My sister (22) has a secret boyfriend, I know this because she’s on the phone late at night everyday and when I ask who is it she’s say her girl best friend however I’ve seen her missed calls and it’s a guy I’ve never seen before. I’ve also heard some of her conversations (as we have thin walls so can hear who she’s talking to) To my knowledge I think they have met only once, but I only found out after so couldn’t stop it. As of now she has no idea that I know she has a boyfriend and haven’t confronted her yet. She tried meeting him again today but made an excuse so she wouldn’t leave the house. I’m extremely overprotective as I know London boys and they ain’t good at all. Also we jokingly discussed this months before and I said I don’t want her to get a boyfriend before 24/25 as that’s usually when my cousins find a man and marry after like 5 years. We’re also a Indian family so this ain’t normal. Any advice on what to do as I don’t want this to continue and has anyone had a similar experience
What country is he from?
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well she’s 22 mate, harsh reality is she can do what she wants, when she wants. I get it, you don’t want to see her get hurt, but you could also be stopping her from being happy. And in a way, you then become the one hurting her.
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Not surprised she keeps it a secret with you creeping around, stay out of it and get a hobby because stalking your sister is not healthy.
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(Original post by karl pilkington)
when you say london boys do you mean black?
No he’s Indian
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(Original post by Trinculo)
You have come to exactly the right place to post your troll thread and whip up a lot of outrage.
What? Not a troll mate
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