Getting on with flat mates / Social anxiety / halls

I could genuinely talk about this for hours, but so far I’ve made some really good friends, but we mostly just go clubbing together / get food but the downside is they don’t stay in my accom.

I fell back a lot during my first few days moving into my flat, and really couldn’t bring myself to interact with everyone even though I really wanted to. They’ve all practically bonded and each night that I stay in I just feel extremely left out.

The thought of walking into the kitchen while they’re all there, gives my huge panic attacks. I’m worrying about if it’ll go silent once I walk in, or if they don’t actually want me there. I was hoping to be close with my flatmates , and do have a ‘group’ as such.

I’ve made friends but not a group, and I feel like without a group it’s pointless. Everyone in my halls accommodation is having flat parties and pres every day, and as much as I want to go I can’t, as no one in my flat ‘goes out’ / drinks. So I don’t plan on going alone to them.

If I haven’t bonded with my flatmates & that’s just how it’ll be, will my year be horrible? I’m just thinking of Christmas and the holidays where everyone should all be together, or doing activities as such as flatmates. I don’t want to be left out of all of it, or ruining my experience by hiding in my room.

I really need advice on what to do. I was thinking of moving flats but being realistic I’m not sure how it would change anything. My flat is an all girls flat which wasn’t ideal for me as I wanted a mix or girls & boys, in order for it to not just be in diverse and boring as such.

Should I message my flatmates? Or should I just realise the situation I’m in? Does it get better?

Thanks 💗

I could genuinely talk about this for hours, but so far I’ve made some really good friends, but we mostly just go clubbing together / get food but the downside is they don’t stay in my accom.

I fell back a lot during my first few days moving into my flat, and really couldn’t bring myself to interact with everyone even though I really wanted to. They’ve all practically bonded and each night that I stay in I just feel extremely left out.

The thought of walking into the kitchen while they’re all there, gives my huge panic attacks. I’m worrying about if it’ll go silent once I walk in, or if they don’t actually want me there. I was hoping to be close with my flatmates , and do have a ‘group’ as such.

I’ve made friends but not a group, and I feel like without a group it’s pointless. Everyone in my halls accommodation is having flat parties and pres every day, and as much as I want to go I can’t, as no one in my flat ‘goes out’ / drinks. So I don’t plan on going alone to them.

If I haven’t bonded with my flatmates & that’s just how it’ll be, will my year be horrible? I’m just thinking of Christmas and the holidays where everyone should all be together, or doing activities as such as flatmates. I don’t want to be left out of all of it, or ruining my experience by hiding in my room.

I really need advice on what to do. I was thinking of moving flats but being realistic I’m not sure how it would change anything. My flat is an all girls flat which wasn’t ideal for me as I wanted a mix or girls & boys, in order for it to not just be in diverse and boring as such.

Should I message my flatmates? Or should I just realise the situation I’m in? Does it get better?

Thanks 💗

Im the same ive just started and everyone in my flat gets along very nicely and I'm left on my own. i feel so left out and when I try to make an effort I don't feel like they want me there so I'm just stuck in my room.

It’s really awful! I was really close to switching flats in the past few days but I feel like it would be ten times worse + everyone would most likely have gotten on by now. So it’s not really ideal.

I just don’t know what to do as, your Uni accommodation and flatmates really shapes the experience so much x