My date is anti vaxxer, should I still go on a date with him?

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Ok so I'm a bit frightened rn. This week I'm going on a date with a bloke from online who I've been getting on with like a house on fire. Everything is going ok....except that I've discovered today he is anti vaccine. And Now I don't even know if I want to meet him anymore, his attitude to it is so disgusting and it's put me off a bit.

My mum has been struggling to breathe properly today, it's not coronavirus though it's a chest infection. Anyway I used the opportunity to ask my date if he's ok for us to both do a test before our date, I do not want to bring the virus home to my mum when she's poorly and I'm scared of catching it myself. At first my date tried to avoid the question, but then said he doesn't have any tests on him but he is sure he doesn't have it. Everyone in my family including me have been double jabbed. Basically, my date has told me he has no intention of getting the vaccine, and doesn't even want to get tested. He just doesn't give a ****, and insists "I don't think I need it" which is selfish af to me, what about his grandparents? Mum and dad? I told him it shouldn't just be about what he wants, think of his family, but even knowing how anxious i am about this, my warnings about it, telling him a true story about a bodybuilder who died cos he refused the vaccine, he won't listen.

Should I even bother going on a date with this bloke? I feel like I could come home with the virus if I do. It's so **** cos I really liked him.
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(Original post by girlywurly123)
Ok so I'm a bit frightened rn. This week I'm going on a date with a bloke from online who I've been getting on with like a house on fire. Everything is going ok....except that I've discovered today he is anti vaccine. And Now I don't even know if I want to meet him anymore, his attitude to it is so disgusting and it's put me off a bit.

My mum has been struggling to breathe properly today, it's not coronavirus though it's a chest infection. Anyway I used the opportunity to ask my date if he's ok for us to both do a test before our date, I do not want to bring the virus home to my mum when she's poorly and I'm scared of catching it myself. At first my date tried to avoid the question, but then said he doesn't have any tests on him but he is sure he doesn't have it. Everyone in my family including me have been double jabbed. Basically, my date has told me he has no intention of getting the vaccine, and doesn't even want to get tested. He just doesn't give a ****, and insists "I don't think I need it" which is selfish af to me, what about his grandparents? Mum and dad? I told him it shouldn't just be about what he wants, think of his family, but even knowing how anxious i am about this, my warnings about it, telling him a true story about a bodybuilder who died cos he refused the vaccine, he won't listen.

Should I even bother going on a date with this bloke? I feel like I could come home with the virus if I do. It's so **** cos I really liked him.
Go on the date if you're fine going out with someone who defies the laws of science and basic knowledge.
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No I wouldn't go, I agree he is being really selfish and this incident and refusal to do something that would probably save his life if he caught it, it's showing his true colours. He's not listening to you, which means he doesn't respect you. **** him off!
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That'd be a dealbreaker for me, personally, so if I were you I would end things here.
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I would find better date
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Kinda feel like I'm being selfish too though cos of my feelings about it :/
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(Original post by girlywurly123)
Ok so I'm a bit frightened rn. This week I'm going on a date with a bloke from online who I've been getting on with like a house on fire. Everything is going ok....except that I've discovered today he is anti vaccine. And Now I don't even know if I want to meet him anymore, his attitude to it is so disgusting and it's put me off a bit.

My mum has been struggling to breathe properly today, it's not coronavirus though it's a chest infection. Anyway I used the opportunity to ask my date if he's ok for us to both do a test before our date, I do not want to bring the virus home to my mum when she's poorly and I'm scared of catching it myself. At first my date tried to avoid the question, but then said he doesn't have any tests on him but he is sure he doesn't have it. Everyone in my family including me have been double jabbed. Basically, my date has told me he has no intention of getting the vaccine, and doesn't even want to get tested. He just doesn't give a ****, and insists "I don't think I need it" which is selfish af to me, what about his grandparents? Mum and dad? I told him it shouldn't just be about what he wants, think of his family, but even knowing how anxious i am about this, my warnings about it, telling him a true story about a bodybuilder who died cos he refused the vaccine, he won't listen.

Should I even bother going on a date with this bloke? I feel like I could come home with the virus if I do. It's so **** cos I really liked him.
Go for the date and have a great time. All the best
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Go on the date. Don't let something this minor get in the way of a good match.

I've went on dates with girls who I thought were far too "woke" for my liking and really enjoyed them!
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There are many different shades of anti vaxxer. Even a decision not to get the vaccine doesn't mean that they're necessarily someone who you couldn't get on with. But in this situation the massive red flag for me is the refusal to even take a test, particularly given your mother's vulnerability. Quite apart from his stance on vaccines, that is a massive problem. I'd be cancelling if I were you.
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Go on the date. Don't let something this minor get in the way of a good match.

I've went on dates with girls who I thought were far too "woke" for my liking and really enjoyed them!
If she catches COVID from her date, and especially if her immune compromised mum then catches it from her, it'll stop being "something minor" in a hurry.
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Tell him you need to see a vaccine passport before you’ll go on a date with him. More seriously while I would be pretty suspicious of someone who doesn’t get vaccinated in current circumstances if I fancied them I’d probably still go for it and seek to influence.
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Go on the date. Don't let something this minor get in the way of a good match.

I've went on dates with girls who I thought were far too "woke" for my liking and really enjoyed them!
And even if that didn't happen, the fact that he's reckless as to whether it will, and doesn't seem to care about endangering her or her family, is a massive red flag.
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Depends on the person. If they are so opinionated and go on and on and on about it then yeah id sack them off. But red flag if he wont have a test and dont give a monkeys about passing it onto your mum, very 'caring' that.
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(Original post by girlywurly123)
Kinda feel like I'm being selfish too though cos of my feelings about it :/
No you're really not, you're just being sensible. But having reservations about this means you're getting cold feet, so if I were you I wouldn't top
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Kinda feel like I'm being selfish too though cos of my feelings about it :/
Not wanting to catch COVID and wanting to protect your vulnerable family members from it is not selfish, it's hugely sensible.
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Maybe separate someone’s political views from their character?
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Maybe separate someone’s political views from their character?
You'd don't think refusing to take a test before going on a date with someone whose mother is vulnerable to Covid speaks to someone's character?
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If she catches COVID from her date, and especially if her immune compromised mum then catches it from her, it'll stop being "something minor" in a hurry.
Ok, put the foot down on him getting tested regularly but don't press the vaccine matter. Being an anti vaxxer isn't that big of a deal, its just a political disagreement. Like a tory dating a lefty, people make it work all the time
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Honestly the state of society when this is apparently the most important thing in a relationship. As long as they aren’t going on and on about their political views, nor are they extreme and too opinionated it isn’t hard to be in a relationship with someone.
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Honestly the state of society when this is apparently the most important thing in a relationship. As long as they aren’t going on and on about their political views, nor are they extreme and too opinionated it isn’t hard to be in a relationship with someone.
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