Really underwhelmed with university

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Hey, i hope others can relate to me here.

I started uni two weeks ago, four days ago i moved accomodation to closer to my studies. I got on well with one of my old flatmates, but he dropped out in the first week. The others were really shy and one was an conspiracist (i really didn't like being around him), but i was 45 mins from my lectures and i made the decision to move.

In my new accomodation, my flatmates are all nothing like me. When ever i walk around the campus every one are like rich roadmen. Like this place feels like a bit of a nightmare. Moving in after freshers to my new new accomodation hasn't really let me socialise with any of them. For the days i've been here i've been locked in my room. My flat mates just aren't like me and i can't get on with them. I try to talk them but just can't get a conversation going. I feel really lonely like this and i don't know how i am going to even survive first semester.

I'd like to join clubs but their all next week and it's really hard to even wait till then. Anyone got any help?
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What does ‘rich roadmen’ even mean?
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What does ‘rich roadmen’ even mean?
Idek, like they all wear designer clothes and walk around with an east london accent.
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See if the student union are holding any events that you can attend?
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(Original post by jam1212)
Hey, i hope others can relate to me here.

I started uni two weeks ago, four days ago i moved accomodation to closer to my studies. I got on well with one of my old flatmates, but he dropped out in the first week. The others were really shy and one was an conspiracist (i really didn't like being around him), but i was 45 mins from my lectures and i made the decision to move.

In my new accomodation, my flatmates are all nothing like me. When ever i walk around the campus every one are like rich roadmen. Like this place feels like a bit of a nightmare. Moving in after freshers to my new new accomodation hasn't really let me socialise with any of them. For the days i've been here i've been locked in my room. My flat mates just aren't like me and i can't get on with them. I try to talk them but just can't get a conversation going. I feel really lonely like this and i don't know how i am going to even survive first semester.

I'd like to join clubs but their all next week and it's really hard to even wait till then. Anyone got any help?
I feel almost the same way as you do. I've also made 0 friends at Uni and many people around here are from London
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I feel almost the same way as you do. I've also made 0 friends at Uni and many people around here are from London
Yeah it feels pretty rough being here...
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(Original post by jam1212)
Hey, i hope others can relate to me here.

I started uni two weeks ago, four days ago i moved accomodation to closer to my studies. I got on well with one of my old flatmates, but he dropped out in the first week. The others were really shy and one was an conspiracist (i really didn't like being around him), but i was 45 mins from my lectures and i made the decision to move.

In my new accomodation, my flatmates are all nothing like me. When ever i walk around the campus every one are like rich roadmen. Like this place feels like a bit of a nightmare. Moving in after freshers to my new new accomodation hasn't really let me socialise with any of them. For the days i've been here i've been locked in my room. My flat mates just aren't like me and i can't get on with them. I try to talk them but just can't get a conversation going. I feel really lonely like this and i don't know how i am going to even survive first semester.

I'd like to join clubs but their all next week and it's really hard to even wait till then. Anyone got any help?
Hey there,

Finding friends at university isn't always easy - but, everyone is looking to do just that.

As you already know, the first people you'll meet at university will be your flatmates. These are a few random strangers that you've never met before, from all kinds of backgrounds from anywhere in the world. It is a bit of a dice roll - sometimes, people get on really well with all of their flatmates, some get on well with a few of your flatmates, and others will not get on what their flatmates at all and just try to remain civil throughout the year. In all cases, these are normal - and you're never alone in feeling like that.

The second group(s) of people you'll meet are those on your course. Everyone from the people you sit next to in lectures, to the people in your seminars, practical's etc. You'll meet a whole bunch of people here, and find people that you enjoy hanging out with, studying with etc. Even if your course hasn't fully started, there are likely Facebook groups, Discord servers and other online communities of people having a chat and organising meetups - see if you can hunt them down and go hang out!

The third group, which you've already hit on, is clubs and societies. Just like the people on your course, you've already got something in common with everyone there - you're interested in the common interest that the club/society is based around. You can also go to a whole bunch of free taster sessions and see which clubs/societies interest you the most / are the most fun.

Hopefully, through all the above, you'll find people that you enjoy spending time with. For some people, this is quick, some people may take longer. There's plenty of events ran throughout the year regardless of your university - take full advantage of every opportunity and I'm sure that you'll be having fun in no time!

Take care,
~ Mikael, UoP Student Rep
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Mate my course was all online last year and I made no friends
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(Original post by jam1212)
Hey, i hope others can relate to me here.

I started uni two weeks ago, four days ago i moved accomodation to closer to my studies. I got on well with one of my old flatmates, but he dropped out in the first week. The others were really shy and one was an conspiracist (i really didn't like being around him), but i was 45 mins from my lectures and i made the decision to move.

In my new accomodation, my flatmates are all nothing like me. When ever i walk around the campus every one are like rich roadmen. Like this place feels like a bit of a nightmare. Moving in after freshers to my new new accomodation hasn't really let me socialise with any of them. For the days i've been here i've been locked in my room. My flat mates just aren't like me and i can't get on with them. I try to talk them but just can't get a conversation going. I feel really lonely like this and i don't know how i am going to even survive first semester.

I'd like to join clubs but their all next week and it's really hard to even wait till then. Anyone got any help?
It's not been long, give it some time. Join some societies and such.
Also, how did you manage to get out of the first accommodation's tenancy agreement?
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It's not been long, give it some time. Join some societies and such.
Also, how did you manage to get out of the first accommodation's tenancy agreement?
Called up resident support and they said a £50 fee and that was it, I only had to pay for the weeks I was in the old accommodation.
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As an introvert, it's kind of surreal to see how different extraverts experience life and what problems you guys face.
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"rich roadmen" made my day

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As an introvert, it's kind of surreal to see how different extraverts experience life and what problems you guys face.
Ikr xD
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I understand what you’re talking about, it can make some people feel uncomfortable. Get involved with societies and your student union, join a club to make friends outside of your accommodation and course.
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