Want to drop out already

Hi, I'm in such a similar situation to you right now, apart from this is my second attempt at university. I have social anxiety and so a lot of the things that aren't too difficult for most people, are to me. For example, I find it difficult to talk to my flatmates, and I even listen for when it's quietest in the flat for when I go into the kitchen to cook, or even just to go the the toilet or take a shower! For me it's completely overwhelming too, I miss my family so much and like your are really close with them. I've already been looking at train tickets to go home which are too expensive, and I've even been searching for alternatives to university or possibly transferring to one closer to home. I'm also having doubts about the course I'm taking so the whole thing for me is just so confusing. The first time I went to uni I absolutely hated it, the whole situation was a mess; I felt uncomfortable around my flatmates, I don't drink (although not everybody does so don't let that sway your decision!), I wasn't too keen on the course or the university, I felt like I was only doing it because I didn't know what else to do, and so I knew that leaving was the best thing for me then. I was there for two weeks, so maybe that wasn't long enough to know for sure, but I have no regrets about leaving. This time around, I'm going to make myself stay for at least four or five weeks. This is because I like the university a lot more, my flatmates are nice people and I want to give the course a go before deciding it isn't right.
I would say that if you really want to leave in a few weeks (the first week is definitely the hardest) , then that's absolutely fine and there is nothing wrong with that! Quite a lot of people drop out of university so don't think you're the only one if you do. It seems like you are quite close with your parents and so I'm guessing they would be very supportive if you did. One thing I would ask is if you've considered the financial implications? For me when I left, I found it really hard to find someone to take over my tenancy, and because I was in a contract I had to do this which turned out to be a bit of a nightmare. Have you also thought about how it will affect your student finance options in the future if you were to go to university again? For me it all worked out ok in the end, but just make sure you consider all the affects of leaving. Oh and one more thing, try and make sure you have a plan for when you get back home if you do decide to leave, because I started to feel very low once I'd left and went back home as I had no direction. Have you considered doing an online degree like the OU, or maybe something like a degree apprenticeship if you can't transfer to a closer to home uni? Good Luck and I hope everything works out ok!

I've actually been considering getting an online degree recently while mulling over my options for if I did drop out, which is seeming more and morel ikely with every day that goes by. My dream life is just renting a flat with a friend while doing a degree and working full/part-time as I think living at a university and being treated as a student rather than an adult is what's bothering me the most, but I don't know how feasible my sort of 'ideal' situation is as I have absolutelely no idea on how to to make it happen.

Just wanted to say thank you for all the replies and advice. I honestly really appreciate it.

This evening I formally requested to drop out. I got the train home on Thursday and immediatly felt amazing. I woke up on Friday morning at home and started excercising, went to my local library, and started to look for jobs in town. I was suddenly motivated, and I feel like I can do anything here. After waking up that morning I knew I was much better off dropping out and having a gap year off. The moment I arrived at university I knew it wasn't for me and that I wasn't ready, and because I'm dropping out early I'm avoiding most financial consequences. That's one of the reasons I didn't want to stick it out - every day I'm there I'm putting myself into more and more debt. It isn't worth paying for something that was literally killing me from the inside out every single day.

My parents have been completely supportive of my decison, and I'm beyond grateful. I love them so so much.

I'm going to apply to some universities closer to home when UCAS applications open as I still want

Just wanted to say thank you for all the replies and advice. I honestly really appreciate it.

This evening I formally requested to drop out. I got the train home on Thursday and immediatly felt amazing. I woke up on Friday morning at home and started excercising, went to my local library, and started to look for jobs in town. I was suddenly motivated, and I feel like I can do anything here. After waking up that morning I knew I was much better off dropping out and having a gap year off. The moment I arrived at university I knew it wasn't for me and that I wasn't ready, and because I'm dropping out early I'm avoiding most financial consequences. That's one of the reasons I didn't want to stick it out - every day I'm there I'm putting myself into more and more debt. It isn't worth paying for something that was literally killing me from the inside out every single day.

My parents have been completely supportive of my decison, and I'm beyond grateful. I love them so so much.

I'm going to apply to some universities closer to home when UCAS applications open as I still want a degree, and if university life isn't for me I'm going to get an open university degree. Overall I'm happy with my decison, and that listening to my gut was and is the right thing to do.

I missed loads of fresher's events because I'd turn up, panic and leave.

To me, your dream situation doesn't seem impossible at all. If you wanted to work full time though, a part time degree would probably be better. If you worked part time, there is no reason you wouldn't be able to do a full time degree, as long as you manage your time well. Do you have a friend already renting somewhere? If you do, then why not ask them if you could move in with them? They would probably be happy to have their rent halved. If not, then maybe look for a cheap flat on your own, although this would be more expensive obviously so the working full time, studying part time would probably work better. If you did want to transfer to an online degree this year, student finance should just be able to transfer your loan over which would make life easier. Remember as well that some OU degrees have options to start in February, so you could always withdraw from your current course now and apply in a few months time.

Just wanted to say thank you for all the replies and advice. I honestly really appreciate it.

This evening I formally requested to drop out. I got the train home on Thursday and immediatly felt amazing. I woke up on Friday morning at home and started excercising, went to my local library, and started to look for jobs in town. I was suddenly motivated, and I feel like I can do anything here. After waking up that morning I knew I was much better off dropping out and having a gap year off. The moment I arrived at university I knew it wasn't for me and that I wasn't ready, and because I'm dropping out early I'm avoiding most financial consequences. That's one of the reasons I didn't want to stick it out - every day I'm there I'm putting myself into more and more debt. It isn't worth paying for something that was literally killing me from the inside out every single day.

My parents have been completely supportive of my decison, and I'm beyond grateful. I love them so so much.

I'm going to apply to some universities closer to home when UCAS applications open as I still want a degree, and if university life isn't for me I'm going to get an open university degree. Overall I'm happy with my decison, and that listening to my gut was and is the right thing to do.

Just wanted to say thank you for all the replies and advice. I honestly really appreciate it.

This evening I formally requested to drop out. I got the train home on Thursday and immediatly felt amazing. I woke up on Friday morning at home and started excercising, went to my local library, and started to look for jobs in town. I was suddenly motivated, and I feel like I can do anything here. After waking up that morning I knew I was much better off dropping out and having a gap year off. The moment I arrived at university I knew it wasn't for me and that I wasn't ready, and because I'm dropping out early I'm avoiding most financial consequences. That's one of the reasons I didn't want to stick it out - every day I'm there I'm putting myself into more and more debt. It isn't worth paying for something that was literally killing me from the inside out every single day.

My parents have been completely supportive of my decison, and I'm beyond grateful. I love them so so much.

I'm going to apply to some universities closer to home when UCAS applications open as I still want a degree, and if university life isn't for me I'm going to get an open university degree. Overall I'm happy with my decison, and that listening to my gut was and is the right thing to do.