What do I do if I hate uni?

I have been at uni just over 2 weeks so far and I thought I’d be enjoying myself however this is the most miserable I have ever been. I have made friends, been to clubs, parties and joined societies as well as talking to people in my lessons but I still feel so lonely. I hate it.
I feel like I have made no meaningful friendships, they all just want to drink, smoke and party which is not my scene. I like my course and I don’t want to drop out but I really hate it here and miss my family so much. I just want to be back at home.
I don’t know who to talk to as I don’t want to stress my parents out or annoy my ‘friends’ but I can’t even go home to visit as I live so far away.
What can I do?
Who do I talk to?

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

Welcome to unfortunate reality, the partying uni scene is not all it's hyped up to be. You can feel lonely sometimes, especially if these aren't close friends who you can talk to about such issues. But this is part of uni experience, you need to focus on studying. If ur struggling with depression and loneliness contact your student wellbeing services maybe they will help with counseling. My tip would be to find something you love doing alone, and trty to become deeper friends with a couple of people. Socialising on nights out/groups just is what it is it aint deep. Explore more activities like joining a volunteer group, picking up a hobby or finding a market/coffee shop you love going to alone. A good novel is everything for me. Cooking exciting new things. Wholesome sh** might be the remedy

Keele University

Keele

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hey! if you’re at Keele Uni (which I’m assuming you are by the location of this post?) student services are super helpful! i’m not sure where they’re located but if you want someone to talk to, just pop them an email - societies are also good and get better after the first few weeks (or so I’ve heard!)

as a sidenote, i’m starting Keele today as a transfer student and don’t know anyone on my course (bio!) either; if you want to talk to someone in a similar boat or just to know a friendly face you’re more than welcome to meet up with me :smile:

feel free to message me with your insta or something if you like!

Reply 4

StriderHort

I must admit your expectations sound pretty high. What EXACTLY do you hate, you don't really say?

You've been there 2 weeks, done some social stuff and made some initial friends... that's pretty much the limit of expectation here? You surely can't expect to form meaningful and deep friendships in a matter of days? (although in fairness I can see how some things might have gave you that idea)

IMO, as a mature/two time student, the social side of uni simply isn't what it was, habits and cultures change, people can bring their home lives with them digitally, For many uni is simply a place of study and work, nothing more... add onto that covid and the amount of students with disrupted lives or grieving.. it's easy to see why forming friendships is harder than it once was.

Reply 5

Aimeee22

I hate how far away I am from home. I miss everyone and everything and I just feel so lonely here at uni. I also hate the area my uni is in. The towns around are nasty and a 20 minute drive away at minimum. I feel lonely all the time and I just wish I was at home.

I admit I did have pretty high expectations but I have always been good at dealing with new situations and I don’t have anxiety or anything so have previously found making friends and adapting to a new environment fairly easy. I didn’t expect to be so alone and I didn’t think being away from home would effect me so much.

I just want to be able to give my parents a hug and talk to them face to face. Each time I think about them I just get more upset.

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