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Im a pakistani lad who lives in birmingham but studying at derby, i am really struggling to make/find freinds i talk to people but i never get the same energy back any tips and advice to talk to people more and socialise, im quiet and shy in lectures but in between breaks i try and ask ppl where they are from make general chat but i just cant get to where i want to i know its only the first few weeks but many people on my course already seem like they have found their freinds.
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Wouldn't worry about it. I was born here and people never give me the same energy or level of respect back, that's just human nature unfortunately. Focus on your lectures and work, gain some confidence, start speaking up for yourself when you don't like how someone is treated you and then maybe, you will attract some cool people. Best of luck to you
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Im a pakistani lad who lives in birmingham but studying at derby, i am really struggling to make/find freinds i talk to people but i never get the same energy back any tips and advice to talk to people more and socialise, im quiet and shy in lectures but in between breaks i try and ask ppl where they are from make general chat but i just cant get to where i want to i know its only the first few weeks but many people on my course already seem like they have found their freinds.
Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear that this has been your university experience so far

It sounds like you're doing the right thing chatting to people in between breaks and making small talk, I am sure that overtime people will see that you're really friendly! It doesn't help seeing a lot of people on your course making friends, but try not to compare yourself - as you never really know their situation. Everyone makes friends differently, and they may have known eachother from somewhere other than just the seminars - you never know!

Have you thought about joining any societies at all? This might be another great way to make friends, and find people who have the same interests as yourself. Have a look at your University website and see if any stand out to you

Try not to worry too much, it all comes with time, and sometimes people just aren't friendly back! All you can do is be the nicest person you can be, and I'm sure that overtime you'll make many great friends.

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Im a pakistani lad who lives in birmingham but studying at derby, i am really struggling to make/find freinds i talk to people but i never get the same energy back any tips and advice to talk to people more and socialise, im quiet and shy in lectures but in between breaks i try and ask ppl where they are from make general chat but i just cant get to where i want to i know its only the first few weeks but many people on my course already seem like they have found their freinds.
Hello

Im sorry to hear about the situation you find yourself in. University can bring a whole host of challenges and unfortunately making friends and meeting new people is one of them.

I wouldn't panic at this stage, as you said its only been a couple of weeks and you are studying there for atleast 3 years i assume. Thats plenty of time to make new connections. You mention trying to speak to people in lectures, but i've found that smaller seminar groups are where you'll meet people so i would try have those conversations with people there, instead of a massive lecture hall - its not easy to meet people there.

Have you looked into any societies or sports clubs? Im sure there would be something that interests you and through doing this you'll meet people with similar interests so you wont have to force conversations and rush making friends in lectures etc. University brings a wide variety of people together from different places, you'll meet people you never would have spoken to before and sometimes this can be a good thing!

I would just be patient with this one, i met some of my friends towards the end of second year, so it definitely is never too late to meet new people.

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Im a pakistani lad who lives in birmingham but studying at derby, i am really struggling to make/find freinds i talk to people but i never get the same energy back any tips and advice to talk to people more and socialise, im quiet and shy in lectures but in between breaks i try and ask ppl where they are from make general chat but i just cant get to where i want to i know its only the first few weeks but many people on my course already seem like they have found their freinds.
Hi :hello:
Everyone here is absolutely spot on.
Societies are really good places to build friendships.
So is the queue at Blends.
Be open to it always and it may happen at an unexpected time.
I was a slow starter socially when I went to uni (very shy) but now I have friends for life.
All the best.
^Toby
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