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I met a guy on a night out a few months ago and he seemed nice. He asked me out but I wasn't looking to date then. To be fair he had no way of knowing. I saw him again last weekend as we're both from the same area. I said hi. He seemed happy to see me but he seemed a little preoccupied too. He looked like he had lost weight and looked pretty good. The next day I sent him a message on Facebook and asked him if he would like to go for a drink. His response took me back.. "I'm flattered but why the change of heart?"
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I don’t think he was angry. I think anyone would want to know why you rejected them but then changed your mind. You could have also unintentionally given the impression that the only reason you like him now is because he lost weight. Maybe explain how you wasn’t looking to date at that time like you said
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Natural caution, perhaps a hint of resentment, from being rejected when he reached out. How are you going to answer?
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He doesn't sound angry but doesn't sound like he trusts that you suddenly became interested in him. He's probably not interested in just being a rebound for example.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I met a guy on a night out a few months ago and he seemed nice. He asked me out but I wasn't looking to date then. To be fair he had no way of knowing. I saw him again last weekend as we're both from the same area. I said hi. He seemed happy to see me but he seemed a little preoccupied too. He looked like he had lost weight and looked pretty good. The next day I sent him a message on Facebook and asked him if he would like to go for a drink. His response took me back.. "I'm flattered but why the change of heart?"
You have messed him about a bit by rejecting him then being interested. If this happened to you, wouldn't you want an explanation?

If he's flattered, that means he likes you! But, being human, he doesn't want to be messed about if you change your mind back again. Nobody likes being used, or being benched because nobody better has come along.

Please reassure him this is not the case, and show him he can trust you. Persuade him to go on that date, and enjoy what looks like being a promising relationship.
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He doesn’t sound angry but I’m sure anybody would want to know why someone suddenly changed their mind, especially if he thinks it might only be because of the weight loss. To me it sounds like he’s still interested but doesn’t want to be liked just because he’s convenient for you - I’d be the same, at least.
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