How do I find out if a girl has a boyfriend?

OP

Why would I ask her, that’d make things super awkward. People say this stuff is creepy but lots of people do this. You make it sound like I’m tracking her every move, looking into old family photos and all that bs lmao. I literally just looked at a few photos she took this year

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owenpritch

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Original post by Iownuk

I like one of my friends and we have great chemistry but she’s also just a very friendly and talkative person so that’s not proof she likes me. Anyway, I did some snooping on her social media and I can’t find anything that indicates she has a boyfriend. Shes in a couple photos with some guy but it could totally just be family or a family friend. But in all honesty, I can’t imagine a girl so funny, kind and good looking to be single for very long so I think it’s best to assume she’s in a relationship. I’ve known her for a month and not once has she talked about a boyfriend to me or our friend group. Her sister who I’m also friends with hasn’t mentioned her being in a relationship or anything either

Ask her. Worst care scenario, she says yes, and you don't lose anything

Reply 3

OP

Original post by owenpritch

Ask her. Worst care scenario, she says yes, and you don't lose anything

Actually she will know I like her if I’m asking her such an obvious question. Then if it turns out she does have a bf, she will know I like her and it’ll get awkward lmao

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GabiAbi84

Original post by Iownuk

I like one of my friends and we have great chemistry but she’s also just a very friendly and talkative person so that’s not proof she likes me. Anyway, I did some snooping on her social media and I can’t find anything that indicates she has a boyfriend. Shes in a couple photos with some guy but it could totally just be family or a family friend. But in all honesty, I can’t imagine a girl so funny, kind and good looking to be single for very long so I think it’s best to assume she’s in a relationship. I’ve known her for a month and not once has she talked about a boyfriend to me or our friend group. Her sister who I’m also friends with hasn’t mentioned her being in a relationship or anything either

As above, you ask her.
Stop snooping.
She’s your friend-it’s fairly easy to pop it into conversation like it’s no big deal.

You know what they say when you assume- only it’s all you.

Reply 5

OP

Original post by GabiAbi84

As above, you ask her.
Stop snooping.
She’s your friend-it’s fairly easy to pop it into conversation like it’s no big deal.

You know what they say when you assume- only it’s all you.

Yeah maybe but I’m not so charismatic and socially skilled that I can pull that off I think. I’ll probably just give it more time as I’ve only known her a month so I’ll find out eventually as she likes talking a lot haha

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username4591444

Original post by Iownuk

Actually she will know I like her if I’m asking her such an obvious question. Then if it turns out she does have a bf, she will know I like her and it’ll get awkward lmao

What's so shameful about her knowing you're interested? Ego should really not be so important it leads to all this complication.

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GabiAbi84

Original post by Iownuk

Yeah maybe but I’m not so charismatic and socially skilled that I can pull that off I think. I’ll probably just give it more time as I’ve only known her a month so I’ll find out eventually as she likes talking a lot haha

Oh well, you snooze you lose. 🤷🏼*♀️

Reply 8

OP

Original post by xxx0xxxo

What's so shameful about her knowing you're interested? Ego should really not be so important it leads to all this complication.

It not really ego, more like it could make our friendship kind of awkward if it turns out she does have a bf. I’m trying my best to not get attached to her because I think there’s a good chance she has a bf

Reply 9

OP

Original post by GabiAbi84

Oh well, you snooze you lose. 🤷🏼*♀️

I lose nothing this way tbf. Saves a friendship and potential embarrassment

Reply 10

GabiAbi84

Original post by Iownuk

I lose nothing this way tbf. Saves a friendship and potential embarrassment

You lose the potential gain.
But if you’d already decided you were going to do nothing-why did you ask?

Reply 11

OP

Original post by GabiAbi84

You lose the potential gain.
But if you’d already decided you were going to do nothing-why did you ask?

That’s a good question. I guess I was hoping someone could tell me of a socially acceptable way to ask her if she has a boyfriend without the implication that I like her

Reply 12

username5714630

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Hire a private investigator.
The best ones always have a long waist coat, fedora, aviators and a cigarette. Bonus points if they only speak to you when its dark.

Reply 13

Zarek

Agree it not great asking directly, it’s sort of presumptuous that if not she’s available and awkward if she has. Maybe just flirt a bit more and see if its returned. Or innocently ask someone in the friendship group, or invite her to a group event and say bring your partner too

Reply 14

username4591444

Original post by Iownuk

It not really ego, more like it could make our friendship kind of awkward if it turns out she does have a bf. I’m trying my best to not get attached to her because I think there’s a good chance she has a bf

It already sounds awkward because you like her at least things can be honest

Is it necessary?

Ask her whilst you're having a casual conversation with her how I broke the question was like this:

Hey Nora! How are you today? Wow! Mike and Sarah are going out at the moment? They look so cuteeeeee do you have a boyfriend Nora are you too close like that?

And that is how I found out that Nora did have a boyfriend :smile:

what is awkward about that if you are just adding it into the conversation?
Go get her Tiger!
:nyan:

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username5613084

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Original post by Iownuk

I like one of my friends and we have great chemistry but she’s also just a very friendly and talkative person so that’s not proof she likes me. Anyway, I did some snooping on her social media and I can’t find anything that indicates she has a boyfriend. Shes in a couple photos with some guy but it could totally just be family or a family friend. But in all honesty, I can’t imagine a girl so funny, kind and good looking to be single for very long so I think it’s best to assume she’s in a relationship. I’ve known her for a month and not once has she talked about a boyfriend to me or our friend group. Her sister who I’m also friends with hasn’t mentioned her being in a relationship or anything either

Ask her indirectly like this

Oh ur *insert name*’s girl no?

See if she don’t have a man she’ll say “no 😅 I don’t have a boyfriend” however if she does she’ll say that’s not my boyfriend

Boom
I made that up btw, good eh 😌👈🏽🤣✌️

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OP