Turned off by her now that I found out she sleeps around

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I went on a date with this girl a week ago and it really went well. We went to the cinema and then went to Nandos and had a good time. But I found out yesterday after our second date that she sleeps around a lot which has really turned me off. She messaged me on Snapchat asking about my sex history and what not after telling me that she's had sex many times even with guys she's not in a relationship with or have been with. I told her I've never had sex which kinda shocked her but at 18 surely mostly guys are still virgins anyways. But yeah I dont wanna continue with her no more and I have no idea how I'm going to end it with her as I don't wanna continue with someone like that especially when I've never even had sex myself. I only would in a relationship really so its clear we aren't compatible. Should I just say I'm not feeling it anymore?
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Yup, that’s all there is to it.
Tell her you’re not interested and end it if that’s how you feel.
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Yup, that’s all there is to it.
Tell her you’re not interested and end it if that’s how you feel.
What if she says why? How do I reply to that?
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What if she says why? How do I reply to that?
Don’t really know tbh as I’m not entirely sure why her having slept with other people is “putting you off” but better that you tell her now rather than mess her about.
You’ve only had two dates, it’s not like there’s much to it.
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I went on a date with this girl a week ago and it really went well. We went to the cinema and then went to Nandos and had a good time. But I found out yesterday after our second date that she sleeps around a lot which has really turned me off. She messaged me on Snapchat asking about my sex history and what not after telling me that she's had sex many times even with guys she's not in a relationship with or have been with. I told her I've never had sex which kinda shocked her but at 18 surely mostly guys are still virgins anyways. But yeah I dont wanna continue with her no more and I have no idea how I'm going to end it with her as I don't wanna continue with someone like that especially when I've never even had sex myself. I only would in a relationship really so its clear we aren't compatible. Should I just say I'm not feeling it anymore?
Please don't make that mistake. If you have a virgin and want to lose it, you have a decent opportunity here.

You are young, so you should remain flexible. Good luck.
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Don’t really know tbh as I’m not entirely sure why her having slept with other people is “putting you off” but better that you tell her now rather than mess her about.
You’ve only had two dates, it’s not like there’s much to it.
Because I don't find it attractive, thats why it has pm. And I don't sleep around so why would I want a partner that does?
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Because I don't find it attractive, thats why it has pm. And I don't sleep around so why would I want a partner that does?
Mate, you are 18.
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Please don't make that mistake. If you have a virgin and want to lose it, you have a decent opportunity here.

You are young, so you should remain flexible. Good luck.
I'm not bothered about losing my virginity. There's been many times where I could've but chose not to. At a party a girl tried taking me to her room and doing it there but I chose not to. I'm not looking for quick sex man. I'm just looking for a relationship and I only really wanna have sex with the girls I date, not just any girl.
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Because I don't find it attractive, thats why it has pm. And I don't sleep around so why would I want a partner that does?
Because what does it matter whether they have in the past as long as they’re not when they’re with you. And I don’t really get what would be “unattractive” about that but you do you.

But anyways, like I said-just let her know you’re not interested.
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Mate, you are 18.
I know I am. I just don't find it attractive though and I'm not bothered about losing my virginity. If I cared enough I would've lost it at one of the parties I went to. I want to lose it to my first girlfriend, not to any girl like I said.
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I'm not bothered about losing my virginity. There's been many times where I could've but chose not to. At a party a girl tried taking me to her room and doing it there but I chose not to. I'm not looking for quick sex man. I'm just looking for a relationship and I only really wanna have sex with the girls I date, not just any girl.
That’s fair and I respect that but think about it before making your decision. Regret is worse than failure.
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Because what does it matter whether they have in the past as long as they’re not when they’re with you. And I don’t really get what would be “unattractive” about that but you do you.

But anyways, like I said-just let her know you’re not interested.
I don't want it, its just my preference really. Not to mention increased chance of STDs and what not. And she would be more likely to cheat. But yeah even if she didn't have STDs and wouldn't cheat, I just don't want a partner that sleeps around. I don't do it so I don't think there's anything wrong in not wanting a partner to either.
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I know I am. I just don't find it attractive though and I'm not bothered about losing my virginity. If I cared enough I would've lost it at one of the parties I went to. I want to lose it to my first girlfriend, not to any girl like I said.
All the best
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That’s fair and I respect that but think about it before making your decision. Regret is worse than failure.
Trust me bro, I've thought long enough. I don't just wanna lose it to any girl. I just wanna lose it to my first long term partner.
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All the best
Thanks. Same to you.
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Trust me bro, I've thought long enough. I don't just wanna lose it to any girl. I just wanna lose it to my first long term partner.
If that’s what you want.
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I don't want it, its just my preference really. Not to mention increased chance of STDs and what not. And she would be more likely to cheat. But yeah even if she didn't have STDs and wouldn't cheat, I just don't want a partner that sleeps around. I don't do it so I don't think there's anything wrong in not wanting a partner to either.
Then you’ve made your choice, let her go so she doesn’t waste any more time with you.

I’m not sure what the point of the thread was tbh-you’ve already decided you don’t want to be with her, no ones forcing you to be with her. You’ve literally been on two dates-not like it’s a big thing to call it off.

(And people who “sleep around” are not more likely to cheat but that’s by the by)
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Then you’ve made your choice, let her go so she doesn’t waste any more time with you.

(And people who “sleep around” are not more likely to cheat but that’s by the by)
They definitely are more likely to cheat tbf simply because they'll have sex with a person they aren't pursuing a long term relationship with. That means they are far more likely to do it in a relationship because they have out of them.
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They definitely are more likely to cheat tbf simply because they'll have sex with a person they aren't pursuing a long term relationship with. That means they are far more likely to do it in a relationship because they have out of them.
Not true, but if that’s what you think then that’s on you.
People who cheat are more likely to cheat.
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They definitely are more likely to cheat tbf simply because they'll have sex with a person they aren't pursuing a long term relationship with. That means they are far more likely to do it in a relationship because they have out of them.
This is nonsense and it really betrays your youth and inexperience

You have your preference, fine. Don't rationalise it with falsehoods
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